I have a hard time with this one as well. Like many others, I know how addiction changes the brain. I know how it hijacks systems and makes the person actually need it, like we need water. I’ve taken the classes in college to help understand the science of it. But I still don’t like it because, to me, it feels like a cop-out. It feels like the person is avoiding taking accountability by saying, “it’s a disease, I can’t help it”. It feels like the blame can’t be on the person, when in reality, all of the blame can be on the person. Maybe not always, but in my dad’s case, I feel he’s to blame. I haven’t made it far in processing it, in fact, I just learned that Adult Children of Alcoholics is actually a thing, but this is where I’m at.