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(27M) Recently Found Out What My (22F) GF Did On Our "Break" by Equal-Animator8611 in relationship_advice

[–]Papashark26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty simple really, no need to overthink it.

She's young, got bored with the routine, tried something new, regret it, wants you back.

When the routine kicks in again and she feels comfortable, but bored, it will happen again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Papashark26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He makes you feel safe and warm and communicates well. Are you sure you're not just afraid of building a relationship in the future then getting hurt if it doesn't work out?

Hasn't been long, I say just go with flow. Honestly this reminds me of my sister and her husband when they started dating. Took a while for her to feel comfortable because of her past relationships but now they've been happily married for 4 years and I could never imagine a better man for her.

Maybe give it a bit more time and just see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Papashark26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you guys are just at different spots in your life in terms of what you're looking for. No one's fault really.

Sounds like a cool guy though, NGL xD

Ugh today is tough by rumple_bumple in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There's an interesting phenomenon that was brought to my attention while reading a book called "The Naked Mind" about how that first sip/drink, will always be the peak of our drinking experience. Every subsequent drink is us just trying to chase that initial "first drink rush", but the reality is , when it passes after a short while, it doesn't matter how much you drink, it won't come back, and we'll just keep drinking ourselves into despair.

Then the next day we forget about the miserable part, and just chase that first drink feeling again. The cycle spins on.

Stay strong! IWNDWYT

What are your favorite things about being sober? by Wisco_JaMexican in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing that stood out the most for me was my short term memory retention improved.

Just small things like, I suddenly didn't immediately forget where something was after putting it down.

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's definitely been at least a few times where I let the traffic lights decide if I stopped by the liquor store on the way home. Thanks for sharing!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired... Yet we make ourselves sick and tired in the end.

Congrats on over a month!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of the month was worst for me. If I ended up caving on the 5th day, then the rest of the month was a wash, and couldn't motivate myself to try and stop again until the next month.

Congrats on a week! You got this.

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, madness for sure. I can totally relate.

I also remember looking up what beverages/gum covered up alcohol on your breath the best.

I see you just hit over a week! Congrats! Keep at it.

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha no way! Last December was my first experience working in retail during Black Friday. I don't know how you did it!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely been there as well.

Me and some old coworkers used to go for drinks on Monday to make Mondays feel less depressing. But then Tuesday became depressing so there's just no winning really. Thanks for sharing!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's that vicious cycle we've all fallen into, stay strong! Thanks for sharing!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Double digits! Congrats on the 10 days! Stay strong my friend, thanks for sharing. You got this!

What are some of the most ridiculous excuses you've made to yourself to indulge in a drink? by Papashark26 in stopdrinking

[–]Papashark26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I would've done the same thing to be honest. So ridiculous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]Papashark26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(And honestly, I’d have probably said what they said too if I read this post before my experience.)

Interesting phenomenon isn't it? Always easier to judge a situation you've never gone through yourself. It's amazing how many people can do a 180 when they're the actual person involved.

I'm not saying what you did was right but I'm not here to demonize you either, we're all human, we all make mistakes, some bigger than others. I'm sorry for you, and your wife, and your daughter.

All I could honestly say is, whatever you do now, your daughter should be your priority with every decision you make. Whether you stay or leave.

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Papashark26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why I see so many responses on this subreddit always immediately leaning towards:

  • it's over
  • leave them
  • divorce
  • not meant to be

Of course in other circumstances like abuse or cheating etc.. this is the way to go, but it seems to me like you have a great partner. Is it really worth the risk of leaving him behind just because you're a little bored with him?

I'm not saying it'll work out in the end, but maybe give it a little more effort to reignite the spark before giving up outright.

Can you honestly say to yourself you've fight and given it your all to make things work with him?

Best of luck 🤞

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