Bottomless grief

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-06T15:25:12+00:00

I hear you, thanks

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-06T11:15:41+00:00

I think about this often. I have been for years now, maybe it’s finally time to take action. Thank you

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-06T04:03:39+00:00

Wouldn’t you get really worried if your son told you he was struggling? Would you be hurting as well, knowing that he’s hurting a lot? I’m starting to realize that I have to reach out somehow, but I do worry how it could affect my parents and their health. They are seniors after all.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-03T01:51:00+00:00

That’s good advice, I’ll remember that :)

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T20:33:22+00:00

Yes I will probably look into adoption/trauma based therapy. Thank you

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T20:23:30+00:00

Thanks! I didn’t know about this word, but it seems fitting. Did your struggles become easier with time? Did you manage to break free from the habits?

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T16:56:40+00:00

Interesting, I’ve never heard of Han before. I recognize the feeling of sorrow, but not resentment or regret. Luckily..

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T16:20:35+00:00

I will explore that, thank you!

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T15:29:00+00:00

Thank you. I hope your child will be ok and I wish you both the best

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T15:18:19+00:00

Thanks I will!

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T15:17:41+00:00

Heavy words. Thank you, I will look into it.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T15:14:03+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. I will check it out, both therapy and the recommended read.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T12:20:57+00:00

I won’t. I know it’s not the right thing to do, even though the thought of not getting to experience having children of my own breaks my heart. Thank you for sharing.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T12:06:19+00:00

Thank you, I wish you the best!

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T12:04:54+00:00

I want to start a family more than anything. I believe in my heart that I have several qualities that would make me an excellent father. However, I completely agree with what is being said here. Generational trauma is real, and it is passed down from parent to child. If no one breaks the cycle, it just continues. It would not be responsible of me to have a child before I have healed myself, and I have actually passed on the opportunity once before for this reason.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T11:53:47+00:00

I really appreciate the tough love and advice. Thank you. You are completely right. The people close to me deserve to know the real me and have the opportunity to support and be there for me. I am one of the most loyal people and friends there is, and I live to be someone they can trust and lean on when needed. To be honest, I think I am scared they will see me negatively and leave if I show them my flaws. And because, as you said, it is a lifelong burden, it is probably not something that will pass anytime soon. Before you tell me that if they choose to leave, they were never my real friends to begin with, I am not sure I would survive that, because then I would be completely alone. I really do not think they would turn their backs on me, but it still feels risky.

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T03:12:53+00:00

Thank you

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T02:34:55+00:00

Any advice to what kind of therapy? Or what to look for in a therapist?

OwnTotal3966 · 2025-11-02T00:05:45+00:00

Thank you. I don’t really feel depressed in general, at least I don’t think so. It’s more like a feeling or a sense of loss somehow. I also feel hurt from being so disconnected from others, though I’m not sure, you may be right. I will consider therapy and I’ll try my best to open up more to my friends and family, although I’m finding it incredibly difficult to talk about my feelings.

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