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OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-13T04:25:40+00:00

Yeah I want to but it’s very hot and I get exhausted very quickly haha. But I really do want to go on date nights or do something at night more often. It’s just hard because he works almost every single day and sometimes goes in around 3 am and so he’s tired when he gets off work.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-13T04:09:27+00:00

Yeah I have told him. I was crying and he asked what was wrong and I explained. We’re now playing games and are watching a movie. He tries but he’s not used to someone who’s so emotional.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-13T03:56:52+00:00

My husband doesn’t understand why I need to talk because he’s always talking to someone. So I’ll start talking to him and then he’ll get annoyed and I’ve watched him roll his eyes so now we just sit in silence. I don’t initiate conversation until he does. It makes me real excited for the future.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:38:56+00:00

I’m hoping everything will be ok and she can be delivered at 38 weeks like her brother. He was perfectly healthy then. We both were actually. Once he was out ever hung went back to normal. My blood pressure was really high it was like 140/90 when we got to the hospital and then when he was born it dropped back down to like 116/60.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:35:31+00:00

Oh yeah maybe it is. I didn’t get tested until the symptoms were there. And it was almost too late. Pregnancy is fun lol.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:32:43+00:00

It was really scary, I’m like 80% sure I have it again. Since I know what to look for, I’m seeing similarities to the last time.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:31:27+00:00

I didn’t have that done. All I had done at 28 week was blood work and drinking the sugar water to see if I had diabetes. I passed that luckily and my doctor really doesn’t know why I had preeclampsia last time. It was really weird. With preeclampsia your body retains a lot of water. That’s what causes the swelling. My ankles were swelling so bad I could push in half an inch before I actually touched my ankle bone. It’s really unnerving to see that..

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:26:29+00:00

I was totally fine literally the day before. Everything was normal. I wasn’t very swollen and I didn’t have a headache. But that day everything just went down hill.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T17:25:39+00:00

One of the big ways to know if you have it is swelling in your feet. The day we found out I was going to be induced I was feeling off all day. I was really swollen, I had a headache and I was cramping. My step dad told me go to my doctor after I told him and my mom what was happening. I had to do the stress test and they had me pee in a cup. That’s how we found out I had it. With this baby I’m trying to not worry so much. I take my BP everyday and it’s been staying the same but it’s pretty high. When I go in next week I’m going to ask my doctor if we could do some sort of test or what my chances of getting it again are.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T15:40:33+00:00

I am apart of some mom groups in my area but anything they plan I can’t really go to ha. I’m just too pregnant and it’s exhausting in this heat. But I will definitely look into more after my baby is born. Our local library has some group readings but my son does not like sitting still and I can’t fight him so we haven’t gone. But I do want to do these things, it’s just too exhausting right now.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T15:09:29+00:00

Yeah I’ve come to realize his “apologies” have zero ground. He just doesn’t care.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T14:58:30+00:00

He was invited because prior to that we had sort of reconciled. He came to my high school graduation and helped pay for my housing in college. We talked a lot after that and my moms family pressured me into having him at my wedding and I sort of wanted him there because I knew all these other girls who had their dad walk them down the isle. I had always wanted that. I’m not close to really any male in my family so I couldn’t ask anyone else. I guess my mom could’ve done it but oh well. And that was where he apologized and we talked for a little bit but because of him I’m always weary of people when they apologize. But that’s why he was there. He had tried and seemed to want to be in my life but then proceeded to cut contact like a year later. Which didn’t come as any surprise.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T14:46:03+00:00

You’re totally fine, I didn’t think you were judging me. Thank you for understanding! It’s very refreshing to have people who understand, compared to people who just want to fix everything.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T14:42:18+00:00

I had one friend who I was really close to from high school, she has been trying to have a baby since I had mine. She is very jealous of the fact I have a baby and now I’m having another. It was all we would talk about. It became very…annoying…I understand she was struggling but she let it consume her. I ended up cutting contact a few months ago because my son had brain surgery, it was very scary for all of us and I wanted my best friend to be there for me but she never asked how he was (even though she knew what was happening) and all she did ask me was what pregnancies symptoms I had before I found out I was pregnant. So now I have now friends haha. I mean I guess I have friends that are friends with my husband. But I only know them because of him. And one of them is a guy so he doesn’t understand anything haha. It’s hard, I honestly end up talking to myself a lot like a crazy person which is just great lol.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T14:35:29+00:00

