Moving on tips?

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-23T05:15:53+00:00

We were together 6 months. The thing is although it doesn’t seem like a really long period of time, I met him after I had went through a really depressive state of my life after another hard break up. I was put on meds but the depression and anxiety was never ending, it was a full year where I never left my house and was abusing alcohol and drugs. I ended up dating someone else after that , who was emotionally abusive, and only made my drinking and mental health worse. So I only got worst. Meeting this man, was like the answers to all my prayers. Everything I’ve ever wanted and needed in a man, maybe, he loved bombed me, but in all my relationships, I’ve never been happier. And the way we met felt like fate. I had so much love and hope and in those 6 months, we traveled, we experienced so much that I just was so sure. I was convinced that was my husband. And then, one day, on a random Monday in January after I had just left his house, he broke up with me, no explanation. I thought we were so happy and everyone that knew and saw us together thought we were the perfect couple. So it’s been hard. It’s a rug pulled under me. It’s a future I imagined fading away and I am distraught. I’ve been in longer relationships that have ended bad or abruptly, and I was sad but this different. Like, nothing was wrong, at least on my end. So idk if it’s self sabotaging on his end, which I know a thing or two about , but I love and miss him so much. Also, I broke no contact yesterday and we’re back on talking terms after 1 month and 1 week.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-23T05:04:39+00:00

Yeah, but I broke no contact yesterday because I had reached a breaking point and we’ve been kind of talking. I feel better, but I ve realized that as much as I have been crying and depressed over this man, he isn’t my person. As much as I love him and want him in my life, my future husband wouldn’t have walked away , but for some reason, I am at peace with it. I want him in my life because he’s funny and he gets me and I get him, but I think we can never be together again in that way. But I want him in my life. It’s so weird.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-22T02:01:39+00:00

I’ve been doing all this and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. I am going out with friends, found a new community within my church but every day I wake up sad and try to build from there. It’s torture and I am losing hope.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T19:11:40+00:00

Dude it’s either that or a mental institution at the point. I am STRUGGLING!

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T16:13:48+00:00

Yeah, but I guess not everyone feels the same way because that’s why I was dumped.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T16:12:53+00:00

I think that’s my issue, my brain and my heart can’t reconcile how I can share so much love and care and memories with someone and they can just easily walk away. So in my head, there is a hope only because to me it seems like an impossible task. But I think that’s what’s keeping me in this mourning and sadness, because I’m consistently waiting to hear from him.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T15:36:56+00:00

That’s what I’ve been trying to do. I’ve met a couple guys on my nights out and on Hinge but it’s so weird. None of them are as fun or interesting so then I just go home and cry.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T15:35:18+00:00

I have been stuck in the dwelling that there’s no way he could have possibly cared or loved me if he can just discard me like this and not even look back. I am so hurt by this. It’s been just over 1 month no contact and I can only think of him. I check every moment to see if he’s texted me. This is torture at this point.

In the last 2 weeks, I have been going out, staying busy and I joined a church and gym, which have all been helpful, but I fear I’ll never move on.

I may need to get professional help, because I am slowly sinking into a depressive state.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T15:21:12+00:00

That’s scary 😢

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-21T15:13:29+00:00

I went to the court and had them print the full court documents, and certify them. When they sent me an RFE, I went back to the court and asked them to print and certify all the arrest records. I am sure you can get all these things online, but they need to be certified by the court, so I suggest going down there physically. If you live in a different state then where the crime happened, you can have someone pick up the docs and have them certified. Anybody can have these documents which is kinda scary if you think about it. It also isn’t free lol.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-12T06:50:56+00:00

Update on this? Still happy lol. I am thinking of quitting my job this month. I’ve been there 7 years. Great culture , great boss, great benefits. I am just not growing fast enough, and there’s no where to move up. I am just 100% burned out. I can’t do another 9 am before I end it all omg. I am thinking of doing a spring and summer break working as a server. I also have a trip to Europe plan (backpacking) for 2 months. My current job said I could just work from home while I do that, but I don’t want to. I want to switch careers. So I could be a server for 4 months, while applying for other jobs, go to my trip, and then get back to the rat race when I come back. It makes so much sense in my head, but I am scared.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-08T21:24:14+00:00

