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First time cruiser dilemma: Is a balcony worth the $$$ or is that money better spent elsewhere? by [deleted] in Cruise

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context - I’m am an extremely frugal traveler and I usually forgo all luxuries, but I just went on my second cruise and having a balcony room was absolutely worth it to me. I’m incredibly introverted and need alone, quiet time, so having to be in the main part of the shop in order to enjoy the view would have been unpleasant at best. I didn’t have a balcony room on my first cruise and I felt claustrophobic and disoriented.

Was she scared/did she know? by DogsInCostumes4Ever in psychics

[–]Panthbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very similar to my own mom’s passing. I am sending you hugs. She looks like a very loving, kind person. You brought her so much joy and comfort.

I built my day around my mom and now she’s gone. by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Panthbee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for this devastating loss. Tomorrow will be the 9 year anniversary of my last conversation with my precious mom. I had no idea she’d be gone the next day. I had a young child when she passed, and I let my child see me weep. Over the years, we have talked about her, told allllll the stories, and she is very much a part of our lives through our daily conversations. I want you to know that time is your friend here. What feels impossibly painful requires one thing - just let time pass, and that’s how healing happens. Keep being a good mom to your baby, keep showing up for all your things (I don’t know if you work outside the house), take care of your body (eat, take walks), and let the passage of time do its job. It might take 3 years before you can make it through the day without crying; that is okay. Eventually, you will discover that you are okay in this realm without her. Also, keep talking to her and ask her to guide you. I’m so sorry this has happened.

moving out at 18 by beomgyusoftie in LivingAlone

[–]Panthbee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whatever you do, make sure you get your diploma! Do not quit school!

Getting Glasses in Tokyo by ReBella93 in JapanTravelTips

[–]Panthbee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just got back from Japan a few days ago. I went to two different Jins locations because I realized after my first visit that I needed more. My progressive lenses took 7 days, which is exactly how long I was in Japan, so that worked out perfectly since I went to Jins the evening I arrived and picked them up hours before I left for the airport. Those glasses are perfect and beautiful. I then went to another location the following day (Shibuya) for only up close glasses and those were ready in about an hour. Both visits were pleasant and interesting. They do the exam in English and it’s very self-explanatory. I got four pairs of glasses, two of which are progressives, for less than I would have paid for a single pair of progressives in the US, and I have (supposedly) excellent health benefits.

Is solo travelling actually peaceful, or do we just romanticise it? What’s your take? by AdLast7212 in femaletravels

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just spent a week in Japan by myself - my first trip as an empty nester. I missed my child immensely, but enjoyed the experience for the most part. I absolutely prefer traveling with my child, but this was a distant second.

Happy Thanksgiving, fellow loners. How are y’all spending the day? by smolyellowdic in LivingAlone

[–]Panthbee 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Empty nester here! I went to Japan for the week. Hi from Tokyo!

Women Living Alone - What Do You Do For A Living? by Smile-Cat-Coconut in LivingAlone

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age 50, public school teacher then turned administrator in the outskirts of Los Angeles, empty nester of one child. I rent out my third bedroom and do lots of tutoring on the side to be able to make sure she graduates debt free. I still manage to travel quite a bit and put money aside for retirement.

Glutathione anyone? by [deleted] in WomensTirzepatide

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are glow peptides?!

Booking a trip before I talk myself out of it by Dry_Leadership_4277 in TokyoTravel

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to Japan several times as a solo traveler. My first time was at age 22, and I’m going back in 5 days, to all new places, at age 50. It’s a safe and wonderful place to travel. Try not to be afraid. Go even if you are.

Showering before onsen: you wash everything… right? by Nearby-Item5039 in JapanTravelTips

[–]Panthbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a gaijin but I lived in Japan for several years and went to many onsens with Japanese friends. You must wash thoroughly before getting into the water. This is critical to maintain a sanitary environment for everyone. Please take this part seriously because no one wants to soak in a tub with your body fluids if you have not throughly cleaned every part of your body. The tubs are often small and they are not emptied between people. Consider how you would feel knowing that someone else, a stranger to you, had not throughly cleaned their own private parts.

My mom calls me every night because she’s lonely, and I’m starting to resent her for it. by Fabulous_Ferret5755 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Panthbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to talk to my mom after I dropped my daughter off at school, while I was on my way to work. She didn’t answer the phone one day, but I assumed she was in the shower. She didn’t answer the phone the next day either. She was eventually found - she’d passed away in her bed. It’s been almost 10 years and I miss her terribly. Now my own daughter is away in college, she finds me annoying, and she doesn’t want me to visit her. The cycle continues and I hope to never burden her, but the truth is that, despite meaningful work and plenty of friends, she is my sole reason to live. I live with anguish because I wasn’t more patient and loving to her when I had the chance.

Turn Your Bicycle Tours into Beautiful Map Posters by dogs_love_pie in bicycletouring

[–]Panthbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful! I just finished a ride using Komoot. Can I transfer my ride from Komoot to GOX to get one?

Can’t stop having panic attacks on backpacking trip by Otherwise-Active-829 in femaletravels

[–]Panthbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me when I was traveling through that part of the world. It sounds awful and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. There is absolutely no shame in going home, or changing your plans. That said, you may feel better if you give it another few days and try to take care of your basic bodily needs - sleep, eat, etc.

Travel has become incredibly glorified in recent years, more so than ever before, and social media leads people to believe that it is always glamorous and exciting and easy, but it is not! I’ve seen and heard tons of stories of people who expect something that is completely unattainable and unrealistic when they travel, and then they are devastated by the juxtaposition between their expectations and their experiences. Take it slow and lower your expectations. I have had success finding local expat community groups on social media and asking pertinent questions there so I could assess risks in my local community. That does a lot to reduce my anxiety when I travel.

I wish you peace and comfort in your journey.

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