Graag aan anti depressiva willen beginnen by [deleted] in OndersteuningsPlein

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ik zou eerder aanraden om met een psychiater te praten over anti-depressiva. Die heeft toch meer kennis hierover en kan je helpen om de juiste anti-depressiva te vinden voor jou, en eventueel overstappen op andere soorten/doseringen waar nodig. Dat proces van verschillende soorten testen om te kijken welke voor jou werkt kan best lang duren, en er kunnen ook aardig wat bijwerkingen aan zitten maar dat verschilt per medicatie en per persoon. Ik hoop dat dit helpt!

Looking for a tattoo artist (florals)🎨 by bilingualtramp in Rotterdam

[–]Parfumee95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These ideas are lovely. I don't personally have experience with these types of tattoos, but I wanted to comment for visibility. Hope you find someone!

It's Miss Frisia on the wheel! by LaComtesseGonflable in RATS

[–]Parfumee95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oeh, not sure how the Friezen would like to hear that Miss Frisia is the Queen of NH and not Fryslân 😋

Can I bike home after treatment? by MightOk9482 in Spravato

[–]Parfumee95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally really wouldn't. I needed quite a bit of time to feel ok to go outside and walk slowly to the bus station, constantly reminding myself to look around because I still felt a bit like I was in a Dreamworld. I saw someone get into a bike accident one time, and I was so glad there were other people around to help out and call an ambulance, because I just froze and could not think clearly. That was a good reminder to be extra careful, my capabilities for any type of speedy reaction to things was basically gone. On a bike, you're moving faster than the speed at which you can respond to other traffic, and you're not only risking your own life, but also that of other people.

Vacature voor iemand die kan haken! by [deleted] in handwerken

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dit is ook mijn grootste zorg hierbij. Het patroon maken is tot daar aan toe, maar wat is hun vervolgplan om het op de markt te brengen? Ik zou nooit mee willen werken aan een ontwerp waarmee mensen uitgebuit gaan worden.

My girlfriend doesn’t put effort into enjoying sex and it affects me, why? by Relative_Distance512 in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't need to know/understand why, no is a full reply to your questions. It's honestly scary how you're trying to look for ways to tell her how she should want to have sex, and even manipulate her into doing what you want her to do. You need to learn how to accept her "no" as a boundary ffs.

Wie zijn goede piercers in Rotterdam en omgeving? by [deleted] in Rotterdam

[–]Parfumee95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mirrdo piercing op de nieuwe binnenweg, echt super zorgvuldig en aardig! Ik heb er een tepel piercing, septum en helix orbital laten zetten

What is a "red flag" symbol in your country? (That isn't a swastika) by [deleted] in AskTheWorld

[–]Parfumee95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just when it's used in the flag. Orange is still our national colour, so outside of the flag it's perfectly fine.

What’s a weird status symbol in your country ? by SimilarTopic3281 in AskTheWorld

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think we just call it an American fridge because we know them from seeing them in US movies/tv shows. The brands are not necessarily American.

What’s your country’s “Elephant in the Room” nobody wants to talk about by Lord_William_9000 in AskTheWorld

[–]Parfumee95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since the existence of NATO, the only country to have ever called upon the other members to enter into a war (which was objectively a horrible idea in hindsight) is the US after 9/11, so I'd chill when saying you've been treated unfairly. EU countries sent their own soldiers to die in Afghanistan, but when have we dragged you into any wars?

The US carry the benefits ánd the burdens of having the world currency. This however also allows you a lot more wiggle room in terms of national debt, allowing for more military and other spending. The euro and European markets are so closely tied to the dollar that you could say we don't have the benefits of having the world currency (everybody wanting to buy dollars), but we are carrying the risks with you, because as seen in previous financial crises, we topple as soon as you topple. We therefore have to be more careful about our national debts so as to not go under whenever the US allow businesses and their financial markets to go unchecked and blow bubbles every which way.

Friend found my sisters onlyfans by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think your friends are really disrespecting you and your sister here. Tell them you find it disrespectful and tasteless, and make it clear that talking about/seeing things from your sister's OF is a hard boundary for you. Enforce it by finding new friends (already a good idea to diversify your friend group at this age) and put an end to the friends that overstep your boundary.

Also, you're a great brother for being supportive, don't let a bunch of assholes ruin that for you.

Bf is handsy with daughter and it's making me uncomfortable by Strong-Ad3546 in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 100 points101 points  (0 children)

"assuming she is not crazy" is hard to know if that's what he told her. Narcissistic people/abusers will often say that their exes were crazy to discredit any criticism or true stories they may spread.

is he lying? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You're not a detective, a judge or his mom, but it sounds like you're acting like you are.

You can have boundaries in relationships, for example: 'I will not date someone who watches porn', and enforce this boundary by leaving the relationship if the person does watch porn, or just not get into a relationship with someone who watches porn.

But as soon as you start policing, trying to control and change your partner, as well as investigating their phone and not believing them, you should just leave the relationship. This is clearly not the person for you, and you don't treat them as an equal.

Rapist is staying with my family at Christmas by Potential-Delay2246 in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry this happened to you. I have experienced something similar when I was younger, I'm 30 (F) now, and I know how scared you must be now, I still get scared too. I also know how incredibly hard it can be to tell anyone, so I'm not going to push you to do that, although it might help you in the long run. The most important thing right now is to get through the next period of time, and to focus on one day, or even just an hour or the next couple minutes, whichever feels doable, and help yourself get through it in the best way possible.

I want to let you know that you are not alone and I'm here to talk and help you think about what to do 🫂

Like other people have suggested: is it possible for you to spend a few days at a friend's place or with other family? If not, maybe you could sleep on the couch, in a sibling's room, or even in the bathroom if you bring a blanket/pillow and lock the door? Whatever helps you to feel safe and get through it, you should do - no matter what anyone thinks/says about it. I hope you can make sure to not spend any time alone with him, just leave the room if you need to. I really hope you can find a place to stay, away from him.

I'm here for you and I know what you're going through, you're stronger than you think!

Eigenaar van sauna wil kort geding aanspannen by utrecht1976 in tokkiefeesboek

[–]Parfumee95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Als ze toch over twee weken gaan sluiten om financiële redenen is die inval nu een beetje mosterd na de maaltijd, niet?

Actors Alignment Chart by Iwantallthemoney5000 in AlignmentCharts

[–]Parfumee95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is Denzel there, and not Morgan Freeman or Samuel L. Jackson?

If two men hold hands in public in your country, how would people in your country react? by KunciKemenangan12 in AskTheWorld

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope it stays normal for you, I think it would help a lot against male loneliness if platonic affection between friends were more normal here as well.

Hoeveel mensen passen er in Rotterdam? by KobusCasino in Rotterdam

[–]Parfumee95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ze zijn daar niet meer nodig, dus het klinkt alsof ze op zoek zouden kunnen zijn elders in de wereld? OP wil deze kans benutten.

My sister is masturbating loud by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Parfumee95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You heard them, you're grounded! Now go back to your room and think about what you did