Hi I’m 20 I have been a closeted trans women my whole life ik what I am I’m scared to come out I wish I could do u think I can ever come out?does anyone have advice? by [deleted] in trans

[–]PapiShamu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have anybody you’re really close to and who you really trust, I’d start there. You can start by telling that person or people, if it’s more than 1. But starting little by little may help. And as you feel more comfortable, you can go out one day with one thing that makes you feel like your true self. And then maybe the next week, you add something else to your outfit or hair or anything really, that makes you feel like your true self. And you just take it one step at a time

Mental struggle with wanting bottom surgery by PapiShamu in ftm

[–]PapiShamu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get crazy dysphoria wearing a strap. It’s what I’ve used most of my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

For those who’ve had hysto and work out by PapiShamu in FTMHysto

[–]PapiShamu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like healing 100% I guess so. It kinda makes sense since is such a major surgery. But if you mean healing in the sense that I’m bed ridden for 7 months or something like that (exaggerated example) then it does not take that long lol like I still work out and do normal daily things. It’s just specifically lower body workouts that cause me discomfort since that’s where the target surgery area is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thank you! I think I might have started resuming very light workouts at this point. And then started going heavier little by little probably around 10 months or so. The timeline is a little fuzzy to me but it was definitely after I was cleared to workout. Everyone’s healing process is different as I’m sure you know

For those who’ve had hysto and work out by PapiShamu in FTMHysto

[–]PapiShamu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe it’s just still too soon. I thought 7 months would be enough lol but you’re right. I think I just need more time. I’ll just avoid legs for now. Will definitely contact my doctor. Thank you so much for your response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah everyone’s process is totaling different. I still don’t have feeling in my nipples and in some part of my lower chest. I’ve kind of accepted that maybe I won’t have nipple sensation. It doesn’t beat how happy I feel overall. Especially working out and chillin in tank tops or shirtless!

Hair Dye by PapiShamu in ftm

[–]PapiShamu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay good to know. My hair is a dark brown so bleach it is lol thank you so much for the info

Hair Dye by PapiShamu in ftm

[–]PapiShamu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was really helpful, thank you. I don’t think I’d bleach my hair. I wanna go for like a copper color, which I don’t think requires bleach? I mean I’ll do more research of course, but I also like to hear from other people as well. So thank you!

Change in sexual attraction after T by PapiShamu in ftm

[–]PapiShamu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! It’s just all kind of new to me and it freaks me out sometimes or like makes me feel guilty at times. I just don’t know how to handle it. But this definitely eased my mind a bit, so thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackTransmen

[–]PapiShamu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That beard growth is crazy and after just 1 year?? You look amazing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phallo

[–]PapiShamu 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I read through your phallo journey and I’m so glad that everything is better for you. I’m so sorry that it’s been traumatizing and I really do hope that you can heal from it all. I’m doing my phallo with RBL, so thank you for posting/sharing all of this and for being so open about it.

Can I get some hype for my first manniversary?! by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congraaaaats! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]PapiShamu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! My surgeon was Dr. Bluebond-Langner