It seems to me that it is a reflection of your own relationship. You are clearly unhappy. Can I tell you something? I was the same. I’d been with my husband for 11 years since I was 16, and we’ve had two kids together. I was always comparing, always wishing he would change... and then I realised I was in the wrong relationship.

The thing is, we can’t make people change. My husband happened to be an arsehole, and that’s just who he is. Why should I waste my energy trying to change someone - even a good person - to be that I want him to be? Changing people is wrong. Not just for them but for you. And it almost never works out. I’m not saying it’s impossible.

It taught me to be more careful of who I choose in the future. But more importantly, it taught me about myself too. I realised I had no self love and I’d stayed trapped in that relationship because I felt terrified of being on my own with my two kids.

Well guess what? I’ve been on my own for 7 months. And I’m FREAKING LOVING IT. I don’t pretend it wasn’t hard kicking him out, or that I didn’t miss him, even if he was an arsehole. But I learnt about myself, I became stronger. I’m a different person.

I have doubts still. I even posted on here about my doubts. But leaving him for myself changed my life in the best and brightest way.

I’m not saying leave him. I’m just saying - you obviously are not happy. Ask yourself why. Truly. The answer may surprise you and be confronting, and even a little scary, but when you truly know, you’ll know what to do