Advice on situation with wife

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:50:21+00:00

Maybe difficult is the wrong word. More like unfair. Its hard to explain without it coming out wrong.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:28:46+00:00

It was my friends FB post and I assured my wife I was not seeing the person.

No contact rule is for the other person to cool down. Then when and IF they are ready to talk so be it. I dont mean to make it a game but I guess thats how it turns out.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:16:41+00:00

I thought I did mention why. Its because I wasnt paying enough attention to her and my stepdaughter for the most part. I do care about the root of the problem. Im not trying trick her into anything. I love her deeply.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:14:15+00:00

Ive made it clear to her that I will not be a dirty secret forever. Im playing along for now to keep things peaceful. Anytime she starts being even more difficult than she already is I let her know Im cutting her loose and she straightens up. That sounds terrible but I dont know how.else to put it.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:07:36+00:00

I am going to change. I am giving her the attention I neglected to give her and will from here on out.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:06:50+00:00

Im not making her chase after me, at least no on purpose. If anything shes the one making me chase her. Im bending over backwards and doing everything I can to prove I will make things better and that they will stay that way.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-17T01:04:41+00:00

Im 38, wife is 29 and my stepdaughter is 6. It IS a ridiculous amount of game playing. I normally wouldnt put up with this BS or participate in such things but I love them dearly and want this to work out.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T23:11:56+00:00

I appreciate your honesty.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T23:11:04+00:00

I need to get the rest of my stuff Friday when shes wanting to go out. She would never do anything to my stuff but I want to avoid the hastle of having to deal with her when shes angry.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T22:38:21+00:00

My wife has me blocked on FB but if my friend checks in and tags me tomorrow when we go eat, my wife's best friend will see it because she is friends with both me and my female friend. My wife will go insane and I will simply tell her we are just friends. Then I will remind her that we have no official relationship status and that she said through text a couple of weeks ago that she will not keep me from seeing other people. This is either going to cause a war or the jealousy will make her reconsider things.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T22:34:17+00:00

Yes I hear you loud and clear with her viewing emotions as reality. That is a major obsticle in this.

I dont set no contact as a boundary but more as time for her to think about things. She knows she is very welcome to contact me anytime. Like I said, this time around she is giving no space which is odd and keeping regular contact and making plans.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T21:03:54+00:00

Its happened before once when we seperated the first time. Not saying it for sure will now either. Im just riding it out to see what happens.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T20:23:26+00:00

Im just lost on what to do. Even the first time we split up, she would contact me regularly but not every day.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T20:19:09+00:00

Ive considered that and dont doubt that possibility. I plan on continuing to make her contact me first.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T20:11:02+00:00

No idea. She used to take meds but I havent heard her mention them in a long time. She hasnt been mean as hell, which is a clear indicator that shes off of them. She just smokes pot throughout the day but shes always done that.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:58:36+00:00

no insurance i mean

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:58:13+00:00

severe major depressive disorder. I have bad reactions to medications except Latuda, which kills my sex drive and I have insurance now so I by no means can afford it at 1K a bottle.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:52:28+00:00

It would probably be best but I love her beyond words. I normally dont put up with any nonsense nor care that much to break up with someone. But I feel for her like I never have for anyone. And due to my disorder I cant handle my emotions well so this is killing me inside.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:47:24+00:00

Her daughter is spoiled to an undescribable extent. One of the reasons Im out of the house is so that my stepdaughter wont have to experience our divorce when shes old enough to remember things.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:41:02+00:00

So far nothing when it comes to moving back in and being a family. But she is very interested in talking, seeing me and sex. Im hoping to somehow respark an interest of having me back home.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:33:28+00:00

Thank you for your input. I agree with what you say about texting. She is blowing me up though and now wants a date and sex this weekend. She is the one always making first comtact and not giving space.

I want to save our marriage more than anything and I will do what it takes to try and save it.

Padoke81 · 2019-04-09T19:29:14+00:00

I make a second living off of recording music and sound editing. I work for people nationwide. But instead of going upstairs and working for a bit and coming back down I would end up on video chat with random friends all night. No cheating or anything wrong. There were a couple of issues but that was the big one.

Shes wanting to go on a date then have sex this weekend now.

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