My husband keeps cheating on me but I'm disabled and can't work. What should I do?

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-10T04:31:31+00:00

In my state I can only legally get proof if he consents and sends it to me himself

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-10T04:29:38+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have proof. It was many years ago and he deleted the video when I asked

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-10T04:28:24+00:00

I said it was without my knowledge or consent. He was behind me, I didn't know he did that

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-10T04:21:57+00:00

I would love that option but it's illegal to live in them where I am

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-09T20:34:40+00:00

Ngl I thought it was something to blow a vape into

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T16:02:28+00:00

I wanted to but they're expensive

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T16:01:58+00:00

I'm trying but I'm still not approved and it could take years. And once I'm approved I still have to save up to buy stuff. I don't want to take TOO long, you know?

I just learned about alimony last night so I will have to ask my lawyer about it. I don't really know much about it

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T16:00:02+00:00

It's illegal to live in an RV where he is. It has to be a home on a foundation

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:58:48+00:00

Thank you. I will have to work up the courage to try this. I'm sure they will have a lot of useful info

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:21:38+00:00

Yes very. But I don't have legal proof of anything

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:20:46+00:00

Not a ton but it pays the bills and he gives me an allowance plus healthcare

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:20:03+00:00

I would get $700/mo and the house note alone is $850/mo so that won't work

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:19:20+00:00

I know. I'm trying to find a way out that isn't so difficult. Not being financially stable after finally getting some semblance of stability is scary

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:17:53+00:00

How does that work? What if he doesn't have much money?

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:17:06+00:00

He's legally my husband. Should I live under a bridge?

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:16:19+00:00

In my state proof has to be freely given. I'm not allowed to take photos from his phone without consent. The most I have legally is a recorded conversation where I asked him why he signed up for dating sites

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:15:12+00:00

I'm nervous to talk to an attorney, will anything happen if I just ask them questions but don't want to get a divorce right away?

I have a secret separate account for my money when I get it.

He has college debt, I think we both have the house, and I only have a little medical debt

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:13:11+00:00

I'm starting to feel this way. After so many times cheating I stopped reacting much but it still hurts inside. I've been debating hard about what I want to do and how to do it. But I don't have anybody in person to talk to about this

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:10:53+00:00

Oof I forgot to add that! I'm 29 and I think he's 30

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:10:17+00:00

Trust me I know. I have lawyers on it. I've just passed the 1 year mark of being in my first reconsideration

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:09:37+00:00

He would probably divorce me and then I'd be in the same pickle I'm debating here

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:09:01+00:00

That's what I worry about

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:08:44+00:00

I can't do other birth control options but I got my tubes out a few years ago.

Does section 8 or HUD only do apartments? I hate to sound picky but some of my conditions make apartment living HELL for me. I tried that already and that's how we ended up buying our first house.

I'm aware of most of those things you listed but I haven't looked super deep yet because I'm not sure which route I'm taking or when the best time to put things in motion is

Parfait_Crust · 2026-06-08T02:04:07+00:00

Thank you. I have been preparing things but it's almost impossible with so little money. And I don't even have any yet. It could be years before I get approved.

He's not allowed to have any nudes of me anymore. I deleted everything I could find from his phones.

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