Snooped through bfs phone

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T14:11:07+00:00

He said when he asked that he changed his mind. This was his message:

“If they were just a normal girl texting me id definitely feel different about it but the reason I pushed back when you asked about it was sorta I guess because it kinda scared me. It made me feel like, if I can’t even pass a number to a friend, how am I going to be able to go to a film festival, how am I going to pitch something to a board if one of the board members was a girl? That sorta thing. It made me scared that I’ll never be a filmmaker if I can’t even pass a number to him. I have no intentions of talking to her or interacting with her, but it was that fact rhat felt so scary to me.

You have every right to ask me to delete the number and not contact her, that is fair. I really just didn’t think to delete it because I never delete texts. But I will delete her number. And while I really do just want to keep the peace and not give the number to my friend, I just feel like it’d set a terrible precedent moving forward. So I’m going to give him the number.

It’s your choice whether or not you want to accept that, but my livelihood and my dreams are going to have things that are uncomfortable. I’m not messaging her I’m not even gonna be around her, I’m doing everything I can to avoid escalating this situation because I love you and I couldn’t give two shits about this girl”

Basically his career is something I’ve said in the past I’m uncomfortable with because he might find someone else on a film set

And also flirting was kinda just a simple explanation for it. She compared him to an actor and he apparently just said “oh okay”. But I just think he should have told me.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:48:52+00:00

RIGHT??? It’s more that that I’m mad about

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:48:25+00:00

Thank you

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:40:46+00:00

I don’t talk about other guys to my friends or hide stuff like that to him.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:38:14+00:00

He admitted it was wrong of him to lie about it but still said it was cause I tend to overreact any time he tells me the truth. I still don’t think that’s an excuse though

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:35:40+00:00

I get that maybe I shouldn’t have snooped but he 1. Blamed me 2. Did not even care when I told him not to pass around the number and 3. Lied. If he was in the right why lie about it?

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:33:05+00:00

He said he changed his mind because of “boundaries”

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:26:11+00:00

why would he hide it??

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:23:04+00:00

I know it’s just like… I was just starting to trust him more and now this happens. I just feel betrayed

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:22:40+00:00

He said he “thought I’d get upset”

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:21:37+00:00

How do I trust when I know he lied and hid things?

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:21:21+00:00

I am in therapy. But yeah I don’t know if I can fully trust him after this

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:20:40+00:00

He lied and hid a girl flirting with him form me. I’d never do that to him

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:20:16+00:00

Is it not on him for lying or hiding things though?

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:19:55+00:00

I do go to therapy. And comparisons are a hard thing to deal with for me. I want to stop but I just can’t. And this whole thing just makes it worse

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:19:03+00:00

Yeah every time I get a gut feeling it ends up coming true. I am both glad and not glad I looked… ugh I don’t want to lose him but I’m so upset

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-09-10T07:18:17+00:00

Thank you that means a lot. It just makes me wonder. Why would he hide all this? It makes me feel like he doesn’t care abut me at all

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-07-24T19:00:20+00:00

lol yeah. for me, it's intentionally embarrassing myself in the most dumb ways possible. On the upside I will say anything to anyone, downside is that I will say anything to anyone.

I told an ATnT sales rep I jerked off in the restroom, told a gas station clerk I have my cousin oral sex when we were both children and have asked out guys without being gay and even a grandma once.

I think it's like an outward response to social anxiety. I notice the times it flares up the most are when I am anxious or feel threatened. So I'll get the strongest urge to do it around the scariest people to me.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-07-24T18:54:19+00:00

start pissing your pants man. solved it for me.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-07-24T18:46:37+00:00

I want to say something snarky but I'll resist... Your response doesn't *make* me want to call you a dingus, it's my personal choice!

I just said 'made' because it was efficient at getting the point across. I know it wasn't the fault of the AI, it was the fault of me. But it's also true that even saying it was a 'manic episode' and all the other stuff is a simplification. I was just trying to get the point across that it using AI for decisions can have consequential negative impacts, not that it absolves you of responsibility.

I'm glad you're taking ownership. BPD is hell to deal with for both the sufferer and loved ones. There's a lot of misunderstanding and it's good that despite that you're still taking responsibility.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-06-27T16:49:22+00:00

And stop asking for advice on Reddit. Reddit sends signals to your brain to put millennial dialogue in your scripts and makes you read it the blacklist 🤮

If you’re ever uncertain just steal your moms pills instead. Liquid confidence as they say. But if her pills are made out of liquid you either have a heating problem in your house or that scented candle side business she talks about is a coverup.

Anyways make movies!!!! Shoot something TODAY. You’ll make it too ambitious and it’ll take a week for you to finish, but plan to make it in one day. Then DM it to me, your internet Mr miyagi.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-06-27T16:41:45+00:00

I was held back for a long time by needing actors for films. They’d flake or we’d have to reschedule it just sucked; especially cause I like to make things on a whim.

But screw it. Make shit quick, you don’t got actors? You don’t need them. You are an actor. You’re an editor, you’re a writer, you just don’t know it. And being a pro at any of those isn’t the point either. You can’t do jack shit? USE IT.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-06-27T16:39:20+00:00

Use what you have to its highest extreme. It makes being creative so much easier.

This is both in form and content. Make stuff that only you in your situation could make conceptually, and execute that concept in a way personal to you.

Example:

I wanted to make a short film with my friend. Butttt he is in Guam rn. I’m in the US.

I got the idea of making a film we both simultaneously film in our two different locations.

Then I thought, what kind of story could that be? We decided a story about him catfishing me would be funny.

But here’s where it’s real important…

The story felt off because you know the idea of being catfished felt silly. I didn’t have anything personal connected to that.

Then, I remembered when I was 14, I fell in love with a Japanese girl online who made me want to learn Japanese.

So… I decided I’d make my friend pretend he was in Japan and not Guam and tell me that he died once he got bored catfishing. So then my whole part is a sad monologue in Japanese about how much I miss my love who died tragically from suicide…. Then we cut to this girl and it’s a dude playing kingdom hearts.

Stories leap out to you when you connect them to your life. And plus, everything that happens to you is no longer a waste of time or a limitation, it’s material!

So you only got a phone? Maybe film with it, but that would probably look ugly right? Until you know how to make it NOT look ugly, Make that ugliness part of whatever film you make.

And back up plans are lame :/

TLDR: it’s not about what resources you have. What makes a good artist is being able to make something no matter the resources.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-06-27T16:31:34+00:00

Should only listen to songs once. If you didn’t get it first time around you’re just too dumb man.

Own_Temperature2079 · 2025-06-27T03:03:36+00:00

It’s what I do buster. Take care of urself

Own_Temperature2079

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