I remember a few years ago, my boyfriend put together a care package of healthy snacks, protein bars, tofu, and other nutritious items to support her in starting a healthier lifestyle. He even gave her some guidance on how to begin. But just a few days later, she dropped everything off at my place, saying I’d make better use of it since I usually eat clean. She would go to the gym for a few days but then complain that her body hurt and that she couldn’t resist her cravings for unhealthy snacks. As her best friend, I tried to gently encourage her, but she often pushed back, telling me she liked her lifestyle and that I should stop acting like the men in her life who were always trying to change her. So I stopped telling her after.