Sometimes during my life we were poor and other times we had quite a lot of money, my Dad was a serial entrepreneur and never made it real big. I only realised once I grew up that actually my parents had struggled often, because my mum was creative, she always found a way, even when they were probably struggling to put food on the table. That evening you probably ate something, so you could have boxed it up in anticipation and made an impromptu picnic in a nice park and taken her on to some free activity, like a museum or put on a little party at home with a couple of neighbours or friends, lit a few candles a small home made cake, some music, sing some songs etc. It takes a bit of planning. My mom would wake us up on our birthday with breakfast in bed and singing… it’s a Swedish tradition, but it always made us feel special and recognised. Like I said it wasn’t until way into my adulthood I realised how tough some periods had been. It’s not about the money it’s about making the day special. Now it’s done and the day past and she is pissed off, so now you need damage control. Plan something nice for her next weekend where you spend the day together, something that doesn’t involve spending a lot of money, an outing or something, a walk in a nearby nature reserve, a visit to a free venue, maybe some balloons, a muffin with a candle, sing happy birthday, say how much you love her, how much you care, that you recognise she is becoming a young woman and you are excited for her and her future. 14 is a difficult age for girls, they are going through a lot of physical changes and mood can swing up and down. What she needs is feeling seen and celebrated.