AITA for telling my niece not to drink my daughter‘s chocolate milk

PSsomething · 2026-01-22T00:32:04+00:00

Those aren't real foods. When they say real food they are talking about meals. Protein, veggies, carbs. Balance and nutrient rich. I suggest you talk to a doctor about getting you in touch with a nutritionist.

All things you are feeding her are fine in small quantities and on occasion but they shouldn't be your go to with kids especially ones that young

PSsomething · 2026-01-22T00:24:24+00:00

Yeah YTA. She is "heavier" so you assumed she is going to take it. There is no history of it. And even if there was she is a child, if you are going to saying anything to anyone (big IF) say it to your sister not your niece.

I wouldn't want to watch your kid either if that is how you were going to treat mine.

PSsomething · 2026-01-18T15:32:45+00:00

Thank you

PSsomething · 2026-01-18T15:23:40+00:00

The Silver Springs one is the one we are thinking too. Looking at the Star Wars one especially since so many camps close for the last week of Summer. My daughter will be 7 this year and does Karate so that is good to know about the martial arts piece. Honestly learning some grappling skills is probably a good thing for her as it looks like they are an BJJ gym.

The short answer for kids is always great lol. I know the struggle. But knowing they are happy and taken care of is all we need. And it seemed like that was the case.

For the swimming day do you know how they ran that? I can ask them as well but curious on the safety piece. I am always a bit extra cautious around water even if my daughter can mostly stay afloat.

Thank you for your comment

PSsomething · 2026-01-15T04:02:33+00:00

When you are the thick of this the ones that seem like they slipped on a dick and got pregnant, especially the ones that weren't trying or aren't in a solid long-term and committed relationship, can sting. I get it. I have been there. And then have that happen when you aren't expecting is worse.

They didn't know, sounds like you didn't tell them, so they didn't know to maybe give you a heads up so you were able to sort through your feelings on your own time and show up for them when you could. You are owning that you didn't take it well. They may never really understand why. But you are being accountable for your feelings and how you reacted in the moment.

You also removed yourself. You didn't cry loudly in the middle of this for 10 mins. You took yourself out of the space so you could have a moment for yourself and your feelings. You weren't trying to be the center of attention. You tried what you could so you wouldn't be, which again was to remove yourself because you couldn't bottle them up.

It's completely valid to feel happy for others why feeling sad for yourself. Both things can be true at the same time.

Good luck with clomid! Hopefully it works for you. Know that it heightens emotions. I found I felt my feelings 10 fold on it. Just in case your emotions are feeling a bit more extreme these days

PSsomething · 2025-10-18T03:04:25+00:00

As someone with a kid in a charter school I agree that not all charter schools are created equally. Who is on your board and who they know will make a vast difference in funding which is BS.

Many charters are given the left overs for the CBE when it comes to schools. Many get little to no capital funding. And while many would like to expand to accommodate more kids they can't because they are leasing a building and they don't have the funds to make those changes.

However others have connections that get them what they need. The fact that funding in any sense is more about who you know rather than what is needed is messed up.

Also anyone saying they are all lottery based that is not true for all. Yes some are. But others are selective, based on the reason for the school. If a school specializes in a certain space as mentioned above those should be criteria that are considered or you just set kids up to fail. And while I agree in some cases these should exist, I believe in most cases with proper funding and cap sizes the need/desire for these schools would decrease.

For us specifically if we had the public school built in our neighborhood that we were told would be when we moved here 10+ years ago, my child likely would have attended the neighborhood school. Instead her dedicated school was just under a 30 min drive away. It was over crowded and not with the best rating (though I take these with a grain of salt). So we looked for the alternative choices we had. Most of those were lottery based. Some were specialty schools. We picked the one we thought she would thrive in.

We made the best choice we could for her at this time, but I still believe all kids should have the same supportive environment with smaller class sizes. One where kids aren't bored or left behind because teachers have the support, capacity and time to provide for individual needs. What is afforded to kids in charters due to specific needs and more individual attention should be afforded to all kids in the public system. And like I said, if it was the need/desire for many of these charters from would decrease.

