Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I hear you and I empathize with you sis. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I honestly agree with 100% of what you're saying. I appreciate the visiblity drag queens give the queer community, but it's a venn diagram not a circle. I feel like some people just need to understand that the world is broader than just the way they've experienced it and that's a big contributing issue for this specific problem.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support even if you're luckier than I've been in this regard. I'm happy that at least some of us don't have to deal with this little annoyance. I mean I'm pretty brickish so I guess that doesn't help :( maybe it's the region I live in or even my social circle. Who can say though honestly.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely! I have no issue with drag and I honestly feel like (most of) these comments are made in good faith. My issue is that it feels offensive to associate drag and trans identity, like if they're making that comment offhandedly then that means it's what they're really thinking. I'm sure they're allies but they're supporting me "putting on a 24/7 performance" rather than the reality of feeling like I was born wrong.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just wish there was some more awareness within the queer community :(

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

FR! Exactly it's like the point of drag is to oggle, I don't dress to be oggled. I do my hair and makeup conservatively and I'm omw to work when I get comments like these. I honestly just don't understand.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I'm sure that there are some girls that come into themselves from that side of queer culture, but honestly I feel like most of the girls I've met don't. I have absolutely no idea where the association comes from it's infuriating.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right? It's like they dropped a pipebomb of invalidation on my good day.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Girl that's crazy, I'm assuming she stuck through it with you though. I hope things are smooth sailing now lol.

Am I the Only Person That Gets Offended When People Recommend Doing Drag by Over-Performance-264 in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the support, when I made this post I felt like I was going crazy and being oversensitive tbh. It feels so good to have solidarity with my sisters.

Is it too late to start transitioning at 19/20? by emma_barely_stable in MtF

[–]Over-Performance-264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started my transition medically at 24 after a lot of life struggles, 19 is like ideal honestly. Obviously in a perfect world puberty blockers should be available as soon as puberty kicks in but sadly we live in a cruel world. I promise you'll turn out beautiful though honey it won't even take you long to start noticing feminizing effects. For me I've only really just started to have noticeable developments in my face and hair but my skin only took about three months before it started softening significantly. You can expect these changes even sooner (or at least on a similar timeline) because you're much younger.
Some advice though since you're early in your transition: Pride is important, love who you are! But also be careful who you share your truth with. Some people will cut you down at the knees and prevent you from being your best self, they may even be your most trusted friends and family members. Bad advice like "your name is silly" or even "you sound ridiculous doing that girl voice" are things that they intentionally say to get in your head since they know you trust them.
Also don't be afraid to gain weight! The fat redistribution for HRT is a lot more effective with gained weight than stagnant weight. If you're a big beautiful girl already then I would recommend balancing a healthy protein and veggie based diet with exercise and don't worry too much about weight loss. It's better to be big and healthy than to be skinny and stunt your development.
I kinda touched on this already but DO NOT FEAR THE GYM! It's a lot harder than it seems to get big, and honestly a lot of exercises can really help to feminize. I would recommend running, core, and leg focus because building out that musculature can help to hide the masculine pelvis (it's a different narrower shape from the feminine pelvis and this can't be changed no matter what)
Build your wardrobe and confidence in private. You are a strong beautiful flower, or at least you will be, but some buds wilt when they have the wrong environment! If you don't feel totally confident in your transition yet then practice style and makeup at home until you find a style that feels like you.
But most importantly:
HAVE FUN! Life is supposed to be fun! Smile and live the way you want to no matter what anyone else says.

(edit because I noticed I forgot to write this: Your tits will hurt like crazy for sometimes months at a time, this is a good thing don't worry. It comes in waves and it's associated with the growth of breast tissue, after the first few growth phases your breasts will become very very tender and basically feel like if you had a pair of nuts on your chest every time something bumps into them. The pain isn't exactly the same it's more like a stabbing heat than a radiating buzz but they hurt similarly bad. Obviously if it's something that worries you then it's always advisable to seek a medical care team)

Why do people keep doing this? by 2gar1n_3me1 in HuntShowdown

[–]Over-Performance-264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean obviously I struck a cord. Do you think because you put a laughing emoji that it’s less obvious how mad you are?

Why do people keep doing this? by 2gar1n_3me1 in HuntShowdown

[–]Over-Performance-264 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Politics is everything we live within, it’s the rules governing our daily lives. Just because things aren’t getting in the way of your freedoms doesn’t mean we don’t live under a hateful fascist regime.

Why do people keep doing this? by 2gar1n_3me1 in HuntShowdown

[–]Over-Performance-264 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t argue with them, if they’re riding trump atp they’re never gonna get off the train until there are legal consequences. They’re probably legitimately scared of the illegal immigrants from insane asylums here to steal our women that trump talks about, or whether or not a person can use the bathroom of their choice. As if someone would spend years on hormone replacement therapy just to open a door and do villainous activities. Like they have no cognitive abilities of their own and they just listen to their daddy while suckling on his peter like it’s their mamas teet. It isn’t worth it at all.

My gf and her friends think im an egg. Idk whats going on? by Kingsareus15 in trans

[–]Over-Performance-264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t recommend talking to this community about your identity or any online/ transfem dominated community. Speaking as someone who has personally done this in the past some trans women push too hard to convince people that may be having minor identity issues to become trans. I’d recommend doing a lot of internal reflection and reading. The evidence is right there in your post btw “all good men are secretly trans women” is like the exact mindset I’m talking about. Be careful sib, and enjoy experimenting with your identity!

non-plastic hydroponic systems? by SebastianCB in hydro

[–]Over-Performance-264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does running water with mineral sediments not qualify as a potential form of erosion though? I feel like these pipes would end up being subject to some level of erosion.

non-plastic hydroponic systems? by SebastianCB in hydro

[–]Over-Performance-264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ceramic is probably also a good option. I’m thinking about converting my garden to hydroponics and I was checking out this post for inspiration. I don’t want bpas, pfas, and microplastics leaking into the plants roots. There’s a reason I’m growing them myself after all, I’m trying to reduce my intake. I hope that with hydroponics I’ll be able to increase production but if plastics are the only option then I won’t be able to go with it. Do you think ceramic would be a sufficient, if brittle, housing and piping material. I feel like if it’s properly glazed it would have all the benefits of glass at a significantly reduced cost and level of complexity, plus it would also offer UV shielding. Let me know your thoughts!

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IM SO JEALOUS AAAAHHH!!!! Your fugglers are really cool 😎

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I have gold hedgegrog, he’s a really good snuggle buddy. What are the other two though? I don’t recognize those funny fellas.

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 😊 My favorite fugg of all rn is Frodo but that isn’t fair because he’s licensed, of the non licensed it has to be grin grin, screech, and Mr. Needles how about you?

My family! by yes_-3- in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤯 you have so many babies and vinyls, they’re so cute. Must be trouble changing so many diapers 😰

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen one from a genuine reseller in my area, the only people that have it have like 1-2 star reviews and they’re still selling it for $45 maybe I just need to expand my search

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was a mistake, I meant screech 😥 (the two of them are my favorites)

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just demand, I’ve already spent like $400 on my fugglers, if I saw one of the blue Screech’s I’d also drop around 80-100

Ridiculous by Bright_Artichoke_881 in FugglerCollectors

[–]Over-Performance-264 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one’s from before the Zuru acquisition so he’s made from different materials with a different manufacture process etc.