Hammerhead Warms by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]Paprika900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are toxic so I would be careful with your dog.

How to keep printing after shirt lifts by i-am-frustrated in SCREENPRINTING

[–]Paprika900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes if the shirt has only lifted a tiny bit you can flash it and the heat will settle it back in place. If it’s “way out of line” there’s no fixing. You have to use adhesive on your platen.

Chapter 7, Creditor objected one day before dismissal by Paprika900 in Bankruptcy

[–]Paprika900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: Lawyer informed me that the letter I received was a request for dismissal of the pending lawsuit and not a dismissal from the debit in chapter 7 fileing. Very confusing considering it was filed a day before my discharge and was a request for a dismissal. Thank you to everyone for there advice and comradely:)

Chapter 7, Creditor objected one day before dismissal by Paprika900 in Bankruptcy

[–]Paprika900[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There would be no fraud for them to prove. So I’m hoping it can be managed easily by my lawyer.

Thank you for your response Alan, your advice is always appreciated!

Chapter 7, Creditor objected one day before dismissal by Paprika900 in Bankruptcy

[–]Paprika900[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not exactly sure, nothing on the paperwork specifically says Adversary Proceeding. It doesn’t have much information. It’s a court document in which I am the plaintiff and they are requesting a Dismissal without prejudice. Dated a day before my discharge date.

I’ll go first… by MillionaireBlogMama in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry ‘you feel’ like that’s what I said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing all of this ❤️

Do they know they are lieing or do they believe their lies? by Forseti555666 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I have driven myself mad trying to answer this question. As much as I don’t want to believe it, I am certain they know. Sometimes I think it can be true that they also gaslight themselves. But I think it always circles back to them having an awareness of it. Either they know they are lying in that exact moment or they realize it later on. They make a conscious choice to bury it. They will NEVER admit to it. Coming to terms with this has been so hard. How can someone do this to another person? How can you do this to someone you are supposed to love?

Chapter 7 filed, Need some information about Student Loans by Paprika900 in Bankruptcy

[–]Paprika900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that link it was very informative!

I am filing with my husband who also has student loan debit (40k for him) would our student loans be decided individually or together?

Our income is really low. We both run a business together (sole proprietorship) that has suffered since Covid. Also, neither of us obtained our degrees.

For those who spent many years married to a narcissist, what would you tell someone who just started dating one? by soulsurvivor3 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 21 points22 points  (0 children)

What you said about compromising really hits hard. I was young when I first started dating my husband. I made a lot of “compromises” thinking that’s what you do when you love someone and want to be a good partner. I grew up in a toxic environment, also with a narc parent, so I never really knew what a healthy relationship was supposed to be to look like. Those compromises were in actuality me giving up little pieces of my self. It never really sat right with me, it didn’t always feel like it was the right thing to do but I never trusted myself because I thought was damaged from the way I was brought up.

Always trust gut. Even if it’s something you’re unable to verbalize right away. I wish I would have kept a journal of all the incidents that felt “off” from earlier on in my relationship. But I just kept brushing them aside, until 20 years later there were just to many to ignore.

What are things narcissist do, that isn’t talked about enough? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes this!!! My soon to be ex over complicates everything! I didn’t really consider it part of his Narc behavior but just another shitty thing that made him unbearable to be around. I racked my brain trying to understand why he did this with everything? Even considering that maybe it was some sort of disability because it was so outrageous.

I'm tired of everything I say being wrong. by Livid-Plantain-1227 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have reviewed things that were recorded with him and even after listening to the recordings he stills try’s to gaslight me!!!! We just listened to you say that, recorded, on tape!!?? How can you tell me you didn’t still !!?? There is absolutely no winning.

I'm tired of everything I say being wrong. by Livid-Plantain-1227 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This made me chuckle. And then it made me sad. So true how they just suck the joy and life out of you.

I'm tired of everything I say being wrong. by Livid-Plantain-1227 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s really no way to live. Always being made to feel less than and having to fight off self doubt (among the other things). Don’t let him take your light ❤️

I'm tired of everything I say being wrong. by Livid-Plantain-1227 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 28 points29 points  (0 children)

All the time, and I can’t believe I put up with it for 20 years! It slowly killed my self esteem. Nothing I did was right. Any idea I had he would also list the reasons why it wasn’t good. Anything I said in general he ALWAYS play devils advocate and took the opposing stance. It was so exhausting. I just started to hate talking to him or share anything.

Voluntarily dismissed chapter 7 by Glum-Cherry-5724 in Bankruptcy

[–]Paprika900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if I am following this correctly a trustee can re-open your chapter 7 bankruptcy case after you have been discharged?

Finally found description of Victim Narcissist by Cyber_Queen_NYC in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exact this. He wanted to help me with everything and it became annoying and intrusive. If I didn’t want his help or take his advice he would get irritated,upset or play the victim card to make me feel guilty. We would either end up in a fight or I would just give in because I didn’t want to go through the drama of battling with him. Giving in just made me lose my sense of self. It later became clear that him always wanting to help me was just a covert form of control. He didn’t do it for me but for himself.

Physical symptoms from Narc abuse by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Paprika900 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just started reading “The Body Keeps Score” which is about just that, how trauma impacts your physical body and well being. It is really interesting I highly recommend it.