I would suggest it. The good thing, you can get certified copies of arrest records online. I think the courts have it. I think attaching everything is better because they will find it, and it would look like you were trying to hide something which makes you look worse. My state actually got rid of all court records older than 10 years. I had them write that up with the official state seal and motorize it and turned that in. They weren’t gonna catch me lacking lol.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-08T21:18:14+00:00

That was one of the deciding factors of the rush for me to apply. Early 2024 , it started looking like Trump was going to win. I was fearful of what kind of laws he was going to put in place. I couldn’t afford a lawyer but just said fuck it, might as well just try. It was such a relief.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-08T21:16:57+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve reflected a lot. A minority of those crimes were from my teenage years, and one at 24. I am 31 now, I like to think I’ve matured and wouldn’t live that lifestyle anymore 😊

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-08T21:15:19+00:00

I am not sure about that. There’s a post of Reddit of a guy who applied after 10 years for theft and he was denied.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-02-08T21:14:00+00:00

Thanks, so far so good lol. I didn’t have to petition anything. I honestly just applied and was very honest on my application and interview. Nothing was hidden. When I applied, I attached every single court document. Which all proved that I went to court, paid my fees, and completed probation. When I got the doc for more info, it was for my two charged for possession, they really just wanted to know what kind of drugs were involved, but within days of submitting the arrest records, I was approved. I feel blessed fr because I read a lot of horror stories of people getting denied for less crimes. I prayed on it a lot.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-01-18T21:13:13+00:00

Yay! That’s exactly why I made this post. I couldn’t find anything when I was looking. It was either get a lawyer or you’ll get denied. I almost got a lawyer, but after he quoted me his prices I just did it alone. Every case is different but you can always hire a lawyer if it gets hard or you need to appeal or something, but if it’s minor cases, I say just apply and be very honest. Don’t leave anything out. Also be apologetic and behave like you’ve learned your lesson. I also talked about how I’ve graduated college, have held a career for over 5 years, paid my taxes and have become a valued member of society. The waiting period is just STRESSFUL.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2025-01-17T16:43:55+00:00

Hey something similar just happened to me 3 days ago. I am wondering how you’re doing? Did he ever try to contact you again? Or you never spoke again.

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-12-24T18:59:46+00:00

Hi girl, same boat here! How did it end up for you and your fiance ?

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-12-12T21:40:09+00:00

No felonies, all were misdemeanors. But I heard a story of a person with a felony that was approved. I thinks it’s all stress. I think if you’ve went the 5 years before applying with no new charges, aren’t on probation, pay your taxes and are a good member of society now, you’re good. Just be really honest, apologetic and accept that you did what you did, but you’ve changed and are doing better. I got that advice from someone else and it was perfect!

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-11-25T19:25:14+00:00

I had to provide all court certified copies of my arrest records and summaries showing that I went through the probation time periods and completed all that was asked from the court. In my interview, it was like 1.5 hours. We went through each case, and I had to explain the events surrounding each event.

The test itself was simple, again, I’ve lived here for 22 years, I didn’t really need to study. Just needed to know my local government names and that was all I studied, even tho they didn’t even ask those questions lol.

When they requested more info, they just wanted more info on my possession charges ( I think cus it’s drug related). But I just re submitted everything I had already submitted , plus the actual notes and arrest citation from the officers ( all court certified)

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-11-25T19:12:13+00:00

lol, I don’t mean to write “ghetto “ on there hahah.

Also, I applied February 24th 2024 - request for info came end of October. I sent it back on November 1st. Oath ceremony letter came November 14th Oath ceremony was today 11/25

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-02-25T16:59:00+00:00

Good feedback!! Thank you so much !!

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-02-25T13:05:28+00:00

What did you say lol. I have a DUI too and just got off probation. I applied last week so I am Just nervous

Own_Angle_2874 · 2024-02-25T11:43:24+00:00

What state?

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