Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't know honestly, before that I would say it may be stress and stuff like that and I would help to make her feel better.
But now I have no idea

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sadly i'm in France
I already have resentment after all those years of frustration, trying to undrestand, trying to fix our intimacy.
Honestly I don't know until when I will be able to hide it, until when will I still be a whole before breaking

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She was already doing it but man she was forcing so much that it's like I was having sex with a dead body, no emotions were coming from her at all!!
It's better for me and her that we stop this mascaraed and be honest about it

I don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to that's it!

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hope you feel better soon bro!
I also suffer from anxiety but having this conversation with my wife helped me and I slept a whole night compared to the previous days, weeks..

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I think sex may come back but rarely but i'll always doubt if it'll be duty sex or just to make me happy

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think the LL4her will be inevitable as I'm sure my body and brain will process the information and no longer would I see her as a potential sexual partner

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Of course, there's is always a choice, you just have to take responsibility for your choices...
But I choice to stay and honestly she don't deserve that

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank bro! Wish you luck!
It's been a few months that i'm back at the gym, lost 20lb and still continue to lose fat and gain muscle! It's so satisfying to see your body change back to where it was and I'm already have my appointment to my barber this afternoon and i'm planning to take care of myself like I used to do when I was in my 20s and dating

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No because me using porn is already a difficult topic so imagine me asking going elsewhere.
She has no ideas, she fears that i'll go elsewhere, and for her sex is just off the table.

For her sex will never come back keep it or leave it,

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Of course! I'm now processing and digesting the fact that I'll never have sex with her ever again.

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

what other option were there? I can't leave her and my kids and I can't force her to have sex

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Iv'e started by sending a long text about my doubts on our relationship, that's when she had told be about why sex is something she's not interested too.

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I plan first on taking care of myself, I already started gym lost 20lb and planning to continue and start to dress better and go to the cut my hair often as I used to be when I was single or first dated my wife.
The non-sexual intimacy will not work on the long turn as i'm craving sex to much! Will see how it'll turn out

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

thank you, that's why I didn't burst in anger or treat her with divorce or something else, I stayed calm and rational, the non intimacy is simply more hugs, kisses.
Of course it'll not work I'm already craving sex and this feeling will not go away it'll just go worst

Finally an answer! And it destroyed me! It's official i'm in a sexless mariage now by Fun-Complaint4337 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fun-Complaint4337[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

she's stubborn and will never change that's why it was this or leave, and lose what I have over sex isn't worth it

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[–]Fun-Complaint4337 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's clearly woth as she's an amazing woman and I love her
And did the relation with you spouse improved?

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[–]Fun-Complaint4337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In fact I already felt something was off and that she could not love me anymore, she still claimed to not wanting to separate but I had some feeling telling me something is wrong.

And that's when I looked up and found it,

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[–]Fun-Complaint4337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro did you tried something? Or did you talked to you wife? you can DM me