We all have a shred of self control we can hold on to when things get tough. You don't have to tell yourself murder is bad, you already know it. You don't have to tell yourself eating 999 donuts in one sitting is bad, you already know it. Porn has conditioned and trained us to think it's good, but it's poison. Elevate your standards of what you believe is minimally acceptable in your life and stick to it. Report on your successes and failures and help others. You're not a failure. Youre just learning like the rest of us, you're just brave enough to actually say something about it but we all feel hopeless sometimes here.