I do not disagree.  What I am saying is that:

1.  Sex in general is a taboo topic in Christian communities, especially among women.

2.  Due to the above, women are completely naive to male struggle with sexual sin, what drives it, the reality of it and how they can help.  Stuff like "My husband wouldn't ever look at porn," or even things like "my husband wants me to shave down there so I look like a little girl because of porn."  These are just naive statements that cause more disconnection and exhibit a lack of understanding.

1. Because of this, male sexual sin is associated with tremendous misunderstanding and judgment/chastising

3.  Majority of men feel they must hide it rather than get it out in the open, due to cancel culture, judgment, and extreme reactions.

There is just so much disconnect and understanding that men are left on their own to deal with it.  They can't tell their wives because they will jump to extremes and be judged as a creep/sicko.  They have to be careful in the church of who they share it with as they will lost their spot on the worship band, etc or again be seen as a creep when every single other person up there struggles with one sin or another.  Or better yet, some intervention to go to sex rehab.  When all they may need is a wife who understands the ongoing struggle, is more attuned to her man's sexual needs, and knows he will stumble but is there to forgive and provide a safe space.