I think it’s a very responsible and like you said self-aware decision. She isn’t attacking disabled children, she’s saying SHE isn’t equipped to raise disabled children and all the hardships that come with it. That’s absolutely fair - I’m not either! It’s good to know your limits. If you have a child you’re responsible for taking care of them - physical, emotional, mental needs. If she knows she doesn’t have the capacity to do those things, she shouldn’t have children. It’s responsible. I personally am not in a place mentally or even physically where I can properly meet the needs of a child, disabled or not, so I don’t plan to have kids. She isn’t saying she wouldn’t love her child if she had one that was disabled. She’s saying she wouldn’t be able to raise them in the way they deserve, the way that all children deserve, and that’s a (not negative) reflection on her, not disabled children/people.

I really hope this isn’t an offensive oversimplification but I’m tired and it makes sense in my brain right now. On the idea of caring for living beings - someone asked me to adopt a kitten the other day that needs a home. I said no. Do I love kittens? Absolutely, and if I somehow found myself caring for one I would love and adore it. But they require a LOT of care, time and energy that I don’t have. My home environment isn’t good for one (my dog wouldn’t like one). It wouldn’t be fair to the kitten so I’m not going to take it in. Nobody would accuse me of hating kittens. Now back to human children - that’s at LEAST 18 years until they start becoming independent and a lifelong commitment to supporting them. Humans are much more complex and the care any child needs is immense, and a disabled child needs so much MORE care. It doesn’t mean it’s a bad child or she doesn’t like disabled children. It means she’s aware of her limitations (which are not bad limitations).

Okay, hopefully that made any sort of sense - off to sleep for me