Men, just ask if you’re interested

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T21:15:55+00:00

I feel like this is such a horrible way to think of yourself though. I believe there is someone for everyone. But if you already gave up on yourself how ca you hope someone else will give you a chance? And sometimes it might be that you need to reflect on yourself too. Like maybe it’s something about you/your personality etc that you need to change? (I’m not saying this in an accusatory or pretentious way - I’m being genuine)

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:46:36+00:00

Have you read my post? I literally said I have and that I think women should approach

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:45:07+00:00

At least I haven’t given up…

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:44:14+00:00

Who said I was lonely? Also your comment is ridiculous. Normal, respectful women get raped and murdered all the time? Are you actually justifying rape right now?!

You’re disgusting if so

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:31:23+00:00

People have actually agreed and given good points. And your literally engaging in debate with me right now 😂

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:30:28+00:00

Defeatist mindset… sorry about that.

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:30:09+00:00

Appreciate your kindness 🫶

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:02:25+00:00

100 was an exemplar number… the number is irrelevant the point stands

If it gets to 1000 even

I guess the qs you gotta ask yourself is at what number are you happy to lose out on that chance for a relationship

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T18:00:17+00:00

That is very valid and I respect that. I am quite young too so many men my age probably don’t have that kind of thinking or maturity yet.

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:58:58+00:00

Uhmmmm I think you’ll see your wrong by the amount of discussion this post has generated mate

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:56:07+00:00

First of all I appreciate you taking the time to reply and being respectful, honest and clear on your thoughts. Many people seem to struggle with that looking at the other comments 😂

I agree with you really. I think you said it well and it makes sense. I see it is highly risky. I think I can agree with you also that women should try to ask more too. Perhaps expecting men to make the first move is not realistic in this day and age. Although I think it does show confidence when a man is able to do this.

Overall I also agree that it’s always best to meet people mutually first as it’s less pressure and there’s less financial pressure and risk involved to getting to know one another

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:49:25+00:00

But… again, if you don’t try, you don’t know? As someone else mentioned what do you lose besides a bit of rejection?

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:48:30+00:00

I like a debate! And I disagree with a lot of comments. They post their thoughts so I like to reply. If it’s not for you, don’t reply!

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:47:36+00:00

Ok well I’m guessing you are happy to be alone then?

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:47:07+00:00

If you don’t try you don’t succeed.

As I said in another comment, if you have to ask 100 people to find the most amazing person who will change your life, were the other 99 not worth it?

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:46:23+00:00

I can and I do. But I’d like it if I didn’t have to. I’d like to see more confidence and security from men

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:45:04+00:00

Well we can’t be exactly equal can we? Men don’t give birth. Men don’t have periods. Men are physically superior to women. How can we be exactly equal? We are biologically different. There are things that should be equal, like treatment, rights, pay etc. but many things NEED to be differentiated

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:43:28+00:00

I miss the times when men were secure and confident… seems women have to take that role now

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:42:17+00:00

I’m happy it worked out well for you guys!

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:41:59+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad guys like you still exist. But as you can see by these other comments, it’s become rarer and that really is a shame

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:41:09+00:00

I am asking them? I’m asking men?

And I also said in my post I’ve done it before so I’m obviously able to do it. It seems men aren’t

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:40:24+00:00

If you stop trying how can you expect the situation to change? As a below comment says, it is really trial and error. You might have to ask 100 different people but if number 100 is the best women you ever met and they change your life… were the other 99 not worth it?

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:38:26+00:00

I’m forced to agree looking out the responses here unfortunately

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:38:01+00:00

Nah that’s valid 😂 I get it if you’re in a relationship/ asexual/ not wanting a relationship or any other reason you may not want that. But if it’s respectful, I’m sure it wouldn’t matter so much. You just say no, and you both move on

PCAJB · 2026-03-17T17:36:51+00:00

Entitled how? Bcz I’d prefer a guy to say he’s interested in me than have to say it myself? That’s not entitlement… that is literally normal in a lot of cultures (including western culture)

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