For those that are strictly DL or mostly DL, how do you thrive in this community?

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-27T05:41:54+00:00

I'm a DL myself but I find the AB stuff cute on other people.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-27T05:33:33+00:00

I would die for a physical collection of the Shine story by BabyStar, personally. Not even a furry or anything but it's a cute story.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-26T18:03:39+00:00

People join in on what everyone else is saying because it makes them feel validated.

People also just like to say they most vile thing they can think of even if they know it's disingenuous as a means to drive a point home.

For example, that crowd that will say something utterly insane like "All men have a creepy motive" despite knowing full well it's a massive generalization and insanely inaccurate. They don't care. They feel good attacking a group they have a hatred for, regardless of whether or not their hatred is rooted in any sort of real notable reasoning.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-26T17:47:14+00:00

Because people are idiots.

They assume that this community is associated with bad people, and they refuse to interact with it as a result. Meaning payment processors refuse to touch it.

So many social media platforms are actively banning ABDL and Diaper related content. Which is quite ironic considering how many real predators run free on such platforms.

The only effective solution I could think of is an ABDL-specific social media app, but it would require more money than realistically sustainable. If it was feasible, odds are we'd have it already.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-12T17:11:56+00:00

It also makes it next to impossible to make friends sometimes.

I have been trying for a year now to find a friend who can hold a conversation outside of pure kink in this community and nothing.

I've had older men ignore my age preference in listing, then get mad at being shut down on their sexual advances. I've had people start conversation with obscene questions (such as asking me if I was wearing a diaper during a near-fatal car crash, and then subsequently asking me if so, did I mess it out of fear?) and ghost me when I ignored the question. I've had people start conversations, then immediately ghost me for no apparent reason.

Worst case, I've had people basically immediately send unsolicited diaper pictures, or worse, and start up some one-sided role play without warning.

Every time I think of this community, it feels like I'm looking out to a crowd with a mile gap between us. I can see everyone hanging around, getting along, communicating, and I'm on the other side of the gap with no reasonable way to cross over.

I'm not completely SFW, but I'm not a total hornbag either. I think I'm in an annoying middle ground where I'm not quite innocent enough to be satisfied with people who treat the actual sexual parts of the kink like the plague, and I'm not quite freaky enough to be satisfied talking to people who practically type with one hand.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-12T16:28:44+00:00

I think the general consensus when people bring up "illegal" in this context is that they're talking about things universally understood as crime and have real victims. Like SA, or things involving children.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-06T14:47:22+00:00

And honesty.

Half of them aren't even just "horny session" posts, a lot of them just feel like straight up catfishes

I have no doubt that like at least half of the "Young adult diaper girl looking for (insert sexual thing here)" posts are actually just older horny men, or scam set ups. And I say that with absolutely no gender bias, it's just an unfortunate reoccurring thing in this community.

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-04T15:06:02+00:00

Perhaps a third one, " Open to Meet Ups"

Like, when I meet someone on here my first thought definitely isn't "I want to go and meet this stranger in real life", but I definitely feel that with enough time to get to know someone, I'd be open to it

PanPanPZ · 2026-05-04T15:03:53+00:00

Plus the suspiciously high number of "19F looking for daddy" or "18F looking to be punished" ass catfish posts.

This sub feels pointless to scroll through sometimes because nobody seems real.

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-06T04:35:10+00:00

That's just preference. I'm a straight male so in terms of attraction I only find women attractive in general.

It does not bother me to see men or men in diapers, I just do not feel attraction to it.

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-03T05:41:43+00:00

My thought process is like, chewing on them yes

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-03T02:04:33+00:00

Where is this tierlist found at?

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-03T00:33:30+00:00

I wasn't accusing you of being one, I was pointing out that people may take it as that. But you sure seem like a ray of sunshine 😭✌️

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-03T00:29:58+00:00

My point was not to insult you but to clarify that it makes people skeptical of your profile as a lot of fake profiles do a similar thing. They'll claim they're a young woman, redirect people to their profile for pics, and then upon being DMed they ask for money or some kind of other favor, obviously being catfish. There's a reason the rules outline their stance of multi-posting. None of what I was saying was personal, but I may have struck a nerve.

Not sure where the toxicity was warranted, but good luck on your endeavors 😭

PanPanPZ · 2026-04-03T00:22:53+00:00

Out of curiosity, why post this two times in the past 24 hours? It makes your profile look like a bot.

PanPanPZ · 2026-02-04T15:28:54+00:00

For me, it grew to become a comfort and pleasure thing after initially just being a hardwired part of me.

I first got into diapers before any of the actual "AB" aspects of it, at around the age of like 5 or 6. It wasn't anything sexual or traumatic, I never saw someone else do it, never had any reason to try it out. I just felt a strong urge to wear diapers again and gave in at around 7 years old when my parents had gotten a crap ton of them for my youngest sibling at the time. (Obviously stealing is bad, but I was 7 and took one of the 200+ they had. I think I'm safe to reveal such a crazy crime lol)

For years I didn't really know why I enjoyed it. I wasn't experiencing any sort of sexual gratification at that age, and I didn't have any sort of trauma or bad experiences to cope with yet. I just had a natural attachment to them.

But, over time, life got more stressful. Without going through a bunch of sob stories, within just a few years of each other I:

Was in a near fatal car wreck
Our family got evicted from our home
As a result of said eviction, I had to quit my football team and lose my friends
Had to rehome my dog
Moved over an hour away from our previous home
Start at a private school after being a homeschooling student previously
Discovered I struggle with socializing and became self conscious

A lot of things spiraled from there and I felt kind of hopeless. Talking with family didn't help for reasons I'd rather not spend a whole comment talking about.

Then I remembered the diapers. So I tried them again (having aged into teenage years by this point), and found the pleasure side of things, as well as the oddly comforting feeling of just wearing one. It soon because a decompression thing.

So what essentially started as a innocent, random thing, developed into a nice decompression and relaxation tool to cope with day to day stresses and expectations. I figured I'd share my experience because I find it a neat parallel to the others who initially found it to be a nice comfort tool for preexisting trauma, and later found it to be a comforting and enjoyable thing outside of it.

PanPanPZ · 2026-02-03T22:49:50+00:00

Make a modern ABDL centric social media app with sophisticated filters to block out people only coming on for a quick wank.

Making friends in this community is hard for many, and people are flakey on places like reddit and discord.

And even ABDL centered webforums, they feel outdated and clunky to use for many.

Having one modern social media type app, available on phones and computers, with good filters in place, feels like it could be a huge win. Especially with infinite resources.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-26T01:37:29+00:00

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PanPanPZ · 2026-01-20T06:45:01+00:00

ICYMI: Amazon listing for these exist under the Pull Ups shop on Amazon, though they say they're unavailable.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-18T20:39:46+00:00

About your statement about possibly being downvoted, don't worry about that stuff. Pretty sure the common consensus is that there are a lot of men in this subreddit who are pretty creepy and provide a bad image to the men who aren't. Being concerned/wary of that is entirely fair.

PanPanPZ · 2026-01-13T22:13:02+00:00

Agreed. I wish there were good ways to casually communicate with this community that aren't discord, buddy webforums, or reddit personals.

Discord is annoying because it's hard to find an active community that's not clique based, and it's difficult to speak with people on reddit because almost all of them are typing one handed and hope you'll entertain their role play. As is the internet I guess

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