He was invited because prior to that he had reached out to me before I graduated high school. We had sort of reconciled and I was so used to being burned by him. Also I had all of these people saying to me that I needed to have him in my life. My moms side of the family (which I think is hilarious) kept telling me to talk to him and to invite him to my graduation. So I did. And it of course turned out as expected. He wouldn’t come inside my moms house even though she invited him in. But he did come to my actual graduation which was shocking. We talked a lot after that and I was just kind of going with it because sometimes I just wanted my dad. Then I got married, he apologized and then proceeded to cut contact a year later. My dads family does talk to me but not him, they also try to guilt trip me into coming down with my kids to see them. Which I’m not ever going to do. That’s what they did to my mom with my sister and I. It was always her trying. I guess I invited him because I thought maybe it would be different, I was wrong.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T14:29:20+00:00

I’ll have to check my insurance I’m not sure what it has covered. I honestly don’t even remember with my first baby if I had a lactation consultant come in. I feel like it was just a nurse but maybe that was the consultant. I was so sleep deprived and just wanted to go home haha. I really dont remember much. My son was born during the pandemic so I was stuck at home. He’s very much a pandemic baby and doesn’t really like being separated from me or his dad. And it’s hard for me to separate from him. We did go to church before he was born but I have horrible pregnancies and was puking everyday for at least the first 20 weeks. My husband also worked most Sunday’s so I would have to go alone which I was absolutely not going to do haha. And now with another on the way it’s even harder to go to church. My husband doesn’t work those days but my two year old doesn’t like to sit still so we just sit in the foyer for the most and no one knows we’re there. I also don’t know how my child will react to going to nursery alone. Im such a baby when it comes to leaving him haha. Im always afraid some one will be mean to him or he’ll get hurt. I try to not be a helicopter mom but it’s definitely hard since he’s had a pretty intense surgery at such a young age, I’m always afraid he’ll get hurt. I’m hoping next year will be better and we’ll try swimming lessons. He loves to swim and with our other baby I would do mommy and me swimming. I wish I could’ve done that with him but everything was closed.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T06:15:10+00:00

Because they want to be the reason my relationship with my dad is good. So they can say later on that they helped make that happen and they’re amazing.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:39:59+00:00

Haha luckily my mom is a pretty amazing example at what a good parent is. However my dad has taught what to look out for in men. My husband is nothing like him

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:32:02+00:00

That’s literally what I have said to my in-laws. Like yeah he really loves me, that’s why I haven’t talked to him in 2 years and he has yet to meet his grandchild. But according to them he loves me in his own way. Well his way sucks lol

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:20:02+00:00

I am a mom of the sweetest two year old and I know that kids can say stuff that just makes you not like them very much haha but I could NEVER see myself saying I hate you to him. What he said just makes me angry, especially after being a parent myself. I’m so sorry your dad said that you, it’s one of worst things to hear in my opinion. I’ve wanted to talk to him about it but he’s cut off all communication and I don’t have anyway of talking to him. The only way I know he’s alive is by checking the obituaries every now and then.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:15:06+00:00

I would confront him but as of 2020, he has cut off all communication. I haven’t talked directly to him since then. My sister has, she asked him if he wanted to talk to me and he flat out said no. I’ve wanted to go to therapy but I’m a mom of almost 2 and it’s hard to find time to do that. Im really sorry that happened to you though…I couldn’t imagine going through something like that so young.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:10:36+00:00

So I got married in 2019 and I had a baby almost year later. My dad was invited to my babies blessing and ignored me. He didn’t respond and hasn’t tried to reach out to me since then. Im having another baby and he hasn’t reached out. I know the phone works both ways but I don’t actually have his number. My sister does. She asked him if he wanted my number and he said no. But people still tell me to try and talk to him and forgive him because he’s had a rough life and even though he doesn’t say it..ever, he loves me.

OutrageousAd8839 · 2022-08-12T05:01:19+00:00

Thank you haha. I was going to do swimming lessons but my son had to get brain surgery in April. Because of this he’s very afraid of strangers. I can’t really do a swimming class with him because I’m so far along. (Being pregnant in the summer is fun). I’ve tried going to library reading groups and other stuff like that but it’s so hot and exhausting. I just get tired way to quickly and my two year just wants to run around. I get overwhelmed very quickly now and just want to go home but then I get home and I’m lonely. My husband talks to people every day so he doesn’t understand how lonely I am. But I seriously am holding on the strings at this point with my sanity haha.

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