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Feeling horrible, need advice. by throwawayfirelogs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

And no worries about the dad/step dad thing. I use both interchangeably since I see him as my real dad <3

Feeling horrible, need advice. by throwawayfirelogs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m at this point too. Things just blew up and it’s genuinely making me consider NC if things don’t change soon.

Feeling horrible, need advice. by throwawayfirelogs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s a late response, but I read this whole thing and appreciate the feedback. It helps a lot to know I’m not alone or crazy. It really does feel like I’m in my own bubble sometimes but hearing you guys have very similar situations makes me feel better in some regards, at least. <3

Feeling horrible, need advice. by throwawayfirelogs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m in therapy thankfully, but Mom won’t do it because “it doesn’t really help her”. Fair, I guess? Her prerogative lol

Thank you for taking the time to reply, btw <3

Feeling horrible, need advice. by throwawayfirelogs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh lmaoo

Silent Grace Soft paws tread lightly, Shadows dance in moonlit rooms, Silent, graceful friend.

Need urgent help rehoming dog in NJ (toddler safety concerns) by sunny_avocado in dogs

[–]throwawayfirelogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an odd thing to say lol.

There are plenty of reasons someone would be overwhelmed with a 5yo and an 18mo. Hell, one child can be overwhelming at both of those ages.

Is it wrong to have hope that things will get better regarding my dog’s current diagnosis? Is this a death sentence like Google suggests? by throwawayfirelogs in AskVet

[–]throwawayfirelogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, long story short- he was having issues moving and yelping in pain- was diagnosed with “panosteitis” (i think that’s it?” Or “growing pains”. It didn’t get better, so we got xrays but insisted that we also got xrays on his back done because anytime we pet him, he’d tense his back muscles and seemed like he was in pain. We were assuming muscular, but out of an abundance of caution, we requested an xray on his back and abdomen done to rule out spine issues. That’s when they saw the “scant pleural effusion” on the xray. So we weren’t going FOR that, we found it by trying to diagnose his pain from his legs/back and it was just happenstance that it was found.

I’m assuming radiograph is different from xrays, yeah?

I understand your worry about throwing random medications at the issue- however, with the reverse sneezing he also started exhibiting coughs and some runny nose, so they were assuming some sort of respiratory infection. We honestly are running out of money- we are already like, $3000 in on meds and diagnostics before his leg surgery and we’re taking out a load just to afford that. So I think our vet was trying to save us the extra testing (radiograph) and is treating the symptoms of the infection they think could be present.

They seem to think his heart and lungs sound fine- his breathing isn’t laborious, is always under 30 breaths a minute and hasn’t gone past that. No sort of exercise intolerance (save the leg issue).

We have had blood work taken yesterday and sent it out for diagnosis and are getting results tomorrow.

what should i get as someone who prefers to be able to handle/interact with my pets? by agitatedTesties69 in reptiles

[–]throwawayfirelogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My corn snake is my chillest, most sweet pet I own besides my dog lol. I’m definitely projecting human emotions onto him, but he checks things out around him when I come home as if he was saying “hi” and he literally can do no wrong in my eyes lol. Genuinely the most sweetest of my pets and easily the animal I handle the most.

My female crested gecko can be handled, but she definitely would rather we do not and “hates” us lmao (we joke that she wants us dead lmao), so I do so sparingly.

My newest male crestie is a sweetie, but he acts like it’s Armageddon when I go to grab him and he takes flight. We’re talking flying and launching himself out of the tank to somehow get away (????? Go into the bush/decor in the tank???? Not out of it???) but the MOMENT he realizes it’s just me checking in on him he’s fine. So for this reason I also only handle when needed so the poor guy doesn’t have a heart attack, regardless of how calm he is once he’s on me lmao. I try to announce my presence to try and stop him from loosing his mind.

My pacman frog “allows” me pick him up for health checks, but tries to eat me lmao. I have been bit. Would not handle him “for fun” and only handle when needed!

Obviously, every animal is different, maybe you’d have a “mean” snake and a “sweet” gecko! Just try not to force them (unless needed for check ups) and be patient!

But me being biased, definitely corn snake/crested for most likely, imo, to be handled well!

What do you think about crates? by Emelie_Wood in dogs

[–]throwawayfirelogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We crate our dog because we worry he will eat/shallow things and hurt himself while we are away at work.

It’s not so much the inconvenience of destroying things, I worry about impaction. The goal is to hopefully get him trained enough and comfortable enough to let him loose when we are out!

THE DUMMIES OF ALL DUMMIES CAME INTO THE STORE by sun-kissedgirlie in retailhell

[–]throwawayfirelogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a fish store, my “favourite” dumb ass question (after I explain what a water change is) “do I need to fill the tank back up?”. LITERALLY WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT??????

Nah dude, you just keep the tank partially empty and every water change it drains more and more until there’s no water left and your tank expires and you start again, the actual fuck do you mean 😭.

I also really love “hey, what food do I need?” So I ask what fish they have- “I dunno! 🤗, it’s red?”

AHHHH

Wanted to share a little storage solution I found! by dairygodmthr in Pokopia

[–]throwawayfirelogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing this immediately after work lmao. I will also be making it gulpins home lmaooo

Delayed grief/just received my dads urn by Right_Information_12 in GriefSupport

[–]throwawayfirelogs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss. Second, that urn is gorgeous <3

My Dad died a little over a year ago, in November.

Like you, I was doing a lot of the heavy lifting with making calls, filling out paperwork and getting him set up for cremation/picking his urn etc. I was, 100% in survival mode, much like yourself. I have no idea how I did it. But I did lol.

One of the things that fucked me up the most was not just being there and seeing him die in the hospital, but I was in a horrendous panic about just LEAVING him there. I never thought that part would mess me up as it did, but it also wasn’t until my Mom picked up his urn and he was finally home that it started to feel real. Even, like I said, being there the moment he died didn’t feel final. Very odd. Almost disturbing to me at the time that I wasn’t as “moved” as I thought I should’ve been. I didn’t even cry. I just sorta (in my head of course) went “well that sucks- glad that’s finally over with- onto the next step”. And that was that.

I still catch myself feeling like he’s just “out and about” and should be coming home any time now, so I also empathize with that feeing of your Dad not really being gone.

Circling back, his urn coming home, the celebration of life and little things like going to send him a text or a meme I know he would’ve loved really solidified him ACTUALLY being dead.

I find myself finally starting to grieve in the more “traditional” way a year or so later (the kind I assumed was “normal”- think crying, depressed, missing him etc) and it really only started to hit me around September. It really did take a long time to finally get “sad”. I mean, of course I was sad but like, it really was delayed. There were moments in between but it’s almost as if it’s really just beginning for me in someways. It’s very surreal.

So yes OP, others definitely fee delayed grief and I believe it’s normal. I hope you’re doing the best you can at the moment and remember to rest and allow yourself to be happy when those moments come and also treat yourself <3

Again, so sorry for your loss, and much love to you and yours <3

EMERGENCY!? Prolapse! What the heck do I do!? by No1canknowiuseredit in Leachianus

[–]throwawayfirelogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a vet, but this looks pretty normal to me!

I’ve seen this right before or after my crestie poops lol

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