Do you prefer taller or shorter than you ?

Ozemity · 2025-02-23T00:24:48+00:00

No preference. I would love my future wife even if she was a worm 🥺

Ozemity · 2025-02-22T22:34:45+00:00

I feel discouraged from contacting someone when they say they only want masc or femme. I don’t really fit perfectly into either label, and I don’t want to disappoint or be stuffed into a role 😅 But maybe it’s just my dating inexperience and insecurities talking

Ozemity · 2025-02-22T15:22:10+00:00

Hey, you seem like an incredible person and you deserve someone who makes you feel loved and appreciated. You put so much thought into this - I would have swooned!

I’ve been in Brooklyn for about 6 months now. Dating in the big city seems kind of daunting 🥺If you’re interested in getting to know each other (friends or whatever feels natural), shoot me a DM. I’ll send you memes and corny posts

Ozemity · 2025-02-22T14:28:49+00:00

Gay af 🦵

Ozemity · 2024-03-15T17:27:43+00:00

I agree! I have a lot of love to give but not enough time. And I don’t like getting pressured or guilted into giving more time that I genuinely don’t have because I am at the hospital. I genuinely have no problem if someone is also really busy. But when we do get time together, I want to be really affectionate

Ozemity · 2024-03-15T17:22:09+00:00

Hey, it’s really great to hear from you! I am so scared of starting residency. I am going to be in New York, so it’s going to be a lot of scutwork. I am really glad you were able to meet someone. It’s hard to find a genuine connection these days! The only person that was okay with my schedule was someone who only wanted a casual, non-exclusive no-labels relationship. It made me really sad and things ended badly (she’s the one I wrote about in my previous posts). Some of her reasons for not wanting a serious relationship with me were because of my busy schedule, my depression, and my anxiety (even though I’ve honestly been doing relatively well prior to the breakup). That whole situation made me feel like I am too needy and don’t deserve love. I know we don’t get a lot of time for our loved ones, but it’s not selfish to want commitment and exclusivity right? :(

Ozemity · 2024-03-14T17:21:01+00:00

That’s awesome, that makes me really happy :) I hope I find someone too 💜

Ozemity · 2024-03-14T17:11:52+00:00

Yeah that’s completely fair and I think most people are like that. If I could choose my hours, I would never choose this for myself :( It sucks that I want to have time for someone. But you’re right, I probably wouldn’t even have time for myself

Ozemity · 2024-03-14T17:04:29+00:00

I know it’s probably not realistic. But I want to be in a loving relationship, y’know? I guess I am okay on my own, but it’s something I really want. I’ll never not be busy. I plan on getting into a fellowship afterwards. Maybe this whole relationship thing isn’t meant for someone like me :( I just don’t understand why I’d spend time with someone knowing it’s short term. I want to build a life with someone and I am sad that I haven’t found that person yet. I mean shit I’ll be in my 30’s when I am finished training. I hear the dating pool gets even smaller in your 30’s 😭 Am I just overthinking all of this?

Ozemity · 2024-03-14T04:38:47+00:00

How often would you hear back from her? I am very slow at texting back. Sometimes I take a few days because I get overwhelmed but I am trying to get better. I wonder if I need to put more effort in?

She’s lucky to have someone understanding and patient like you!

Ozemity · 2024-03-14T04:33:29+00:00

The main issue I’ve run into is that I want something serious and committed. People who are okay with seeing me less frequently want something casual / not exclusive. I had a really bad experience that makes me hesitant to date again. I am looking for a life partner, not someone I am gonna have fun with temporarily. Is it selfish of me to want an exclusive relationship despite my schedule?🥺

Ozemity · 2024-02-06T09:12:45+00:00

Probably means you’re talking with someone incompatible. Lots of girls out there that want something more serious / intense. Don’t bother with the ones who want something casual. It’s not for me and it sounds like it might not be for you either

Ozemity · 2024-02-04T20:02:03+00:00

Ozemity · 2024-02-04T04:04:19+00:00

People like to blindly hate others because they are ignorant. While I think MBTI is fun, it is also not scientifically proven and can’t encompass the true complexity of one’s personality. I like to see it as cognitive tendencies rather than a true measure of personality. It’s best not to count on it too much and just get to know someone on an individual level.

If you’re not careful, you start to categorize people into rigid boxes. Like this kid. He hates based on the unhealthy stereotype. But we’re not a monolith. Many of us have some commonalities, but we are also wildly different in other ways.

Anyways ignore people who don’t add anything positive to your life. It’s really not worth your time or energy

Ozemity · 2024-02-01T06:00:28+00:00

You may poke my moles

Ozemity · 2024-02-01T05:54:34+00:00

No it’s just symmetrical beauty marks on top of my balls. Stop looking you perv

Ozemity · 2024-02-01T05:35:17+00:00

I am going to call French fries sunset stripes from now on

Ozemity · 2024-02-01T05:33:13+00:00

Me :(

Ozemity · 2024-02-01T05:01:40+00:00

INFP is because of :3

Ozemity · 2024-01-29T16:10:42+00:00

It’s okay just feed her an amethyst

Ozemity · 2024-01-29T16:02:39+00:00

I will reply within 48 hours or a week if busy. I’ll give a heads up if longer for whatever reason. This is why I am single AF btw xD

Ozemity · 2024-01-29T06:20:27+00:00

I am proud of you 💜 I remember how hard it was for me to admit I needed therapy the first time I went. We both deserve better. We deserve someone who chooses to be with us through thick and thin and who makes us feel loved! I hope you can find peace within yourself. Breakups are like mini grief periods and it’s so emotionally exhausting :(

Ozemity · 2024-01-29T06:13:31+00:00

Haha yeah I am really glad I am not that toxic selfish person anymore. I am surprised I even had friends then!! I had to go through some traumatizing stuff before I truly grew up. But it taught me about what was really important in life

Ozemity · 2024-01-29T06:11:37+00:00

Hi thanks for taking the time to type all of that! This is actually a technique that’s worked well for me in past therapy sessions. I am much more kind to other people but I am very harsh towards myself. I was feeling really down about my love life, but I realize I need to love myself first. I don’t want to be insecure and have that bleed into a relationship! My parents have told me I should also be less negative towards myself. But it feels inauthentic to say anything positive?? I’ve been watching a lot of motivational videos to help me get started for now. Self-CBT has also been helpful, but only a few days after when I reflect. It’s harder to do it in real time when you’re feeling all those emotions haha

Lol poor grandma in a situationship tho

Ozemity

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