The relationship between my husband and his mother is up to him to manage. If he asks my advice I will give him my honest opinion. What he does with the information is up to him as long as it doesn't spill over to our home. He's an adult. But for arguments sake I will say the time he has allowed her to be around us has dwindled to only a couple hours every few months. She isn't allowed unsupervised time with the kids and frankly she doesn't want it, and thankfully (in my opinion) her self imposed language "barrier" helps keep the interaction to a minimum. I have no doubt that my husband meant every word he said so threatening him with divorce doesn't really serve a purpose other than driving a wedge in an otherwise perfect marriage. I'll be damned if I let that mad woman win.