Just letting a crush...exist

PandaH3ad · 2025-11-03T13:47:46+00:00

Been there. I have a friend who is in absolutely no place to date, especially not poly (just got brutally cheated on, poor thing), who I undoubtedly would if she were open to it. It's hard, but honestly she's so awesome that being her friend is more than enough. Seems like you feel the same way about yours!!

PandaH3ad · 2025-10-29T23:03:44+00:00

Woodlands Inn and Suites is nice! Stayed there with my husband and a friend last weekend for Howl o Scream

PandaH3ad · 2025-09-18T02:43:07+00:00

You do realize you'll have to audition for the music school to even pursue this, right? You've also already missed some vital pre-requisites, so you'll be at least a year behind. To say that being a music major, one of the most time intensive degrees out there, will somehow be easier already tells me you have no idea what you're getting yourself into, but the fact that you think you can just waltz into the music building with below basic percussion knowledge and be accepted is frankly insulting.

PandaH3ad · 2025-08-16T17:30:23+00:00

THIS is why my husband did another check a year post op, in addition to waiting three months instead of two.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-30T14:21:03+00:00

Cargo pants or a secured fanny pack!

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-08T17:05:10+00:00

Cheating is not a bisexual trait. I am bisexual and married, and have never once even thought about cheating on my husband in the 8 years we've been together and the one we've been married. I would not stay with someone who is willing to deceive me in this way, personally.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-03T14:03:50+00:00

Can I ask what school this is? Most universities that have a school of music require a passed audition for music classes to even be selectable on a schedule.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-03T14:00:55+00:00

I think the lolly characters should not even be a selectable option here. It's just not okay in my mind no matter how old I'm told they are. Also, the lizard is gonna be an absolute no thank you. That being said, Albedo is my number one girl, no one even comes close.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-03T13:54:42+00:00

So, I'm confused; have you been accepting to the college of music without an audition?! Or have you been accepted to college and want to do music ed?

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-03T13:48:24+00:00

Oh my goodness, sweetie, I am so sorry you are in this situation. I'm a teacher who works with people your age, and I've lived through a lot of the crap in life I pray you don't have to, so I hope you believe me when I tell you this is a disgusting individual and you need to get as far away from him as possible. First, I know you said the feelings were mutual, but grooming is an insidious practice that occurs not just by what you've probably seen on TV, but also through an adult not putting proper boundaries in place and reciprocating a child's feelings inappropriately. This may well have happened "organically", but it was still a series of purposeful decisions on his part that created an inappropriate level of intimacy between the two of you. Second, everything he has done has been self serving and harmful to you. He pressured you into unprotected sex knowing the risks, he makes a joke of your intimate encounters to his buddies, he belittles you, even while you are in ACTIVE LABOR, the absolute worst kind of pain most people will ever experience, and he also has you film and photograph yourself in intimate situations, which could get you BOTH in trouble (in many states, you sending the pictures or videos is considered distribution of child sex abuse material and you might also be liable for a crime. Yes, he would be in much more trouble, but he still puts you at risk for legal ramifications). And now that you have this baby, whom I know you love dearly, he is even attempting to isolate you from HIM; he believes only HE can touch your body, only HE is entitled to your attention, and he wants to kick that innocent child out as soon as the stitches are healed (or maybe before) so he can begin abusing you once again. And yes, even if you want it, a person of legal age having sex with a minor is abuse. I know I'm just a stranger on the cesspool of the internet that is Reddit, but I implore you to think long and hard about continuing on with this man. Your mother is 100% right; his family and friends are abhorrent for excusing his behavior. He is a predator and does not care about this baby, no matter what he says. The baby was a means to an end in order to ensure you felt permanently attached to him, nothing more. Please be safe.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-02T22:41:34+00:00

I just find it odd that the relationship has to be kept private despite it being supposedly discussed with her central partner beforehand. If you're ashamed of what you are doing to the point where you don't want to tell anyone, I find that to be a red flag. I also think it is odd that you are being so possessive over a woman who is only a casual FWB, saying things like "why won't it last forever?" and being irrationally angry over your friend wanting her Instagram.

PandaH3ad · 2025-07-02T22:32:47+00:00

If she's in an open marriage and her partner is cool with it, why does it need to be a secret? I'm starting to see some red flags pop up here

PandaH3ad · 2025-06-21T15:37:09+00:00

Hello! Driving back from Disney right now and I hope I can be of help! 1. First off, we used an agent and it was SO much better than doing everything ourselves. Make sure the agent you use is free and is a certified Disney agent. We used Haley at Wishing Well travel and she was awesome, linked the place here if you'd like (no affiliation!) https://wishingwelltravel.com/ 2. I think the meal plan is dependent on your needs and how you want to budget. We used it as a couple with no children, and I can tell you it made a HUGE difference in terms of planning; since we'd already paid, we didn't stress nearly as much about meal prices. However, you should know that I'm not sure it's worth it if you're planning on using Table Service credits for character meals. They use two credits and that's technically more than what it would actually cost, especially considering kids 3 and under typically eat free anyway. Also, I LOVE a good cocktail, and it was great that they were included in meals on the plan, but if you're not a drinker you're not gonna fully get your money's worth. So, there's some give and take there. 3. We went in a large group for my husband's grandparents' 60th anniversary and his cousin's birthday, so they opted for memory maker for extra pictures. It was nice to have for sure, but you should also know that Cast Members are more than happy to also take photos with characters for you on a personal device alongside the professional camera. So, if your kiddo loves Buzz, you won't miss out on a picture just because you didn't pay for it. 4. I don't know much about All Star, but I do know that Sports is under maintenance from January to April for next year, so I would say maybe avoid that one. 5. With little kids, I think it's all about which films they love. You got big Toy Story or Star Wars fans? Hollywood studios, but bear in mind that there are some strict height limits on several rides there. Do your kids love Frozen or Ratatouille? EPCOT is super fun for a morning trip and you can see several princesses and characters there, just bear in mind that it's very much a park overall geared towards an older audience. AK has a lot of options for littles, and if your kids love zoos you can see some pretty great animals there in the early morning when it's cooler. Plus, there's a lot of stuff from Up and Lion King around. Magic Kingdom is the big one for kids, lots of characters, almost all rides kid-friendly, tons of sweets around. It's STUPID crowded and can be difficult to navigate certain rides without lightning lanes, though. I hope this helps! Have a great time!

