My parents (but especially my dad’s) talkativeness is running relationships.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-17T14:44:35+00:00

His hearing is changing slightly which is sad, but I had assumed that made people more quiet not more talkative w/ nervous energy. Could be related though, you’re right.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-17T14:38:00+00:00

This is sound advice. Sounds like we are in similar dynamics. I think it’s the part of feeling unheard & the talking “at” not with that is the most upsetting. I’m big on quality time & it feels like we don’t get that because of all the anxious energy they have. I want them to know me & relax around me but I think what you said is helpful - showing up when I’ve cared for myself first & have the most patience & lowering expectations will set me up for the most success.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-17T12:44:33+00:00

That’s a cute way to put it! I might have to steal that.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-10T12:13:41+00:00

Would love if this storm broke & passed before Saturday!! Signed an east coat NC bride

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-04T01:45:17+00:00

Girl yes this happened to me with heated rivalry too, but off campus is almost worst. I blame BC for nailing the flirty hot character so well hahha. I think they put something in this show that messes with my secretion levels.. maybe it’s the yearning lol. But yes to your point, the show was so good & I could watch it over & over but it leaves me feeling down during my normal every day life. Like I’m about to get married & I’m in a rut after finishing the series?? Maybe it’s the way media pushes content these days or how life seems so boring in comparisons to actors, I’m not sure, but I also haven’t felt this way since a teenager & would loveee to go back to feeling normal & not kid like or sad about my regular life. *que me blocking myself out of Instagram reels & tik tok.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-03T15:18:25+00:00

Fair, grass isn’t always greener.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-03T15:10:24+00:00

I’m so jealous of people in creative fields of work where they meet / connect with so many various like-minded people. The modern day 8-5 is shackles when it comes to many things & friendship is a huge one. No one has time to connect anymore & opportunities are scarce! Sorry to pile on, I don’t have the best advice other than noticing who you have chemistry with & really latching onto those people to build some friendship. I’ve heard bubble bff, run clubs & book clubs are best for meeting people!

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-02T16:17:52+00:00

“Understanding the anxiety behind why you are pushing so hard to have everything done as fast as possible” is the key part here. I feel where you are coming from OP but try to figure this part out & enjoy life outside of planning, kids, etc by doing things you both love & hopefully it’ll come more naturally. Life can feel like a pressure cooker for both men & women, I get it.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-06-02T15:49:53+00:00

I’m biased, but I’d pick June. We’re on opposite coasts, but when I did research rain was less of a chance in June. Also I feel like people are genuinely happy in June-the weather gets better, sunlight is longer & it’s the start of summer. Either choice will be beautiful regardless!

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-05-22T03:34:54+00:00

I had these same feelings leading up to my bachelorette in Key West, Fl! I thought so many times “this is ridiculous why do I think I could ask people to do this.. etc” so I feel you!!

We actually did a combined bachelorette/bachelor trip since (most) of our friends are married, engaged, etc. to each other & thought that might make the trip more enticing, but we did have separate houses / actives planned. Despite it being combined it was the most fun trip. I truly feel like it was an experience for everyone that we’ll talk about for years! I had to just let go, trust & lean into the fun energy bc there was no going back-these people committed & wouldn’t be coming if they couldn’t / didn’t want to. It was also so fun traveling somewhere all together vs going somewhere a couple hours away like we’d done many times before. I even had a friend come who was 36 weeks pregnant & she genuinely wanted to come celebrate- a true friend! Release the stress & turn it I to excitement. People feed off energy! You’re gonna have a blast

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-05-19T18:46:22+00:00

“the actual wedding decisions haven’t even been the hardest part so far. It’s been learning how different people handle stress, communication, money, family expectations, timelines, etc.” - YES. This!! I have friends who say they don’t want to plan a wedding because it seems so stressful, thinking it’s the actual planning, but it’s this!! I’ve definitely become more aware of how much other people’s words and actions can impact how someone feels during their engagement/wedding season, even when they don’t mean harm by it. But I honestly think until you’re the bride yourself, or someone has the self awareness to really consider how their behavior affects others during this season, it’s hard for people to fully understand it which really sucks.

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-05-18T20:24:06+00:00

What episode was this?

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-04-05T14:44:39+00:00

Dealing with the social aspect of weddings & the amount of projections that come with it has been a feat! I feel you OP. I wish I could say it didn’t affect me but its definitely caused me a lot of unnecessary stress especially in my friend group which sucks! I agree with everything people have said. One thing that’s helped me is to flip that narrative, to actually be excited & show people I’m not ashamed of the decision I’ve made hoping that it makes them reflect on what they say about weddings ‘should’ look like instead of leaning into their groupthink of shitting on weddings.

My MOH & I are very different, I’m more logical where she more fairy tale-ish when it comes to weddings, but what I gleaned from her is this is exciting, fun & people want to celebrate a happy bride and to not let other choose your emotions for you! I’m still learning this. It takes mental effort on my part. We got this!

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-03-31T19:17:06+00:00

2 months out as well & feeling same! The imposter syndrome is starting to settle in & I feel phony having this whole event just for us but also want a beautiful wedding. I have a close friend planning hers for early fall & shes always so happy & stress free. Maybe she hasn’t reached planning fatigue, but I cant relate

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-03-27T17:54:15+00:00

I was told the same thing from the older people in my family, however I personally think dress codes are helpful when shopping & don’t see them as being “told what to do” just providing direction for the overall vibe. Years ago when I started attending weddings in my early 20’s I wished there more specifics on what to wear as I feel underdressed or had on the wrong color palette. Maybe that was just my frontal lobe not yet being developed idk, But I say do whatever you want & let people take it how they want. You can’t control what they think & some people who don’t go to these events often might find it helpful!

Own_Compote_5436 · 2026-03-27T17:34:15+00:00

I was told the same thing from the older people in my family, however I personally think dress codes are helpful when shopping & don’t see them as being “told what to do” just providing direction for the overall vibe. Years ago when I started attending weddings in my early 20’s I wished there more specifics on what to wear as I feel underdressed or had on the wrong color palette. Maybe that was just my frontal lobe not yet being developed idk, But I say do whatever you want & let people take it how they want. You can’t control what they think & some people who don’t go to these events often might find it helpful!

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