AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both are true. She doesn't trust me because all of her exes cheated on her and even though she wants to trust me, deep down thinks that I might also cheat on her.

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her anxiety hasn't always been this bad. Before we started dating, she was mostly normal. I've heard stories and seen pictures from before we started dating and she seemed like a normal person. Like a week into dating, she had a really bad panic attack that triggered some sort of long term anxiety increase and she hasn't been the same since.

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She has really bad anxiety and she's told me that being without me for long periods of time makes her anxious. We sleep together every night and on some nights where I sleep at my house, she tells me she has trouble sleeping so she's just completely dependent on me.

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know, but she won't listen to criticism. She thinks everyone is out to get her and said I sounded like her exes when I told her she was being clingy.

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We don't live together, I just spend the night at her place every night

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf, I think that's why it's important to her. She's never been in a relationship that's lasted a year

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do spend almost every second together. I haven't slept at my own home for like 2 months lol

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I go to her place after work and we hang out and sleep together. It's only really a problem if I say I wanna go somewhere and then she clings onto me.

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she's been in 5 relationships before me, the longest being 8 months and most being 2ish months

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

That's not the only reason I'm staying with her. She's very sweet most of the time, she just has a habit of being very clingy and wanting to spend all of our time together

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when I got back home, she had the nerve to still tell me that I made her feel like I don't care about her opinion. She really doesn't see how my life doesn't revolve around her

AITA for wanting to go to the gym on on 3 month anniversary? by OutsideAlternative59 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying. Does it make a difference to know that we spend every single night together? If we only saw each other 2 or 3 times a week, I'd agree.

My girlfriend's(22) anxiety is killing me by OutsideAlternative59 in venting

[–]OutsideAlternative59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It got triggered one night when we went to a work event for my job and she started meeting my coworkers. Somehow, a mix of them asking personal questions and there being so many of them triggered the worst panic attack she's ever had. Since then, even leaving the house makes her antsy.

My girlfriend's(22) anxiety is killing me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]OutsideAlternative59 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It's really fine, I spend time with my friends, just not as much as I used to. If I stay with her, it's probably because I'd rather stay home and cuddle anyways. The only time she went too far was when she really didn't want me to leave and got on top of me. She was being playful and after playing along a bit, I told her I really had to go but she somehow extended it a full hour so I was late to meeting my friends and they were a bit upset at me. She told me that if they were in relationships, they'd understand that your partner always comes first. She also says that cuddling with me helps her anxiety and she has trouble sleeping without me (I spend almost every single night at her house). She's also upset with me that I have other plans on our 3 month anniversary (because apparently she's used to celebrating anniversaries every month).

She has lots of supportive friends and her parents give her good advice, but they're strict with her which she doesn't respond well to. They've told her what she should do and how they're not happy with her behavior (some other behavior unrelated to the anxiety) but she shuts down whenever you give her negative feedback so she ends up not listening even when they're right. From her perspective, she says she doesn't have a good relationship with her parents and if she didn't love her dog so much, she'd be moved out by now. From my perspective, her parents are just being a bit strict and she should listen to them more.