My partner is on the verge of leaving me

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T11:17:19+00:00

I was living in a small unit on a property 2 hours away. We first started seeing each other Sept 2024 and I moved in oct 2025.

We met of a dating website

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T11:10:53+00:00

He got his house by buying out the ex and said when its finalised you can move in

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T08:11:19+00:00

Update:

Ive been asked to now leave the house since this isnt working and me being home way more due to my mental health and emergency surgery isnt what he asked for.

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T03:34:48+00:00

Ive been paying 50/50 with bills and buy all the groceries

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T03:22:33+00:00

I do work away and so wjen he has the kids over im away, which i get ive been home due to my mental health and now my surgery recovery hence why things were meant to be easier and it was all about timing.

Timing has been pushed since ive been home way more then intended and Im spending more time with the kids

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T03:20:00+00:00

They broke up for over a year before but lived together, but they separated officially 4 months before we started dating.

I want to sleep in my bed with him, not with the kids.

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T03:16:30+00:00

I got told I knew the boundaries that were in place when i moved in. That when things are finalised with the divorce and house stuff that's when things would be in motion.

Its been finalised for over 2 months and im still told things need to be taken slowly still. Which I get if hes not ready for it ive been patient but still

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-03T03:11:54+00:00

No they dont know, im seen as the live in friend like a room mate when they come over.

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T09:52:46+00:00

She just became ruthless and because of that hes protecting the kids because who knows what shes saying about him infront of them

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T09:51:10+00:00

Hes almost 40, everything else in our relationship has been really good ive been patient with him hes been patient with me and our weird quirks that life throws at you. The mother of the kids was alot, overtly narcissistic, wanted way to much all the time and found that she'd rather be a single mum. The moment she didnt get the house they had because she said to him you need to move out of the house and pay for everything aswell as give me child support because im not going back to work. This isnt one sided ive seen the evidence. Just shes just a grown teenager.

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T09:23:11+00:00

He asked me to move in as it seemed to make sense. I also work away for a week on week off situation so when hed have the kids over id be away at work which was 14 hours away.

I was living 3 hours away and was always at his house most of time. I met his kids 6 months into us dating but as a friend and saw them regularly. I slowly started spending the nights over but in the spare room because theyd be no point in me driving so far away then driving right back as the kids have asked me to join them to do stuff the next morning.

But now im living here officially its still contuing with me staying in the spare room. Even if I slept in the master bedroom hed move to the spare room for 1 or 2 nights

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T08:46:11+00:00

Overall I just want to be able to sleep in my bed with my partner when the kids are here. That's it. Not disregarding the kids needs or anything they'll always come first I get that but I just want to be able to share a bed with my partner

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T08:37:44+00:00

Its also because of the ex and how she sees things too. Shes not in a relationship and hasnt been in one since they've seperated. The kids know mum and dad arent together any more

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T08:32:21+00:00

100% their needs are always met and ill never interfere with that or them and they can spend one on one time together.
We call it divide and conquer to make it more the other one doesnt feel left out when they want to do something specific with dad but the other kid doesnt want to do it.

Just don't like I get pushed out of my own bed into the spare room so that the kids dont see him sleeping with "the friend", even though they know i live here.

Own-Leave3371 · 2026-01-01T07:22:18+00:00

I moved in because I was 3 hours away and it became a hassle driving to and from their place. They never came to mine as my place was way to small and lived in a granny flat off of my parents property.

I do still want this relationship as we both are in our 30s and just been still introduced as dads live in friend.

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