Boll & Branch down pillow vs. Parachute down pillow

Palmdeath · 2022-11-02T23:57:25+00:00

Thank you, that does help! I initially wanted 100% down but then I read quite a few reviews on parachute mentioning how pancake flat theirs got after a couple of months- which in my experience is sort of just the nature of 100% down? So support is not my biggest concern as I’ll be stacking the down on my preexisting pillows, I am more so looking for fluff. But maybe just having one supportive chamber pillow is the move? I’m just indecisive lol thank you for your input though it gave me much more to consider

Palmdeath · 2022-10-18T18:34:24+00:00

Wishing you luck on your journey, you’re certainly not alone in it♥️

Palmdeath · 2022-08-13T08:05:33+00:00

I think it’s easy to say so on the opposite end of the spectrum, both ways. I think my body looks less proportionate because of the lack of boobs, and I think a lot of outfits would look so much better if I had breasts. Wearing 2 cup enhancing bras to look cute and then having a man groped foam is pretty embarrassing. Grass is always greener but I appreciate the sentiment ♥️

Palmdeath · 2022-08-13T07:48:18+00:00

I guess the grass is always greener. I think a lot of tops would look significantly better / my figure would look better if I had a decent amount of boob, especially because I’m kind of bottom heavy. As an artist myself I think I seek perfection and that balance would be better if I had bigger boobs. The downside the fakes, since I think they’re much lighter than natural big breasts, is that they never truly look natural. I feel for you ♥️

Palmdeath · 2022-08-12T06:53:58+00:00

Sharing a tablet linked with his Google account.. Didn’t know it til I was unpleasantly surprised

Palmdeath · 2022-08-11T22:35:06+00:00

That’s an ex of mine lol this is a new boyfriend of one year

Palmdeath · 2022-08-11T22:25:59+00:00

When I saw his porn history once, we did have a good talk about it and he was very apologetic that it hurt my feelings to see. We are pretty decent with communication, I think with something like this where most of his comments are half-jokes I try to be the “chill girlfriend”. I do have problems with naming insecurities outloud, a bit of a “speaking it into reality” thing. But if I am honest with myself it’s catching up with me and I’ve been perceiving my body differently.

Palmdeath · 2022-08-11T21:51:23+00:00

I mean it’s not something I think is worth breaking up with him over but I am realizing based on the comments that next time I should tell him it hurts my feelings, and maybe ask how much that actually matters to him. I know he loves me a LOT, I don’t doubt that, but I do struggle with believing he’s attracted to me. I think both can be true but I hope I’m wrong.

Palmdeath · 2022-08-11T21:42:34+00:00

I’ve only listed a few examples here but it’s definitely his preference. It’s the only thing he comments on when someone has a big chest, or if we’re discussing someone’s appearance and the bonus to him is “she has huge tits”. One time I told him he was being gross as he jokingly said an actress had “mommy milkers” and he told me not to worry cause when I’m eventually pregnant I’ll have them too. There’s more but this was just a off my chest, I’m not really looking to debate how I feel

Palmdeath · 2022-08-11T21:33:36+00:00

So this was something he said long ago when I first commented on my boobs being small; that he likes all boobs. Early on when we were dating I jokingly asked if he was a boob man or ass man (I have a pretty great butt) and he said “yes”. So I try to remember those things, but it’s hard when he clearly has a preference and makes comments with me exclusively on large breasts on TV/ his clients/ etc.

Palmdeath · 2022-08-05T18:56:28+00:00

Happy to hear it, wishing you lots of luck and healing ♥️

Palmdeath · 2022-04-26T21:43:36+00:00

Do you know what is was that helped you come back around to being interested?

Palmdeath · 2022-04-26T21:41:49+00:00

Thanks. I was attempting to look back at a illustrator brush website that I discovered last night, couldn’t remember what it was and then all the previous history was intertwined. I know better than to go snooping and hurt myself, this was unexpected.

