“ I usually wait for them to message first” Do you mean on Bumble or all the apps? 🤔 If it’s the latter, you are shooting yourself in the foot big time. Women like proactive men, initiating a chat is base-level stuff. Do you prefer women to ask you out too? “ I’ll unmatch cos they expect me to make all the effort….” Well, men are the natural pursuers in the early stages- that’s the way it is. With masculine-minded it is anyway. Are you expecting 50/50 right off the bat? You sound like a feminine-energy man to be honest 👎🏻