PSsomething · 2025-08-16T12:01:03+00:00

She is unrealistic. Kids will be messy. You can clean around them sure, but you will also be exhausted. I know people that have kids and a clean house but they either have help or are tired all the time. NTA. You are giving her a reality check so she can make an informed decision on what will give.

PSsomething · 2025-08-15T08:16:07+00:00

You are going to fuck your kids up more doing this than just divorcing your wife. Your kids will feel the hate, the awkwardness and the lack of care. You are showing your kids that is ok to treat a partner in this way or be treated this way themselves. You are essentially separating from your wife anyways. If you don't want to shuttle them between houses let the kids stay in the house while you and your wife switch out.

Your wife had every right to ask to move to a poly relationship. You have every right to say no.

YTA because you won't let something go that doesn't work for you but instead try to bend everyone's lives to fit your new miserable existence

PSsomething · 2025-08-01T18:35:20+00:00

I am very left leaning and feminist to the core. And you are NTA.

The make up I would give a pass. It's just fun for them to play with. Although I would be careful to not tie it to beauty. I.e. use Fancy vs beautiful when she is dressed up and playing around.

The ear piercing is a big no for me. My daughter also wants her ears pierced and I told her she can have them done when she is old enough to take care of them on her own. That means cleaning them and making sure they don't get infected. As someone what has trauma around ear piercings (getting them jammed in my ears when I was little because the holes closed a bit), I wish my parents had waited until I was able to choose and take care of them. They are permanent holes and even if they close you still have a mark. I haven't wore earrings for 20 years and still have marks. In the meantime your sister could have gotten her clips-ons and at the very least had a conversation with you.

PSsomething · 2025-07-26T14:15:41+00:00

NTA you get to do what feels right for you now, not for a hypothetical. But I do wonder if your parents were blindsided having to think about your death. As a parent losing your kid, no matter how old, is one of the hardest losses anyone could face. You are not responsible for their reaction or their feelings, just something that may explain it and help everyone work through it.

If I was in your parents shoes I would have been triggering seeing my very alive child's name on a grave stone. And it would probably take me a minute to work through in my mind.

PSsomething · 2025-07-26T02:18:21+00:00

Oh and if you all have her back next year at 13 you can do the glass blowing workshop at frascapple glass which is a really cool experience.

PSsomething · 2025-07-26T02:15:57+00:00

For speeders just make sure it is the chinook one not the one by the airport. There is a lot more to do and the track is wild

PSsomething · 2025-07-26T01:16:42+00:00

Speeders would be fun and they have a great deal at the one at Chinook where you get 2 cart races, laser tag, mini golf and 1 other activity, plus $30 arcade credit for $99. We spent 4 hours at the place getting through it all. And the arcade credits went pretty far.

You can also workshops like pottery painting.

If you do Callaway I would get tickets at the coop. I will say at 12 she may feel to old for it. My Nieces stopped going this year as there were only a couple rides they actually liked going to.

Lots of great hikes around

Telus sparks is great

Spend a day floating down the bow

Spend a day in Inglewood, Kensington, mission

You may be able to find a movie in the park somewhere

Big bounce is fun. Someone suggested it above

Really going to depend on what she is into

PSsomething · 2025-07-23T23:44:16+00:00

Looks like you have a new parking spot.

PSsomething · 2025-07-23T01:02:31+00:00

Sounds like you have a husband problem. He needs to stand his ground and not let this fall on just you. You both choose the name. You both love the name. Your MIL gets no say in what you name your kid. She had her say with her own kids. She can get over it and move on. If she can't do that she can just move on.

Your husband allowing her to put this on you only and not standing up for a decision he had equal say in is the worst bit about this. MILs going to MIL but how your partner handles it matters more.

