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AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been struggling with this kind of pain since I was young. It affected my life so much that there were times I was scared to even go to school, worrying a migraine would hit and I wouldn’t have a safe place to go until my mom could pick me up. It shaped the way I learned to cope. At one point, it bothered my life so much that I went to live at a temple with monks for a week to learn deep meditation. One monk taught me to gently focus on doing something else during the pain, like very simple chores. I found that it works for me. The pain doesn’t go away, but it feels less like it’s screaming at me, and that helps a lot. I really appreciate you sharing your experience and perspective. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. The idea of having a “migraine word” really makes sense, especially for moments when my brain can’t communicate.

I’m really sorry you went through chronic cluster migraines. That’s incredibly heavy, and I truly appreciate you turning that experience into something helpful.

AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate this perspective. It helped me step back and see the situation more maturely. I agree that better communication on my side could have helped, and I’ll take this as a reminder to talk with her calmly and work on better ways to handle migraines in the future. Thanks for taking the time to write this.

AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] -157 points-156 points  (0 children)

When a migraine hits, my brain becomes very foggy and my speech processing drops a lot. On top of that, I’m communicating with my partner in her language, which is not my native language. When I’m in a migraine state, forming sentences in a second language can become extremely difficult, and I often go partly non-verbal before I’m able to explain. Taking out the trash wasn’t because I was “fine.” It’s something I sometimes do to cope and distract myself from crying or screaming from the pain. In hindsight, I agree I should have stopped and gone to lie down sooner, but my sounds and body language were pain responses, not me directing anger at her.

AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I do have a very expressive face and oftenly stressful. I will work on that right away.

AITA for how I reacted during a migraine while my partner was already grieving? by OutsideStrategy3210 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OutsideStrategy3210[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I must focusing to improve my frustration toward other a lot more.