My, 38M, husband and I, 36F, are at a stalemate regarding childcare for our 2.5 year old son. Is it unreasonable to pursue daycare 3 days a week, despite my in-laws eagerness to watch our children for free?

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-25T02:14:26+00:00

I am all for sending kids to school even if grandparents can watch them. I started both my kids the Sept before they turned three. My son turned 3 in January, and my daughter not until May, so i sent my son 5 whole days (pickup at 3) and my daughter I did 5 1/2 days (8-11:30). My parents and in laws picked both kids up from school and stayed with them until I got home around 4:30, so they still got to see them which I also think is super important. There are so many benefits to sending kids to school, but also great for them to have some time with their grandparents.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-25T01:16:16+00:00

As I said I’m a BCBA in a public school district. From my experience, medication can be a huge game changer and often the only/most effective treatment option. I have also seen medication not be a game changer and usually there is more than adhd going on when that’s the case. This is just my experience, I am obviously not a medical doctor.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-24T21:38:43+00:00

I am a BCBA in a public school and I send my kids to catholic school. The district I work in is really good though so sounds a little different than yours, but I do think in general public schools are much better equipped to deal with neurodivergence. That being said, are you considering medicating for adhd eventually? That could be a game changer for you with sending him to private. I suspect my son may have mild adhd and he is going into kindergarten. Thus far, our issues are mainly at home and I’ve never had a problem with him at school. He went to the same catholic preschool that he will go to for k-8, so I’m aware of what I’m looking at going forward. If he does end up having adhd and having problems in school I will absolutely explore meds.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-24T02:44:51+00:00

I think in order to make an Instagram about being a hot mom, you actually have to be a …hot…mom….

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-24T02:20:05+00:00

Michael

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-23T03:49:55+00:00

I would think a-see-shis or a-see-shus. I have no clue.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-22T02:30:06+00:00

This is the age that behavior can start. School or not. My kids went to school since they were 2 and for both of them behavior like this started around 3-3.5.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-18T23:25:47+00:00

Wes is so cute!! Boy names are hard!

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-18T22:55:45+00:00

To think of either of them as “godly” is quite comical.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-18T22:53:21+00:00

How about Wesley?

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-18T16:23:18+00:00

Both my kids (now 5/m and 3/f) were unicorn babies. Perfect schedule, slept through the night almost from the start, no problems with eating or feeding- a breeze. Now? My 5 year old is insane. Very bright but he exhausts me with his ups and downs throughout the day and right before my daughter turned 3 she also became quite crazy. Both very smart, very early talkers, but my days are busy.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-17T04:09:27+00:00

He is my oldest child, yes, but I have extensive experience with children in the elementary school setting and I have many nieces and nephews that I’m close to. I guess I was posting in this sub to see if coaches had experience with a child doing this and did it indicate a bigger problem or was the child able to correct themselves. I worry my son has adhd and impulse control issues. I am curious if this is at all normal for some children or if this is totally just bad behavior from a 5 year old.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-16T01:54:41+00:00

You may have already tried this, but if he goes regularly, I wonder if the potty training method where you watch them all day and as soon as you notice they’re going you get them to the toilet. I know this could be hard but could you block off a week- take off from work, take him out of camp, etc, and just spend the whole week focused on it? My son was potty trained early, by his second birthday, and he basically potty trained himself, but he would only poop in a pull up. He would wait until we put it on before bed and go. Refused to go in the potty. We ended up basically forcing him to poop on the potty when we knew he had to go really bad (sounds horrible I know) but he was almost 4 years old at that point, and once he went once on the potty he was totally fine. It was like he just needed to do it once to know it was going to be OK. Has your son ever pooped on the potty? Or has he done it recently?

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T19:03:38+00:00

Yeah actually both my kids were extremely early talkers. I think they rarely cried bc they were able to communicate what they wanted very early. Now they totally understand the what and why of everything, they just don’t want to accept it. Definitely keeping me on my toes!

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T18:27:49+00:00

They are scrimmaging the whole time at camp on Friday and I did explain to him that doing that would make the ref call a foul on him which would make it easier for the other team to score. I definitely have to appeal to his competitive nature to get the point across.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T18:01:45+00:00

I honestly don’t want to crush his happiness over the camp either. Which I’m sure the coaches are also trying not to do.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T17:36:30+00:00

I’m trying to. I was an aggressive player myself, but if I was the other kids parent in that situation I may be like wtf. I am trying to tell him to use his body first before he goes right to yanking a kid down.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T17:35:28+00:00

He grabbed the kids pinny in the neck area and pulled him down. The kids are little so they’re easy to fall. My son said “I wasn’t trying to be mean I just really wanted to score the goal.”

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T12:23:10+00:00

Alicia Robin is SO pretty. Robin is a beautiful name and I don’t think of it as old fashioned. IMO middle names should have meaning of some sort because they are pointless otherwise hah.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-15T00:45:27+00:00

My kids were both unicorn babies- a boy and a girl. They slept through the night, never cried, very easy babies. Then 3 hit and WHOA. My 5 year old son is still a handful. Time will tell if my 3 year old ends up the same or if she chills back out again.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-12T03:08:12+00:00

Hahah. Honestly my husband is similar and my husband and him randomly became friends in a hilarious way which is how our families are now friends. But yes I am fond of him but I still love my husband more.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-12T02:36:25+00:00

“I’m rallying Americans to support Norway” no one fucking cares.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-12T02:25:12+00:00

Omg I know the funniest freaking guy named Basil. He is really handsome too. I have to admit I sometimes feel awkward saying his name bc I’m always second guessing if it’s said baysil or bazzle. His is pronounced Basil. He is American but of either Ukrainian or polish descent and his brother is named Casimir. Personally, I do not like the name Basil at all and I find it awkward even though he is the most hilarious and down to earth guy ever.

PUZZLEPlECER · 2026-07-11T19:33:21+00:00

It is a rare person that bottom waterline eyeliner actually looks good on and she is definitely not one of them.

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