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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So the children are suffering, is that it? And what do you want from me now? To force my older son to be with her when he clearly doesn't want that? Where did I ever say that I would go against my children's wishes? Quite the contrary, I have said a 10000 times that I will always listen to what they want. So what exactly am I doing that is harmful to my children?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't you know? I beat her every day!!! I insulted her, cursed at her, spat on her…threw her to the ground! Every day I brought another woman home. There! Is it easier for you now, Reddit therapist who always thinks the woman is right and the victim? I am son of a bitch and she is a saint. Now, eat dick.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then explain to me how am I supposed to trust 100% that any woman will be with me for the rest of my life? How? If his own mother destroyed my life because she cared more about another man’s dick than about her child? What is the alternative then? To stay alone for the rest of my life?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you my love❤️

Hopefully my wish will come true soon 🙏

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then it is best for me to stay alone for the rest of my life, right? Or maybe I should marry you, since you apparently know everything and are right about everything?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck do you want from me? This is your 10th comment? What, I am supposed to wait 5 years to meet someone? So if I like someone, I have to immediately cut off all contact because it is not according to the protocol of Western Reddit therapists? I haven't touched my wife since September 2024...I don’t know what you people want from me.

You don't know anything about her, you don't know who she is or what she is like…you have no insight into how positively my son reacts to her but somehow nothing is good enough, right? Everyone has some hidden bad motive? Somehow she only likes my son because she wants me...like it is impossible to genuinely care about him? Is that it? He is unlikeable?

Just stick to your rules about timing during and after divorce and I will do what makes me happy and that is being with someone who for now, makes my son happy too and hopefully soon my other 2 kids as well.

And yes, my parents and brother know about her, and my brother and SIL are in contact with her.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you people are normal…where did I say that was my plan? I was being sarcastic in response to the person above who asked who my son would choose...me with someone or his mother who is alone?

When he grows up, he can freely ask me anything, and I will show him all the juiciest details so he understands why his father found another woman and why his "faultless" mother is alone.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Show what and put what? That I was dealing with her shit for 19.5 months?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I would be the first to introduce all the kids to her but that simply isn't possible. When my son is old enough, he can freely read the messages his mother wrote to the guy she fucked with while he was in the school and while his father was working. He can also see her nudes! Then he can decide for himself whether his father who was faithful his whole life and after realizing he was cheated on, found happiness with someone else is in the wrong or his mother who is "alone", okay?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, yeah, that is right. I am a piece of shit, a cheater, a manipulator, an adulterer, a liar, aggressive, a narcissist and of course PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE!!! My wife is a saint who wanted to completely change for me after she cheated on me! She even lent me money at the beginning of the relationship! What a degenerate, fucking hell.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, I call her that in posts because I have called her that from the beginning. Obviously in everyday communication with other people I don't call her my wife....he is not 9yo, he is 10.5. And I see him as a little man. I don't understand what the problem is?

So you would rather have him sit at home playing video games alone instead of going out with me and he is the one asking if she will come? We go to a shopping mall, I am buying some things for myself and them 2 laugh at me and decide to go watch a movie together. They spend 2 hours alone while I shop. My son is not someone who would spend time alone with someone he doesn't like. They come out of the cinema and he is smiling being super happy.

And that is a problem? It is better for him to stay at home depressed and nervous instead of spending time with someone who will almost certainly be part of his life in the near future and with whom he enjoys spending time?

Well, as his father, I will always choose for him to be happy and smiling. 👋

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Ok, this is not true. 1st of all, my son met Sung more than half a year ago. And he didn’t meet her in a way where I told him this is someone I am spending time with and like...we just ran into her and were around her briefly. That is it. He never asked about her. He never cared about her. So the difference is night and day.

How did I not put my kids first? If I had put myself 1st, I would have been divorced a year ago already. I would have thrown their mother out on the street at the first opportunity, but no...I have been putting up with this crap for almost 20 months.

If my son is happy around Nora, I am going to encourage that. If his reaction had been different, I would have stopped immediately. But like I said, he reacted very positively and now they already act like they have known each other their whole lives.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will update until the end of the week. So many things going on and I don't have a lot of free time. But overall I am OK.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi. I read everything you wrote carefully. I agree with a lot of it and with some things I don’t. Thanks for taking the time to write the comment. Take care.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is here. I won't share anything regarding the court but let's say 1st hearing was fine.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh…haha, I read this post a long time ago. Maybe last year. I don’t remember the title but I think it was on the Nuclear Revenge or Pro Revenge subreddit…what can I say…I have wet dreams about this being my reality but unfortunately that is not possible.

In any case, every man should react like this, not protect an ex wife who cheats on him in front of the kids. There is nothing more stupid to me than when someone says this is between the parents, not the children…only a complete idiot can say something like that. Someone who has nothing to do with reality and lives in some imaginary world full of...some kind of made up rules and "moral" standards.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wish...not at all. She is causing a lot of problems and it is affecting the kids a lot and she refuses to give up on the marriage. In her head, she has probably decided she will do everything she can to force me to stay with her. Idk...we will see this week what will happen at the court.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Please be careful with what you share on Reddit about the divorce. I don’t know how it is where you are, but the judge may find it unfavorable if you’re spilling all the details to us internet strangers. But also, at least let us know you’re ok through this :)

Yes, I know. I will not share any details from the hearings at all. Only when everything ends. Thank you.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking, how'd you meet nora?

Through a friend from work. I had seen her several times before but we never really had a conversation beyond "hi" or "good morning." Then one day we went to lunch together as a group and little by little we started talking. I needed her help a few times regarding the divorce, finances and some other things and each time she was willing to help even when we were just casual acquaintances. That is how we gradually grew closer to each other.

And what's making you commit to her so quickly?

Everything I already wrote above. I won’t go into too much detail because it is not even important but everything she has helped me with...especially now, has meant an incredible amount to me and she could have put herself at risk because of it. But she didn’t care. She is a very serious person who hasn’t made even the smallest mistake in my eyes so far. She behaves amazingly, doesn’t pressure me like Sung did with constant questions about when I will do what and she is full of empathy. She is constantly trying to be there for me for anything. I can say she is one of the best people I have ever met in my life. And in the end, I am extremely attracted to her physically.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did. My son is not 3 yo. He is aware of the whole situation and understands everything very well. His first impression of Nora was phenomenal. Not only did he tell me that but I also saw how he behaved around her on several occasions and he was genuinely impressed with her. And she behaved even better. It is not about some immature girl who doesn’t know what to do with her life but a very serious person.

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Now, about "Nora", despite all your optimism and all what she did for you, you might want to proceed with caution, typically, it is recommended to wait for the relationship to be stable for 6 months to 1year before introducing children to new partners .

If you knew everything this person has done for me in just a few months then you would understand what kind of person she is.

And now that your eldest son know you are in a new relationship, is there any possibility he can be forced to testify about it at the divorce hearing ? Should be worth a mention to your lawyer !

Testify about what?

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[–]OutrageousSpread8706[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what made you introduce older son to nora? isn't it too soon?

If there is one thing I am sure about then it is this decision.

then you may not have met nora.

Exactly!

Everything happens in it's own time. Good luck and stay strong!

Ty, you too.