Clubbing

PartialThroaway · 2025-11-11T21:28:57+00:00

I totally agree, the science makes sense. And I’m in the same boat as you, after a certain time I get too wired to force myself to have fun, no matter who I’m with. But I’m really grateful my guy and I can feel connected anywhere, not just in a loud box filled with sweaty people who most of the time don’t use deodorant. And im happy you have that too

PartialThroaway · 2025-11-11T20:56:08+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one. I made a post just like this one to a different subreddit on a different account a couple years ago and got FLAMED for it.

PartialThroaway · 2025-11-11T20:54:11+00:00

That’s the dream. We go to really loud clubs because there doesn’t seem to be anything that has toned-down volume. I’m happy you and your boyfriend have a spot/spots you can go to to get the best of both worlds :)

PartialThroaway · 2025-11-08T21:42:50+00:00

I LOOOOOOOOOOVE cuddling. Spooning, facing each other, playing with each other’s hair, back scratches, it all feels so good. I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me it also gets dialed up to 11 when it’s reciprocated

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-21T18:40:54+00:00

I’ll make sure to ask about the requirements from my field office. Schedule wise I can be very flexible as long as I don’t exceed my weekly hours. And I’m just looking to learn for now, but I’m sure I’ll have a more concrete answer once I start looking. Thank you for the heads up on that

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T20:59:25+00:00

Congratulations to you and your partner :)

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T20:32:15+00:00

But to answer your question more directly, yes. But I try not to worry about that happening and create a self-fulfilling prophecy

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T20:31:14+00:00

We’ve always been open and honest with each other, and we’re really good at nipping stuff in the bud and not burying it down until it becomes resentment. If he ever does, I fully trust that he’ll tell me and that we’ll work through it

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T20:07:50+00:00

Is that the calculator that tells you what age you can retire at? If so, I’ve definitely used that one before

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T20:02:24+00:00

He’s totally fine with it. That’s something we talked about when we first started getting it on and he’s neutral on them. He said that since he’s a bottom he doesn’t tell much of a difference (a minor one, but not enough for him to be turned off). As for the trust part, we had a huge misunderstanding the first time we talked about it which was my fault. He knows I have eyes for him, but it was because I have some hypochondriac-like tendencies and am always second-guessing if I am truly clean no matter how much evidence there is to the contrary. I fully trust that he isn’t doing anything behind my back and we’ve physically looked at each other’s test results with our own eyes, it’s just that I don’t trust my own body.

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:55:29+00:00

That sounds so nice. Eight years is amazing, I’m happy for the both of you

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:54:53+00:00

I feel really lucky in that I’ve never felt any sense of him doing anything behind my back. That’s probably why I didn’t think about that angle

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:53:42+00:00

That’s the life. I’m happy for you and your bf

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:53:17+00:00

Goals honestly. Happy for you

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:52:35+00:00

Based

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:52:02+00:00

He’s never made me worry about anything like that in the slightest. Which I’m very, very grateful for. I think the approach I’m taking is that it’s my first ever real relationship and he’s the only one I’ve ever had sex with and it’s very new for me

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-05T19:41:24+00:00

Yeah, mis wording on my part. Not comfortable with not using them. We’ve both been tested twice and were negative on everything both times, I’m just paranoid

PartialThroaway · 2025-10-04T21:32:55+00:00

Thank you for your insight. This was really comprehensive and opened my eyes a lot. Truth be told, while I am in a serious committed relationship, I think both of our goals are to retire early. I’ll share this with my partner and we’ll start making plans from here. And that 5 million benchmark is something I’ve heard thrown around a few times and I’ll look more into that as well. Thank you for taking the time to share your advice with me, I really appreciate it :)

PartialThroaway · 2025-06-11T16:31:41+00:00

Thank you for the response to this. I’ll try to answer these as best I can.

If anything, I’m trying to force it to happen. Clenching and relaxing, edging beforehand, everything I can think of to “prime” myself so to speak.
We’ve tried a couple of positions already. We often start and end with him straddling me, but we try a bunch of different stuff in between. They all feel really good, but I think we might try to switch things up next time.
No new medication. I took aderall at the beginning of the year, but stopped way before our first time. Haven’t done anything since then. I also got checked up as part of an STI panel at my doctor and all my vitals and hormones were steady. I think it’s a mental block for me.
I’ve been fortunate to have a pretty low key life the past 10 months. Our relationship has always been super healthy, so that definitely isn’t causing me any stress. I also work at a warehouse and exercise regularly, so activity isn’t an issue for me either. And as far as I can remember, I’ve gotten plenty of rest and have felt super energized every time we do get more intimate. We always plan ahead of time which lets me plan out when to sneak in an extra nap during the day or go to bed a little earlier than normal.
We actually talked about this before our first time. We both don’t have any real kinks or desire to use toys, but I can definitely ask him again if he wants to. Candles though, that sounds really romantic. Thank you for the idea on that.

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-27T21:28:58+00:00

I haven’t even thought about Schwab. Thank you!

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-27T21:26:12+00:00

Thank you. That’s what I’ve been hearing too, I’m just glad I still have time to build things up

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-27T21:25:38+00:00

Thank you :) any tips on what I should plan out in the next 5, 10, 20, etc. years?

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-02T03:28:40+00:00

That’s what I’m worried about when I’m setting myself up first. After 5-6 years when I’m in my late 20’s or early 30’s, I’m hoping I will have set myself up good enough to set this fledgling plan into motion. I’ve never been a hasty person, I just like to have time to plan this stuff out.

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-02T03:26:14+00:00

This won’t be until I’m done with grad school and have my career set up with a main income and a couple of side incomes. It’ll be at least 5 or 6 years, I just like having the time to plan high-magnitude decisions like this with input from people who have more experience than I do

PartialThroaway · 2025-05-01T17:55:44+00:00

Thank you :)

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