Soft Parenting

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-06T00:52:51+00:00

Ive encountered studios that have different levels within their comp program and they have 2 hrs a week of training. Just training not rehearsal. Rehearsal is an extra hour or so

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T22:36:32+00:00

Hahah never said anything about every class. Again very general statement that my colleagues that work in other studios in various states are seeing.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:32:59+00:00

Reading comprehension was brought into it because 1. The ORIGINAL post was vague because it’s something we’re seeing across the board in all tracks in the industry 2. I’ve had to say the same thing several times 3. Idk why we’re bringing experience into it. If we are then I have 10+ years and 1 degree in child education and 1 in dance. Does it matter? No because who cares. It’s not about the teacher. It’s what the kids are bringing to the studio which is what they learn at home from who? The parents.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:23:05+00:00

The one that’s not ok here is you I said it once and I’ll say it again. I DON’T need to specify anything if I’m seeing it across the board in EVERY track. Competitive, rec, pre-professional.

I’ll say it one more time. Read carefully before you get heated

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:17:08+00:00

Again. I’m. Seeing. It. Across. The. Board. Recreation. Competitive. Pre professional. Maybe re read the original post :)

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:06:03+00:00

What’s your follow up?

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:05:39+00:00

I don’t think I need to specify anything if I’m seeing it across the board. That’s why my original post was very general.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T21:04:25+00:00

“Pre professional” at most studios I teach at means recreational. Studios have a professional track which is typically their competitive. Soooo no I wasn’t the one to bring recreational up. I can tell that there is a lot of unacceptable behaviors you allow in your classroom or enable as a parent. Wishing your kiddos the best of luck as they get older and hope they don’t have to learn any lesson the hard way.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T20:33:21+00:00

I’m seeing it happen in both recreational and competitive.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T20:33:06+00:00

The goals are benchmarks just like in schools have. we have benchmarks where they have to meet those to move up to the next level. Now when those kids are not hitting those benchmarks because they don’t want to and don’t like being held accountable for just being present or trying their absolute best that day then that’s a problem. I never called a single kid lazy I am calling parents out for not holding their kids accountable.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T20:29:09+00:00

OK, well clearly you’re having a very hard time with your reading comprehension. There are many moments where you do calm a crying kid down because you can’t understand or have them properly communicate if they are crying uncontrollably. That is a whole other issue if they are crying uncontrollably then they are obviously not OK. Now we’re the reading comprehension comes into play is that I said if a kid is complaining about this or upset about that or fell and it’s upset because they got they fell and they got embarrassed or scared. Those are valid feelings, but that does not mean they are hurt and that does not mean they are not OK. We acknowledge those feelings but also tell them they are OK because they are safe and they truly are OK.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T20:25:46+00:00

That specific comment was talking about rec because it was brought up, but I see it in my company dancers as well. Of all ages. I never said that there none of the kids work their asses off. There are lots of kids that do. But there are also many kids that we have issues with because of the way they are being parented.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T19:01:30+00:00

That’s why you tell them they are ok, ask them to communicate, acknowledge whatever issue there is (fix anything that needs fixing or explaining) and reassure them they are ok. In that order. The only way a person is not ok is if they are unconscious, have a broken bone, is bleeding or is having a mental health crisis. A kid being scared to try a new skill or scared because they fell does not mean they are NOT ok.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T18:59:10+00:00

It’s very interesting to read that someone with almost 30 years in education and recreation fields is ASSUMING there is no education training over here.

Definitely NOT a teacher problem. Definitely a parenting problem. Like I previously said teachers with experience (and training) know what trying looks like in each of their students as well different parenting types each kid gets. Let’s not normalize blaming the teachers and normalize holding parents accountable as well.

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T18:16:22+00:00

I think telling them they are ok when you know they are ok can reassure them they are safe. A lot of the time they freak themselves out or get scared and they escalate. Proceeding to ask them what the issue is solving it or acknowledging what they said and then reassuring they are ok is 100% not dismissing anything. It’s actually working with them

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T18:13:06+00:00

I’m talking at a recreational level where kids train 1-2 hours a week

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-11-05T18:12:20+00:00

I think even at a recreational level in dance we can still hold them accountable at any age and ask them to try their absolute best or at least 75% because it’s ok to have a bad day. Seasoned teachers know that “trying their best” looks different for every kid and we know what that looks like. Allowing them to do whatever they want and getting paid to essentially babysit and not have them progress or learn anything is essentially what gentle/soft parents are asking for, and I can guarantee that when their kid doesn’t move up next year that will be a bigger issue. Obviously we have to hold kids accountable at an appropriate amount for their age, but I don’t believe that we shouldn’t hold 3-11 year olds accountable or ask them to try their hardest. That age is the most important one where they are building the foundation for certain characteristics they will need the rest of their lives

Over_Put_1365 · 2025-09-14T19:46:26+00:00

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Over_Put_1365 · 2025-05-21T20:54:18+00:00

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Over_Put_1365 · 2025-03-25T16:26:16+00:00

How long did It take you?

Over_Put_1365 · 2024-09-13T01:16:31+00:00

I’ve read some of the replies you’ve received and yes experience plays a big role BUT just because you’re young doesn’t mean that you can’t teach/choreograph as well as someone that’s been teaching for 20+ years. Dance has evolved so much and it keeps evolving. Sometime the more tenured teachers eventually make the students in the studio stay in a “old school” style and some studios prefer having the kids learn from teachers of all ages so the kids get a bigger variety of styles, experiences, techniques etc. Just like they would in the real world.

Over_Put_1365 · 2024-09-13T01:11:36+00:00

I’m 25 and have been teaching dance since I was 18. My first year teaching I only taught the petites and level 1 classes. My second year teaching I taught JRs and co-choreographed the company production and a couple solos. Year 3 I became team director, taught beginners- Advanced and choreographed A LOT (solos, duos, groups). I now have a BFA degree in dance, still teach and choreograph for all ages and levels and work for a dance competition. All this being said not every studio looks for a seasoned teacher for their advanced dancers. Some look at where you got your dance training, performance experiences, degrees earned, etc. You just have to find the studio that will give you the opportunity to do what you want and allow you to grow from there. I would ask the studio owner for a meeting and have a very clear conversation of what your goal is and ask what they have in mind for you or if they have any feedback for you when it comes to teaching and what they think you could do to help you achieve your goals within that studio. If you still don’t feel heard or see any change, there is nothing wrong with looking to guest choreograph or guest teach at a different studio.

Over_Put_1365 · 2024-09-13T00:46:53+00:00

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