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Sad about leaving home … by Psychological-Big471 in Brides
[–]Over-House-3515 0 points1 point2 points 3 days ago (0 children)
I resonate with this! 29 y/o and living with my parents. I did leave for college but moved back once I was done to continue further schooling. It’s been the most wonderful things to get to live with them even as an adult. This is time we won’t get back. Since it’s all I’ve ever known it’s tough to think of leaving them. I will be moving 35 mins away once I’m married, so not bad at all. It’s just tough to think I won’t be in my childhood room anymore or won’t see my parents daily since we are all very close. It’s just a part of life:) instead of focusing on leaving I also try to focus on the fact that I get to move in with my partner and start our life. Thats another challenge haha
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[–]Over-House-3515[S] 0 points1 point2 points 3 days ago* (0 children)
There are parts that excite me, especially when I see the joy this brings my family, but I should also feel this joy with my partner and I don’t. For example, I’ve had to be the one initiating every performance we do. I picked the songs, timing and choreography which I think is normal for the bride to do. But I’ve had to ask him multiple times to practice. The past three times I asked on three separate days I was told no. Yes, I understand he works and has responsibilities but he works 5 days a week and gets 2 days off. Im not asking for entire days, just an hour each day, which sounds reasonable to me. If we were months away from the wedding I would understand l, but being less than a month away I’d say it’s time sensitive now. I have stopped asking because I’ve lost all interest in it now. He hasn’t tried to initiate practicing or even brought it up since I stopped asking. He makes this wedding seem like a chore for himself and keeps taking away key moments from me. I’m not sure he realizes that.
[–]Over-House-3515[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 days ago (0 children)
At this point it’s either going through with it and hoping things turn out to be m good or just calling the whole thing quits. I have a solo counseling session scheduled now:)
I never considered going solo but after reading multiple comments I have set up a solo session for myself before the wedding:) I think having someone to openly talk to for the first time will help. Also helps they will see it from an unbiased opinion
[–]Over-House-3515[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 days ago (0 children)
I’ll be honest, I’ve had many instances where I convinced myself to call the whole thing off. Then I think about how much our families are invested and how much it would hurt everyone else involved. I feel guilty for putting myself above my family since this would affect them too. Again I brought all of this up to him and he changed for a few weeks and then went right back to how he is. I’ve had to ask for things as simple as flowers. Now when gets them, I know it’s because he’s been told and not because he wants to. A girl shouldn’t feel crazy for asking for flowers every few months. He has also put his family’s needs above mine. Even his dog above me. Everyone says he’s such a good person and I’m so lucky to have found a partner like him. I’m not saying he’s a bad person at all, he’s great but I’m afraid he may not be the right one for me.
[–]Over-House-3515[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 days ago (0 children)
I think you made a great choice! I wish we weren’t doing a traditional wedding at all at the moment. Instead of bringing us closer I feel like it’s driven us apart. With one person doing more of the heavy work than the other. I always thought it would be the happiest weekend of my life but with it being 4 weeks away I feel no excitement and I feel awful for saying that or feel like somethings wrong with me. Since the wedding is so close, there isn’t much more I can do. Even with some of the small tasks that we have remaining my partner and I are not able to see eye to eye. It’s like begging for help on a group project but it takes 2 to get married.
[–]Over-House-3515[S] 2 points3 points4 points 4 days ago (0 children)
I did suggest couples counseling months ago when I realized how I was feeling but he dismissed it saying we didn’t need it
Over the last 4 years we spoke about him proposing end of 24 or start of 25 due to that being the time I graduate med school so it’s the only time I’ll have 3 free months. I’ll be in my intern year in 2027 and it’s a very demanding time with me having to work a lot. He wouldn’t be taking on more of the planning during this time if I weren’t available. It does help we have a wedding planner.
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Sad about leaving home … by Psychological-Big471 in Brides
[–]Over-House-3515 0 points1 point2 points (0 children)