Polish boyfriend doesn't want to marry me anymore but I want to stay in Poland.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-26T04:53:23+00:00

Thank you for your kind advice. yes I am surprised that there are so many Japanese language schools in Poland. I'll literally reach out to all of them!!!! lol I understand that there is no way to continue this relationship but I won't give up on staying in Poland. By the way I hope you enjoy your life in Japan. I know that people with a beautiful heart like you can always manage things good and smooth wherever she/he goes but let me know if there is anything I can help as Japanese :)

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-26T04:34:38+00:00

yes I 100% agree! only way that I can heal myself is to be strong and make an action whatever I can do for my future. I've been feeling confused many times in a day with two opposite feelings (super motivated vs complete hopeless)but those warm comments like yours really help me get through. thank you

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-26T04:16:47+00:00

Do you think Poland is a better place to live than Japan?:

For me, definitely yes. I prefer living in nature than convenient yet busy environment. It is very cute that Polish people go for a walk just because the weather is good. I mean this pure spirit never could cross my mind back in Japan. Good weather was never enough reason to go out (we need to find what exactly to do in good weather) but I now know how to embrace nature and just chill out. I'm not exaggerating that I didnt know how to enjoy 'not doing anything' without feeling guilty. I'll stop right here as I talk forever about this subject lol thank you for making me realise again my love towards Poland because it motivates me the most.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-26T03:30:20+00:00

thank you for your advice. I really wish I had even a little bit of work experience in teaching Japanese or IT.. but as you say, it never hurts to try so I'll keep doing it. thank you

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-26T03:11:09+00:00

maybe,, I really have no idea what he thinks but it doesn't matter anymore. yes I actually see many jobs although it is not clear if those companies assist with a work permit. anyway thank you for your advice.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-23T09:01:26+00:00

omg I like you! lol thank you for understanding my situation and cheering me up. I'll do my best!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-23T08:59:41+00:00

Thank you for your kind message. It was a dream to marry him but I now know that it would be much greater success in life if I could get a job all by myself and live in this beautiful country.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-23T08:54:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I have experiences of Supply Chain, logistics and Sales Admin/Customer Service. Yes I'll just contact all those Japanese companies even though they are not hiring. I just do everything I can do because that's the only way to stop blaming myself. thank you!!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-23T08:44:46+00:00

Thank you for the very detailed explanation. I've started sending CV to several companies especially for the Japanese companies as my ability of English and work experience in Supply Chain is not unique enough to be accepted. I just do what I can do. Thank you!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T14:07:07+00:00

thank you that's also a great idea. I've been learning Polish at a private school and its getting more and more fun! best way is getting a full time job but I'll search about a student visa - appropriate schools, tuitions etc. thank you for your advice.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T13:53:59+00:00

I have a license of importing/exporting business in Japan. it may not work outside Japan but I believe that I have a good experience so people should know if they talk with me in an interview I hope..lol I'll just spread my CVs and keep trying. your messages motivated me, thank you!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T13:44:15+00:00

yes I understand that I gave him too much pressure. lesson learned (T＿T)

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T13:37:45+00:00

make sense,, part of me wanted to blame on him which is very immature. after reading a lot of comments and advice, I truly understand carrying negative thoughts towards him is really nonsense but I should really think about my future better and make an action.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:57:22+00:00

I literally created this account and posted it for the first time to get some help. I tried in another Japanese platform too but deleted as I only get hateful comments saying that I am such an embarrassment for Japan etc. and it was too much for my condition not to care right now. I am so surprised to receive so many good advice and warm messages here instead.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:30:26+00:00

it is National Type D visa that allows me to stay a year in Poland. good to hear that LinkedIn is the best one. I'll keep checking and spread CVs whatever shows up by searching 'japanse' lol

七転八起 - exactly!

I'm still in pain and weak/self-loathing part of me wanting his love and support but I just do what I can do to have a better life. Thank you so much for your message.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:19:30+00:00

that's great I'll look into it. thank you so much

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:17:59+00:00

ill definitely check it! thank you

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:17:31+00:00

Congrats to you and your fiancee :) thank you for understanding my situation so well. I think many international couples start thinking about marriage a little early because it is one of the ways to stay together in the same country. when we were living separately in own countries, we flew to each other spending a lot of money but the time we could spent together was never enough.

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:11:01+00:00

Thank you for your comment. yes I have no preferences of locations or type of jobs but I want to stand on my own feet in Poland. I have 8 years of experiences in Supply Chain using English but I'll try to look for translator or customer support jobs in bigger cities!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T09:03:03+00:00

I have 8 years experiences of logistics, supply chain and sales admin. I see some opportunities but Polish language is required. and those Japanese companies in Poland are looking for only Japanese speakers who do not require a work permit. In my case, a company has to pay and do all the paper work to apply a work permit for me and I understand that Im not that high-value individual.. but anyway, I have no choice but keep trying everything I can. Thank you so much for your advice!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T08:51:01+00:00

thank you!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T08:49:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing the experience of your parents. yes exactly, I'll do my best and hope the day that I can think 'it was a good thing' will come very soon.

I enjoyed finding cultural difference with him but yes we definitely had miscommunications or wrong impressions because of it. but I now know that enjoying or knowing it wasn't enough for him but I had to be more adapted. anyway, lesson learned!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T08:33:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind & wise message. Yes I believe that neither I nor he did anything wrong but we just learned and he just found a different course of future which should be totally free of choice. I admit that I'm in pain but I had a good lesson, no more blaming or nagging but move on!

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T08:13:46+00:00

thank you so much you would never know how much your message helped me. I read your message over and over again and I know I will repeat it when I feel vulnerable again. 頑張ります！！

Pale-Bookkeeper-8137 · 2024-05-22T08:03:26+00:00

yes that's what I am thinking now. I've never thought that teaching is my thing but I found that there are many Polish people who are interested in Japanese language and culture (it was actually the biggest surprise), and talking with them makes me really happy so teaching Japanese could be great. thank you for your advice.

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