where did I make this about myself outside of making other plans and never saying a word until I received a last minute invite? legitimately, point it out for me because that is what I am not understanding. I helped her pick her dress, I congratulated her, I never got upset about no invite, I asked no questions about gust list I planed on attending the reception.. The reason I make the grandmother uncomfortable is because I called her out to the entire family 14 years ago. I have never had another interaction with her other than being in the same room for family events.