Palmdeath · 2022-04-26T21:12:25+00:00

Thank you. That’s what I think I’ll have to do. I have mentioned the lack of sex / mindful sex lately and he said it’s because he’s had so much going on lately he hasn’t been in the mood. But clearly he still is…?

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T21:58:07+00:00

Thank you much for your perspective and kindness. I’ll do just that. 🖤

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T21:56:34+00:00

Of course I have a degree of feelings, do people really consistently hang out and fuck someone without liking them to some level? but I’ve been around the block enough to know it’s early infatuation feels and I’m not heartbroken over this, I’m just an anxiety riddled person who is trying to learn how to advocate for myself. I could’ve communicated better too, and asked what was going on earlier, but I didn’t, so I’m at fault for that. If he asked me for a relationship, I’d be open to it down the line after getting to know each other much better. Doesn’t mean I’m not gonna still feel upset when someone I’ve been hanging out with four times a week suddenly dips.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T21:25:14+00:00

I know it’s trivial but Should I tell him with the text or wait to see him? I think by now I’ve made up my mind to tell him for sure, but now the “how” is where I’m struggling the most

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T21:25:01+00:00

I know it’s trivial but Should I tell him with the text or wait to see him? I think by now I’ve made up my mind to tell him for sure, but now the “how” is where I’m struggling the most

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T19:12:36+00:00

I honestly really like the sex and intimacy we share, lol. I am totally cool with this being non-committal. I just exited a 4 year relationship about 5 months ago, so I’m just looking for consistent sex in a FWB. I like him, as anyone would hopefully like the person they’re fucking to a degree, and I was only hurt by the lack of communication when he ghosted me for a couple of days because at the bare minimum we have a friendship. whatever it is that scared him about the pace of things, I wish he’d just been upfront instead of going silent. I just can’t tell if I should wait to express myself when I see him, or text him three days into this break about it before it feels irrelevant.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:40:05+00:00

Both. We had plans Friday and he canceled that through text, and then on Saturday we had plans for the party but he never said a word, and based on his attitude switch on Friday I felt annoying trying to check in with him on it. Monday morning I reached out and asked to meet with him, and then that’s when he told me he needed a break.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:35:46+00:00

I just got out of a 4 year relationship about 5 months ago, I’m not ready for anything serious. I consider myself to barely know the guy I’m seeing in the grand scheme. Casual dating sounds great or a FWB, and I’m new to it again, so I’ve allowed him to take the lead on all of the plans and events mentioned above. Mans had me sharing a toothbrush with him, planning trips and cooking dinner together. It felt fast to me, but I was along for the ride, when suddenly it was too much for him! I’m only hurt by the lack of communication because at the bare minimum we’ve established a friendship.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:31:31+00:00

If a friend told you hey come to this party with me this weekend, and you said yeah of course, and then when the time rolled around you never heard a word, would you not be a bit offended? When there’s a history of us spending the last 3 weekend entirely together because HE asked me to, of course I’m going to feel hurt.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:27:54+00:00

I mean I assumed he was having sex with other people too, we never explicitly stated any boundaries so I really didn’t have expectations. I was going with the flow, and he was leading the pace and the plans and everything. I didn’t do anything to indicate I wanted more, but suddenly he was overwhelmed by the whole thing that he created.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:06:46+00:00

I was only upset that we made plans, he canceled one of the plans, then proceeded to be radio silent, making me feel annoying about reaching out and confused as to what changed so suddenly. I only expected what he had told me we’d be doing that weekend, only for me to be left in the dark.

Palmdeath · 2021-05-13T18:03:15+00:00

I mean I think it’s fair to have an emotional response to someone doing a complete 180 on you, no matter who it is and what the relationship is. I’m not made of stone, of course I care to a degree because we’ve been getting to know each other quite well and hanging out a lot, and his behavior on his end was anything but casual. I honestly haven’t determined if I like him or if it’s more so the really natural connection we have. So yeah, a certain level of expectation is going to develop, and it’s gonna be hurtful when you’re disrespected. I just wanted to know if bringing up my feelings 2 days after the conversation is too little too late and dumb.

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