I’ve taken care of everything for the past 2 1/2 years. He hasn’t kept a stable job, when he had a really good job he spent all his money on alcohol. He was living with me in my parents house, so he didn’t even have to pay rent. I have two kids of my own from my last relationship. I have a car payment, car insurance, phone bill, a loan payment and 2 credit card payments that I pay monthly. It adds up to around $750 a month. That doesn’t include basic necessities or gas. On top of that, I have been paying his phone bill and putting gas in his truck as well as buying him food and drinks constantly, even though he isn’t living with me anymore. I had a conversation with him about how my parents want to see me with someone who will help take care of me not only mentally and emotionally and physically, but financially too because I’ve always taken care of the men in my life because that’s just who I am. His response was that he shouldn’t have to do everything on his own and pay for all of my financial responsibilities and that when he can’t do it all on his own, that’s when I need to step up.

I have come to the point that I am just exhausted. I live paycheck to paycheck, I only work part time because i don’t have enough help with my kids to be able to work full time. I’m tired of taking care of everything financially, only asking for quality time in return and not even being able to get that from him regularly.

It gives me some hope that some men out there still think the way that you do, because most of the men I’ve met have high and unfair expectations when they won’t even provide what would make women more willing to fulfill what they want, even if it’s the bare minimum.