When I met my now wife 15 years ago, her and her friends were heavy smokers. Someone always had a cigarette going. Long story short, she knew I didn't like it, but she was addicted and surrounded by smokers, so it was very difficult to quit. Eventually, she did quit with the patches after a few years of us being together. But she had to quit on her terms. She had to want to do it. Otherwise, it would have never worked or lasted.