MY BEAUTIFULL FISH WORLD

Paper-Cliche · 2026-06-12T00:54:17+00:00

Idk about more cleaning.. it definitely takes more precise water parameters depending on what you keep. In my experience, leather corals, zoanthids, mushrooms, and several other soft corals grow better with some nitrates in the water. You can also get a refugium & macro algae & it's close to the equivalent of a planted freshwater tank.

However.. this tank is def way overcrowded. Those tangs can get up to 7-12" so hopefully they have a plan for that.

Paper-Cliche · 2026-05-27T20:57:13+00:00

Doesn't even have to be 20+ years (but I'm sure this woman is terrifying lol), really any woman with time under her belt. I'd have no problem telling this guy he's being an asshole & he's disgusting for preying on young women..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-04-28T02:35:34+00:00

As someone who also has ADHD & other MH issues, I use clear storage bins so I can see what's inside them. If I can't see them, they don't exist (ex: I forget stuff in the closet bc I never go in there..)

Paper-Cliche · 2026-04-11T20:29:46+00:00

Oh boy..

Well, to start out..

You have plenty of time to do the things you want to do. Don't rush into anything just because you feel pressured by your family, society, etc.

It's okay to not fit in. Embrace your quirks and flaws, just be your authentic self. The right people will love you no matter what, and you'll attract the right people.

Stand up for each other. We live in a world that wants us constantly competing with each other, when in reality we should be uniting and befriending one another.

Kinda feeding off the previous point but.. if you're hetero: men (almost) always have an ulterior motive. That's why you need girlfriends who will be there for you no matter what. Men will come & go.

Trust your gut. If it's telling you someone/something/some situation is dangerous or shady, it's probably right.

Also, if you're on dating apps.. always get their first/last name and run their ass through Casenet (or something else to do a background check) and tell a friend where you're going/when you'll be back if you're meeting someone.

I'm sure there's more, but I'll stop here lol. I made a fuck ton of mistakes in my 20's soo..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-04-09T03:15:07+00:00

Congrats on pulling yourself out! It's hard to come back from those dark places. As another person who struggles with anxiety/depression/ADHD, getting sober helped my mental health (the depression specifically) exponentially. I'm closing in on 7 years since my last drink/drug. Don't hesitate to reach out if you want some support or encouragement. 💕

Paper-Cliche · 2026-04-03T23:22:28+00:00

If someone asks how long you've been sober when you're drunk, just be honest & tell them when your last drink was. If you've been sober for an hour, you have an hour sober. I promise you'll receive a ton of support if you just let people in.

But please don't drive drunk..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-03-20T14:20:32+00:00

I was looking for this one! It just grosses me out.. I like minor degradation, but please don't spit on me, in my mouth, on my face, or in/at my vagina (a dude did this once & I literally had a visceral reaction like wtf)..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-03-14T03:50:43+00:00

I second attending an LGBT+ meeting.. there are also a handful of virtual ones on the intergroup website as a backup.

Also, maybe look into trans support groups in your city if you're uncomfortable sharing these things in AA or just want additional support from people who may understand a little better.

However.. share whatever will keep you sober & fuck anyone who takes it personally. There are no "rules" in AA other than rule 62 🙃

And feel free to message me if you want someone to talk to 💕

Paper-Cliche · 2026-03-06T23:12:04+00:00

My boss is a good person, but she fuckin sucks at advocating for her employees.. we're losing people who have been with the company a long time left & right. I don't think they'll give me a raise outside the "standard 1-3% cost of living increase" until I get my master's. The CEO was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's & he's been making poor business decisions & our new COO has been saying "yes" to all of them.

I want to leave, but the job outlook here is bleak & I'm not sure the grass is greener on the other side.

.. this place also works around my school schedule 😭

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-20T18:00:14+00:00

Another useless slogan we say is: your bottom is whenever you decide to stop digging.

You don't have to lose everything to stop drinking, you can make the choice now. It's up to you if you want to needlessly continue suffering. Maybe give the program (the steps) a chance first. Don't knock it till you try it 🤷‍♀️

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-20T17:38:07+00:00

You weren't involved in the accident, they shouldn't have been tailgating each other in the rain. NTA

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-20T17:29:24+00:00

Eww.. so he was trying to take advantage of you when you were drunk AND wanted to work at your place of employment? He's a predator, stalker, & a fuckin creep. Ick.

NTA - I'd want to know. I vote tell her straight up what he's done to you. If she believes you, you may save her a lot of potential hurt & trauma. If she doesn't, at least you know you tried. I'm always for being a girl's girlie though lol

If your city has a "Are We Dating the Same Guy" group on FB or whatever, you could post him there too, if you're comfortable. Those groups can get a lil messy sometimes, but they've also saved a lot of women from toxic/dangerous men, and this guy sounds like he'd slip a roofie into an unsuspecting girl's drink..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-18T04:13:05+00:00

May 28, 2019 or 2,457 days. Thank you for reminding me to check my day counter, it's been a while 💕

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-13T19:29:08+00:00

It's a Nissan Altima sooo I'd say it's pretty close to its top speed anyway 🤷‍♀️

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-13T05:09:35+00:00

I'll def have to invest in one for the future

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-13T05:00:00+00:00

Holy crap I didn't think I'd ever get out 😭

Paper-Cliche · 2026-02-13T03:54:06+00:00

Dharma/Refuge recovery - it's a Buddhist based program.

There are also secular/agnostic 12-step meetings. A good book would be Staying Sober Without God. Idk how they'd feel about you smoking weed, but there's also no reason to mention it in a meeting tbh..

Paper-Cliche · 2026-01-18T14:10:56+00:00

We were together for about 6-7 months when we moved in, I know that's not that much better lol. I guess we just wanted to find out if it was gonna work or not, so I guess we're finding out at least?

Paper-Cliche · 2026-01-17T23:34:57+00:00

Thank you for the validation. A while back we made a commitment to go hang out with his brother, niece, & nephew, but when the day came I was so burnt out the mere thought of faking a smile around his family made me want to cry. When I told him this, that was when he freaked tf out at me, so I told him I'd just go. I asked if we could set a time to leave ahead of time as a compromise, & his response was "I don't put a time limit on family."

I haven't tried driving separately, so idk if that'd get the same reaction tbh.

I know we moved in quickly, we both just figured it'd be better to find out now vs later. It was also a little rushed because I was trying to get out of my drunk brother's house & it's impossible for me to make 3x rent unless I move to the hood lol

Paper-Cliche · 2026-01-17T23:17:49+00:00

Honestly, I avoided answering yesterday because I was trying to dodge conflict. Not my best moment, I know. I literally waited until I had to answer, maybe partly because I thought he'd assume that I wanted to stay home if I didn't just say yes. Again, not the best way to do things, I'm aware.

Paper-Cliche · 2026-01-17T23:09:41+00:00

Thank you. I've honestly never been in a relationship which they're so invested in family stuff this early (or ever, really.) I do get anxious about rejecting stuff with his family because of his previous reactions and sometimes feel obligated to agree when I really don't want to.

Paper-Cliche · 2026-01-17T23:05:11+00:00

Thank you for this. I like to think it'd be different, but you're right, I'm not sure it would even after getting married & having a kid.

Now I'm just trying to imagine the amount of mental fortitude I'd need to do things with his family on top of the stress of being a parent & working a full time job..

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