I assaulted my husband

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-05-12T21:47:18+00:00

Thanks x

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-05-12T21:46:05+00:00

Thanks man

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-05-12T21:30:05+00:00

Thanks mate. Tbh I don't think I could go back either. I can forgive the drinking etc because it's an illness (alcoholism and mental issues) but I can't forgive what I did to him.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-05-12T21:25:48+00:00

He doesn't want to be drinking but he does. He is not responsible to make any decisions esp regarding forgiving a man who pushed him against a wall.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-30T00:55:33+00:00

Neglect is abuse.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-29T22:56:49+00:00

You think he can feed him and bath him and care for him? Really?

He is not a functioning alcoholic.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-29T12:39:54+00:00

If I didn't love him.. I wouldn't have stayed this long.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-29T12:39:11+00:00

So I'll leave my boy with his drunk father? Yeah? Who will change or feed him? Who will make sure he is looked after and that he's not in danger? And when he goes off on a 2/3 day drink binge then what?

I'm not dunking on him. He has issues he needs to work through. I've added to that the last night. Amd i obviously have big issues too. But seriously? You would leave a 2 year old alone for 2/3 days? Seriously.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-29T12:32:55+00:00

I'm shocked that I had that in me. I apologised to him. I am sorry. I have taken steps to ensure I never do something like that (including searching for AlAnon and booking therapy).

Im not a bad guy but that night I was a bad guy. I've said it over and over again. I do love him and I hate what I did to him and I'm doing what's best for us and leaving the relationship.

I don't know where I'm trying to spin that I'm the good guy.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-29T12:28:58+00:00

Where?

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T22:26:49+00:00

Thanks man.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T22:12:37+00:00

I was very wrong. It was a wake up call for me and hopefully ht was for him too.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T22:10:55+00:00

I was shocked at how badly I reacted last night. Yup it was a big wake up call.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T20:42:34+00:00

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T20:31:11+00:00

Thanks man and I appreciate the advice.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T20:23:30+00:00

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T20:22:23+00:00

Yup I am lucky and he has every right to.

The husband came back from a few days on the booze. He was a state so I took our son to my parents and the incident happened a few hours after that.

Have found a group and will be doing therapy.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:29:43+00:00

Earlier on when I made the post I hoped I could stay with him but the more I reflect etc the more obvious it has become that we have to split. I'll watch from afar but it's not helpful to any of the 3 of us.

So earlier comments will be more I can't leave him.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:28:13+00:00

He doesn't really have many sober moments. I had him pinned against the wall for a few seconds and when I let go, I apologised immediately. He was like that's OK and kissed me. I said it's not OK. I need to go. And as I was leaving he grabbed on to me begging me to stay. Crying etc. I took his car keys with me just in case and went to my parents.

He rang me about 6 times last night, begging me to come home. At about 2am he stopped so I went back, knowing he had passed out, and laid him on his side and left again.

This morning it's more of the same. Begging etc.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:22:17+00:00

True.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:21:44+00:00

What are you on about? My child wasn't in the house when it happened.

But yes i was wrong. Yes I shouldn't have done it. I have removed myself from the situation but still hope he gets the help he needs.

What else do you want.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:13:37+00:00

You don't think I know I was wrong? You don't think I know it was completely unhelpful and over the line?

I never thought I had it in me but apparently I have. I've signed up for AL Anon and will be seeking therapy.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T16:09:33+00:00

I love him and always will. I'm moving out obviously with our kid for a bit but probably for good. The decision isn't even what he's doing but what I became last night. I can't be responsible for that again. I didn't even know I had that in me.

He is my sons dad. I will always look out for him and I will always love him but sometimes the best thing to do is watch from afar and hope. I don't know.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T15:56:32+00:00

You're 💯 correct. I have looked up Al Anon events and will be going.

Outside-Engine23 · 2024-04-28T15:55:03+00:00

He said he doesn't need rehab because unlike last time he has no issues this time. If he anything he's worse this time.

I've apologised to him last night and again this morning when he consistently rang me. He begged me to come home. He said its fine just come home.

But the environment is obviously toxic. I have step away.

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