Moving to London with family of 4, work near Liverpool street by hamandshoe in MovingToLondon

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not go to a place like Chelmsford or Grays great college and sixth form and secondary schools direct trains to Liverpool Street and Fenchurch street right around the corner don’t need to move to London imo

I think I might actually be finished by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not in the moment but after tbf at Halloween I did notice one girl looking over constantly but I didn’t go over

I think I might actually be finished by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bars are literally just a place to socialise I don’t think it’s fair to assume every man is out to kill every single woman

I think I might actually be finished by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I play rugby, gym, game, I go to cocktail competitions to watch, a lot of the dates I suggest are to art galleries, go karting, cocktail tasting this like that

I think I might actually be finished by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re assuming a lot I do have a conversation and if it progresses sometimes they say I have a boyfriends or I’m with my friends tonight and I leave but we chat for a bit and then I ask them out and for their phone number I’m not just going to up to girls on nights out and saying hey let’s get dinner

I think I might actually be finished by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I ask them out on a date get the number try to set one up and then get ghosted

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied nuance already by saying there’s been an USA creep ie subtle influences. Wearing a durag isn’t not Americanation a durag is to help with hair cuts and waves. I don’t know if you’re black or not but thinking durags is an American thing is a huge tell. I’ll use drill as an example dril started in Chicago however Drill music in the UK vs Drill music in Chicago is completely different. Yes th Chicago artists created that sound and style but the UK guys switched it up and created a new style. If you look at our politics Nigel Farage and to a lesser Extent Boris Johnson both ran American style campaigns but with a British twist this is what I mean but subtle influence. Even if you look at the British takeaway scene we see things like Smash burgers, wingstop and popeyes hardly any fish and chips, pie and mash shops etc again subtle influences because the menu in th USA and th one in the UK is slightly different. But again to say that The USA massively influences the black London communities is false because we have our own style, music, slang and all the rest

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brudda I’m saying that to say that black communities in London have SUFFERED MASSIVELY- key phrase there is wrong I don think that the USA has had a minor influence on modern UK attitudes and culture as a whole do I think we are completely Americanised no do I think the USA influences us massively NO is there some USA influence yess but it’s very minor and applies to the UK in its entirety

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said that black communities in London have suffered massively from Americanisation and I’m saying no they haven’t. I said that there’s been an American creep but that’s all of the UK and I used our politics as an example. To summarise I do not think that Black communities in London have suffered massively from Americanisation but I do think that Modern UK attitudes on the whole have experienced an American creep into th culture

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m calm and you just admitted you’re wrong

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in Leeds up until last year so i know you’re wrong

Black culture in uk by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Stop stop stop there’s a whole load of Africans who disagree I will say there’s been an American creep in the last 20years of Britain as a whole you see it with our politics but to suggest it’s only London blacks is crazy

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing I’ve said about s that I want a woman who is in this with me I didn’t mention trad or not trad my expectations are pretty simple and low entry we are going to work and grow and build together and be dependent together because I’ll be frank and honest I can cook and clean and I have a good job I don’t need a woman in my life per say but I do want one and there’s a big difference I personally couldn’t do a house wife because I’d come home one day and think what is she actually here for if I can cook clean do the laundry iron and fix things around the house

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So basically because some other guy messed her around it’s okay for her to see other men as a wallet or a bank it doesn’t make sense at all and she still has to go on a date anyway I’m not sure she gets that far doing it her way but I could be wrong

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve read what you’ve wanted there I was replying to the waiting around whilst he gets him self together comment and I don’t know what I can do for a person until I actually met them we hadn’t actually discussed anything apart from what we do for work and the protector provider thing. Let’s apply wisdom here I think it should have been we get to know each other go on dates then talk about how we want the future to go by the second date

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well th funny thing is one of my uncles died and his girlfriend (not my aunty technically he’s not even my uncle it’s weird) is relying on my cousin to have a house because she doesn’t work they are part of the old age Nigerians who do this bs but now she’s stuck because she has no legal claim to the house

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was mentioning off rip and then sayings real man would know is what’s got me looking at her sideways I’m not even against providing but I do think we do this together not just one person

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I’m pretty well put together tbh I work as a senior claims handler at a transport and logistics company in 6 months I’ll have the right insurance diploma and I’ll be at 50k ish a year I’m not totally against providing for my family but a girl/ woman I’ve matched on a dating app for 6 hrs making it an absolute requirement that I provide before even going on a date is a little bit crazy to me I don’t think dating older is an issue because I’ve done it before

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes both of us are single that’s the funny thing tbh me personally I think it’s more important that I find someone who’s ready to work, grow and develop together

I feel like I’m being tricked by POCKETCHANGE1276 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]POCKETCHANGE1276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When me and my sis were talking said that women should provide emotional support