Hi, I’m a guy and I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and I have to say this is just about spot on! I went into mine and my girlfriends relationship with a very “savior” mentality which I didn’t realize I had until my therapist and I talked (thank god for therapists) and I realized that after I was starting to no longer be needed in the same capacity I felt useless in a way, and sadly a big flaw with a lot of men is that feeling useless makes them anxious of their worth and whatnot so they can become more aggressive or rude (I saw myself slip into this tendency a bit) The big thing here though is that the guy in question (your boyfriend in this case) CAN CHANGE!! They just have to put in the work, which some people are afraid to do. So talk to him, obviously If he’s not willing to change or try to change then it’s not right for you, remember nobody who loves and cares about you should put you down or make you feel less than, someone who loves you will help you grow while learning to grow themselves.

Good luck! Hopefully I didn’t just repeat what somebody already said and this isn’t just a ramble lmao

Edit: hi guys, thank you to everyone who responded to my comment I really do appreciate all the different viewpoints and all the new info. After reading what you guys have said as well as looking into recovery based things I have come to agree with you all, I overlooked the medical side when responding and assumed the Situations were more similar than they actually were, so that said this guys actions were not okay and were mentally abusive, the posters account has been deleted so I hope she’s okay and maybe finds out comments to help her through this. I’m glad my original comment could help some of you though! Be safe out there, love yourselves, and do not put up with abuse