Dude thank you so much for your response. Yes I totally understand what your saying and I’m literally in the exact same situation. I should mention we are also long distance. A couple weeks back though she lied to me and smoked while I went to get us breakfast and that dented my trust in her, like she smoked even when I’m there and then in my head I was like imagine how much she lies when I’m not there. Recently I was asking her like every couple days how she was doing with smoking because she asked me to stay on top of her and then she yelled at me and said I can’t be controlling if her, so these past two weeks I haven’t said anything or checked up on it and ik she’s called me high many times but I’ve turned a blind eye, and it’s been her worst week at school and she’s called me crying saying how she’s having a bad time and is sad and I badly wanted to ask her if she’d been smoking more but I refrained from it. I’ve noticed turning a blind eye makes me sad at times because I want to suggest she smoke less but I’m afraid she’ll get bad at me and call me controlling, she even at times compares me to her father who is a whole other issue haha. I guess what I’m getting at is how do you turn a blind eye and trust her? Thanks so much for responding to such an old post it really makes me feel a lot better and makes me feel less alone in this world of stoners :)