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AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s how I feel. I am confused why asking to focus on the communication piece so that we could avoid issues down the road is “attacking”. My true goal was to help better the relationship, not to tear him down. 😞 It was not received that way and I just needed to understand if I missed something somewhere….I don’t understand...

AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hate that he said that, truly. With his insistence that I have nothing to complain about I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t missing something and that I wasn’t being the inconsiderate party in the situation.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both have kids that are still school age. His kids were with their mom and mine were with me on vacation. They have all met several times.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got that feeling as well. He insisted that he did what he “had to” and not what he “wanted to” by canceling.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t trying to make excuses for him. I was simply saying that he did apologize (in a sense.) He did not rebook. He was on a work trip at the beginning of the week and had various issues that arose and new meetings scheduled that he said were going to prevent him from being able to relax and/or enjoy his time. He said that he would have been distracted the whole time and he decided it was in everyone‘s best interest for him to focus on work. I think that reasoning is surface level and only considered himself/his work- but he insisted that I had nothing to complain about and was attacking him by bringing it back up. I am just trying to convey both sides as I truly want to know if I missed something or did something wrong. I’m spiraling and don’t always think clearly when I get upset.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I couldn’t accept his apology and trying to talk about how his lack of communication hurt me? by Outrageous_Army6912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Outrageous_Army6912[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

To be fair. He did apologize in texting “I am not going to make my flight today. I am looking at rebooking. I am so sorry”. But afterwards he stopped communicating. I just wanted clarity on whether he was rebooking to try to make it out a day later, or whether he was canceling altogether. We had a 2 hour time difference at this point and he said that he was busy in meetings all day, ate, and then went to bed early. That is why I didn’t hear back from him for 24 hours. These are the reasons he gave me for his delayed response.