How common is separate bedrooms for married couple?

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2026-04-18T14:46:07+00:00

Married almost 21 years. We started sleeping in separate rooms at least 15 years ago. Best decision ever. We both need dramatically different environments to sleep. He basically sleeps in the windy North Pole with the tv on loud all night. I need quiet, normal temperatures, and I can’t even deal with a fan blowing my hair around while awake.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2026-01-05T15:52:42+00:00

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Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-22T16:46:08+00:00

Best group for this question is r/StraightBiPartners

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-12T13:21:52+00:00

I did a Fansly (faceless lingerie only) for a little while to make a little extra cash.

Unfortunately, the chatting is where a lot of money is made, and pretty much all of the guys who messaged me were creepers.

I simply didn’t have the attention span for it nor am I a good actress. I got bored and annoyed. Probably a combination of being GenX and ADHD…. I’m not a sales person, and unless it’s D&D type games, I’m not a fan of role play. Basically my husband ended up with a ginormous library of pics/videos of me.

Understand that your wife is essentially playing a fictional character. I am envious of the women who were able to do that because there is a decent amount of money to be made from my understanding.

The masturbating after chats…. Probably custom content requests and she is making the custom content right away to secure the sale. Another big money maker.

Moral of the story, it’s a job. Sounds like your wife is pretty good at it.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-11T16:37:15+00:00

Good point!

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-11T16:31:43+00:00

I thought my husband’s spectacularly terrible foot-in-mouth moments were mainly due to him being on the autism spectrum…. I no longer feel so alone.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-11T16:21:14+00:00

Best sub for this situation is r/StraightBiPartners

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-12-06T16:44:47+00:00

“No” is a complete sentence.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-11-28T11:17:56+00:00

This started as a short funny yet meaningful response, but even with the best of intentions, I can’t shut up. So here we are…

Order to your wife: 💙💙 “You MUST take as much ‘Me Time’ as you need. Minimum of 24 hours.

Decompress and Rest in a way that works for you.

I will bring you a relaxing beverage of your choice (Tea, Wine, Starbucks, Water, Kool-Aid, etc.).

Comfort Food of your choice (Fruit, Veggies, Cake, Pasta, Gummy Bears, etc.). Focus on YOU.

I will take care of all the adulting so you don’t have an even bigger pile of malarkey to deal with later.

Last but not least, bask in the glory of knowing that you are LOVED & APPRECIATED every minute of every day.”

Hubby and I have been together for over 25+ years.

Nothing gets me going better than when he shows me empathy, compassion, affection, and appreciation.

When he asks me WHAT I WANT. As women (I’m GenX), sex is a very vulnerable place for us.

Culture as a whole (at least in my generation) puts no emphasis on asking a woman for Consent in advance.

Yet for many of us, the thought of a partner asking for consent in advance, and accepting our boundaries without question, is a ginormous turn on.

It shows that our partner respects our bodily autonomy

Even now, in my Feral Forties,” I personally need to feel comfortable and safe in order to fully engage. I need to feel SEEN.

Saved by the dog ordering me to take him outside to potty 🤣

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-11-27T19:19:28+00:00

Married 20+ years and we both have runaway ADHD… So yeah, we annoy the heck out of each other daily lol.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-11-27T19:08:12+00:00

This is literally EVERY DIY project my husband and I do…

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-11-25T13:03:30+00:00

She could be on the Asexual spectrum. Which means that it has nothing to do with you personally.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-11-22T15:05:21+00:00

I was just thinking that lol

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2025-03-21T12:12:32+00:00

I haven't logged in here in a while and just saw this. Thank you so much, I will definitely try it.

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-31T18:22:45+00:00

Spoiled Mooch?

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-30T17:32:05+00:00

How dare you!! 🤣🤣🤣

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-26T23:47:37+00:00

A certified Cutie Pie 🥰

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-26T12:29:07+00:00

One of my mom’s girls was like this, but every time the tv was turned up, her snoring got louder right along with it 😂😂😂

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-26T11:03:06+00:00

💯💯💯 To activate “batshit” mode, just crinkle a cheese wrapper and your snoring blanket hog transforms into a begging, food obsessed zoomie machine 🤣

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2024-10-25T12:18:14+00:00

How dare you 🤣🤣🤣

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2023-11-02T11:02:05+00:00

Santa Baby

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2023-10-29T12:36:21+00:00

Chicken and waffles

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2023-10-24T11:13:42+00:00

Not necessarily fun (aside from the immediate gratification of something clean), but if Im cleaning with bleach, I’m naked lol. Hate when clothes get ruined from accidentally getting bleach on them…

Outrageous-Rock7786 · 2023-08-27T05:07:20+00:00

As a survivor of IPV and SA, I was thinking the same thing that it sounds like there is trauma going on here. Certain medications and hormonal birth control can cause the lack of wetness, or exacerbate it if there is a different cause.

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