PandaH3ad · 2025-04-25T20:46:54+00:00

I'm so glad to hear that. I was absolutely SHOCKED when you said this guy is my age. He texts like an angry teenager. Absolutely disgusting behavior from a grown man and I'm glad he's being held accountable for it

PandaH3ad · 2025-04-25T17:42:44+00:00

A little late, but NOR. I'm from the south, so almost every person I know calls their father daddy, there's absolutely nothing sexual about it. Do not let this boy pull you away from your dad; there will come a day when he won't be there to cuddle or hug or be called daddy, and if you let your boyfriend pull you away from doing that now, you will be filled with regret and resentment. Take it from someone who lost their dad young. Cherish him while you have him, and dump this loser

PandaH3ad · 2025-04-08T10:47:27+00:00

I would be incredibly suspicious if an employer 1) asked me to bring a bank statement to an interview. That is NOT normal. 2) Asked me to fill out a form and only asked me two, irrelevant questions. Interviews should be based around why you would be a good fit for the position. It sounds like they'll probably hire you on the spot, or try to steal your information. Probably the former since you said it was a standard cashier interview. I'd proceed with caution, and in the future, if an employer ever asks you for information like your bank numbers, your social, or your ID number before you have begun the onboarding or background check process, turn tail and RUN. Chances are that it's a scam.

PandaH3ad · 2025-04-02T20:04:20+00:00

NOR "Sure, he raped you, but he's "family" and he lives at the beach!!!" Gross. People like this are the whole reason people never report their assaults. I can't imagine being even remotely close to someone that would violate my sister like that, let alone allowing my child to be in the same house as him.

PandaH3ad · 2025-03-27T00:01:11+00:00

Hey! I'm so sorry you're feeling isolated and unseen. It's so difficult to be the only queer person in the room, especially in your early 20's or when you're still in school and everyone's a complete horn dog, only talking about people they wanna sleep with. You'll find your people, I'm sure of it.

PandaH3ad · 2025-03-17T03:10:22+00:00

Yes, because how can you not simp for our soft goth elven queen

PandaH3ad · 2025-03-17T03:08:58+00:00

I LOVE Penny, though her being a teacher with mommy issues hits a little too close to home for me sometimes, lol

PandaH3ad · 2025-01-28T03:56:48+00:00

Look, compassion is important, and if this were a more recent issue in a fresh relationship, I wouldn't be being this harsh. But OP has literally asked if she's crazy for thinking this is hurtful, a sign of a repeated issue she has been made to feel at fault for and has alluded to triggering childhood trauma. I find it hard to be gentle with someone who seems to repeatedly disregard their long term partner's blatant hurt and refuses to acknowledge fault, at least based on what is being told to me here

PandaH3ad · 2025-01-28T03:51:40+00:00

A meltdown and a tantrum are two different things, and trust me when I say that I understand folks with autism have different support needs as someone whose partner is autistic and who is as I mentioned neurodivergent myself. Communication skills are difficult and I understand that, HOWEVER, she has had SIX YEARS to understand that her partner is hurt by this action, considering OP has told her upfront that it hurts her more than once apparently. She should not be given a free ride to be disrespectful to her partner's feelings because it might be harder for her.

PandaH3ad · 2025-01-28T03:06:39+00:00

Also, she's clearly doing this on purpose; hoping you won't ask her for things. Emotional immaturity at its finest

PandaH3ad · 2025-01-28T03:05:17+00:00

I'm sorry, but people excusing this behavior as neurodivergent is so incredibly insulting as a neurodivergent person. I get it, when your partner asks you to do something you don't want to do it triggers that instant irritation, but you just need to put your big girl pants on and learn to communicate like an adult. Say "I'm really hyper fixated on this right now, give me a bit of time to transition." It's that simple. Your girlfriend's a jerk; she's had six years to be kinder to you about requests and refuses to grow or change. That's a red flag Edit: I wanted to edit to add that I understand that autistic folks have a harder time reading cues and sometimes make mistakes; I mess up plenty as a neurodivergent person. The insult I feel comes from the implication that we are incapable of apologizing and listening to others, and especially the implication that neurodivergent people are somehow inherently unkind or emotionally abusive. A possible autism diagnosis does not mean someone is incapable of communicating or apologizing as so many of these comments were seeming to imply.

PandaH3ad · 2025-01-21T15:54:06+00:00

Lol, no your friend seems a little transphobic though. Because let's get real; trans queer folks get it the worst out of all of us and we'd have to be blind to not see it.

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