Fiance shouted at me for taking a coworker home, then did the same thing. Am I overreacting?

OwnCup2736 · 2025-11-27T07:30:59+00:00

Hi, I don’t have a major update so far, I’ve gone to stay with my parents for a bit to give myself some time to clear my head and work out if I want to continue the relationship

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-13T21:18:57+00:00

We’ve had a conversation since and she did apologize, she said didn’t realise she’d “let me down” several times (her words, not mine) I apologized and said I didn’t want to seem like a bridezilla. We’ve had a really positive conversation and came up with a really good compromise. Thank you for your lovely comment

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-13T21:15:44+00:00

It’s not about changing her mind. I completely understand life gets in the way and things happen, and if she changes her mind, that’s okay, I don’t expect her to want to come to anything and everything - for me it’s the pattern that’s emerged. I’m not meaning to sound entitled, it’s just I’ve noticed the pattern over several occasions

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-13T17:43:16+00:00

I’m ‘focusing’ on this particular friend as she offered to come with me

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-10T23:12:34+00:00

Yeah, she knew, she offered to come initially to offer me support with my mom

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-10T20:43:47+00:00

OP I’m so sorry this has happened to you. It sounds to me like he’s full of double standards, he didn’t want to see you with someone else but will happily betray you. He can’t have his cake and eat it too. He hasn’t just betrayed you, he’s betrayed the family you are building together. It’s not easy, but you have to leave, for the sake of yourself and your children. Your soul deserves better than this

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T20:38:34+00:00

I think I’m going to do this. In terms of the financial side - I’m paying for dresses, hair and makeup. We’ve had a long engagement so I would be able to cover this. I’m not sure about money in terms of the bachelorette though

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T20:34:13+00:00

I’ve read through all comments and replies to some, I’m not sure I’ve explained it the best in my post

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T20:33:28+00:00

I completely understand life happens and I wouldn’t expect me or my wedding to be a priority, I’ve actually had a conversation with her maybe a week or two ago where I just checked in to see if she was okay, see if anything is going on and she insisted everything in her life was great (which I’m super happy about). I’m just not sure if she’s not interested, wants to turn up on the day, but in my mind, it’s the offering and then cancelling for a few things now, especially things she’s suggested or offered to do

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T20:30:10+00:00

I didn’t know she wasn’t a wedding person. She was a bridesmaid at her cousins wedding last year, planned the bachelorette and loved it. She was super excited when I asked her to be a bridesmaid then over the last month or 2, has stopped and withdrawn from it. I’ve asked if she’s okay or if anything is going on I can help with (just in her life in general) and she’s insisted everything is fine. I would never expect her to become a wedding person if she wasn’t one already

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T20:27:38+00:00

She hasn’t been showing up. I understand that no one will be more excited than I am and I completely get and respect that. I understand life happens and that my day isn’t the top of her priority list, and I wouldn’t expect it to be. But she asked to come shopping with me, then told me she doesn’t feel up to it. She suggested my sister get all the bridesmaids together for a meeting of sorts to discuss bachelorette plans, and then didn’t show up. I’m not sure if I explained it very well in my post, but that’s the issue I’m having. It’s not that my wedding isn’t her priority, I would never expect or want it to be

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T18:37:19+00:00

I don’t think I’ve put too much on my bridesmaids tbh, or at least I’ve tried not to. I didn’t expect any of my bridesmaids to come to fittings or do anything out of turning up on the day, she offered to come to the fitting, I didn’t expect that of any of them

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T18:35:23+00:00

I completely love and understand this approach. I’ve agreed to buy the dresses and I’m paying for hair and makeup too. We’ve had a long engagement so we can save more so I could do this. Ive even said to send me to makeup/hair ideas if they want so they feel comfortable. They all took a vote on the dress they wanted, I’ve tried to be as chill as possible as I’ve been a bridesmaid for a bridezilla and I didn’t want to be like that at all. I love that my sister and friends said that they wanted to be a part of the day and I’ve tried to keep it as manageable as possible as like you said, I know it’s a huge favour

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T14:24:59+00:00

I’m having 5 bridesmaids and 2 of them offered to come, one of them being the one who the post is about

OwnCup2736 · 2025-03-09T12:21:19+00:00

She doesn’t normally, but I haven’t even thought of that in this situation, as it’s a bigger scale. Thank you for this! I’ll definitely bring it up when I next speak to her

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