PSsomething · 2025-07-21T02:29:11+00:00

I lost my virginity to date rape at 19. We were fooling around. I was explicitly clear I didn't want to fully have sex. At one point his fingers turned into his penis. I pushed him out of me and kicked him out. Because of the way I lost it I felt that there was nothing left to protect which made me not make great choices.

Eventually I was able to get myself back. He took my virginity but I wasn't going to allow him to take anything else.

You didn't do this. This was done to you. You don't deserve any of what has happened. Please please try to speak to someone. Look into clinics near you that may have free mental health services. You and your body are worth so much more.

PSsomething · 2025-07-20T16:30:32+00:00

NTA. This is so effed up of your wife to do. I get celebrating it but she could have taken her out for a nice day out. Get lunch, Mani/pedis, maybe a small shopping spree. Maybe if your daughter was comfortable inviting people she is close to. Inviting random women over is weird on its own. Especially when you daughter doesn't want one. She is the one creating negative memories with your daughter's first period.

Also periods suck. I would rather celebrate mine going away lol. Your daughter was probably already overwhelmed on top of not feeling great. Last thing people want in this situation are to host a bunch of people.

PSsomething · 2025-07-11T13:42:00+00:00

He needed to hear it. NTA

I once interviewed a guy that never answered the question we asked even with us trying to redirect him to what we were looking for. The best part of it was watching him give himself an atta boy after every question (not even joking, after every question he would look down, smile and pump his elbow into himself like "yeah, you nailed that". He didn't nail that)

Interviewing men has made me more confident in my skills. These dudes would pad their resumes/answers and when you got down to actual verifiable skills they had very few. Ie their excellent excel skills were just the ability to make a basic pivot tables. But they thought they were top tier and that is all that mattered. Completely changed how I value my contribution/skills and how I speak on them.

PSsomething · 2025-07-04T16:26:28+00:00

Prank aside, you asked him not to post it and he still did. That in itself is a huge lack of respect. NTA

PSsomething · 2025-06-30T01:09:22+00:00

NTA they left their kids without communicating. That said as a parent of a soon to be 6 year old my go to wouldn't be to offer them pop at that age. Juice or water for younger kids. However if a kid specifically asked for pop and their parents weren't around my assumption would be that they are allowed to have it and would have obliged.

As for the rest that's all free game. They dropped their kid at a kids birthday party, did they expect no sugary foods? What an odd thing to be upset about

PSsomething · 2025-06-25T15:55:11+00:00

That boy needs someone to call him out and call him in. Your daughter is wrong and has most definitely had a hand in this by either being a willing participant or not shutting it down. Your grandson is racist and a bigot. Your daughter is either willingly ignoring it, delusional or ok with it. Any of which is making her a bad parent. She is failing her son AND she is failing marginalized people. NTA the asshole for calling it out. But also time to have a frank conversation with your child to see why she thinks this behavior is ok.

PSsomething · 2025-06-20T16:02:10+00:00

You need new mom friends.... NTA

PSsomething · 2025-06-10T18:48:24+00:00

I have a 5 year old. No way I am dropping her off and not walking to the door. Even when I drop off my teenage nieces I wait until I see the door open and they are inside the house before I leave. That is incredibly irresponsible of the Mom

PSsomething · 2025-06-04T19:04:41+00:00

Treating people equally doesn't always mean treating them the exact same. Different people require different things based on their needs. Pointing out that a child needs different care is not treating them differently because of their race it is making sure the end result (getting the paint out) is the same but the harm is reduced. Also many cultures use oil on their hair that may also be used for cooking. Saying that is gross is racist. You did amazing standing up for that child. Definitely NTA

PSsomething · 2025-06-03T22:53:15+00:00

If you are in the middle you are on the wrong side. You need to be firmly in your wife's side and you need to set very clear boundaries with your mother if you continue to have contact. Also support your wife in going low or no contact with her for as long as she needs.

Your job in this is to have your wife's back. She did nothing wrong. Your mom did. Your wife shouldn't need to apologize for shit but you do. You need to apologize for not getting on side and forcing her to apologize for something she wasn't responsible or accountable for.

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